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Nothing much to say really.......
I'm a guy, i like food and anime and.......
uhhhhhh.... what else do I like?.......
O yeah!!! sleeping! I like sleeping!
E-mail: sanwookong@yahoo.com
Gender: Male
Location: Not relevant
Occupation: NEET:) lol
AIM: sanwookong
Yahoo: sanwookong
MSN: sanwookong@live.com
Member Since: June 30, 2008
Answers: 7
Last Update: July 1, 2008
Visitors: 1115
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I am a 20years old female and come from a very religious family who believes that sex before marriage is a sin. All the women in my family were virgins until their wedding nights and the same is thought of me. My family is unaware that in my mid teen years I had been sexually active. I have not had sex in a while. I met this incredible guy who I love dearly and am serious about, and I want to have sex with.
I am deathly afraid of getting caught.
I can not decide between my family's happiness or my own. I feel like choosing my own would be selfish.
I have two scenarios. Either I have sex with the guy I deeply love, behind my family's back and their morals, and just pray I don't get caught
or pregnant.
Or I don't have sex with him in order to please my family's beliefs, and live the rest of my life heartbroken that I lost my love.
Please give me your honest opinion on what I should do. THANK YOU SO MUCH.
Also if you have time I have one more question. I've been on Lutera for almost 2months. I would like to know how effective birth control pills are if taken everyday at the same time? And do you know anyone who conceived a child while using birth control pills and were using them correctly as directed? (link)
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Based on what you've said here, I think you already know the answer to what's bothering you right now. You said that you have been sexually active in your mid teens. So i don't think you're worried about fulfilling your family's wishes since you've already broken them.
I think what you're really worried about is being caught. Look, if you really LOVE this guy then I don't think your family is in any position to forbid you to do what you want as long you take responsibility in what you do.
I know that what I've said might might have been offending, but I am only giving my opinion based on the facts that I have read here. I have no right judge other people that I don't personally know, but what I have given here is only an opinion based on given facts, so if I offended you in any way at all, I am sorry.
Oh yeah, about the birth control thing.
Pills, if taken as prescribed or as directed, has an efficiency rate of 99.8%
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At the beginning of this past year, I really got into drawing. I don't know why, but it started with random doodles and ended with some pretty good realistic and some cartoons. My dad said I have a talent, but I didn't think so. Eventually, I just ran out of inspiration and started drawing crappy again :[ I'm confused, how did I go from talent to no talent so quickly? And now I want to start drawing again, but it's so bad it's discouraging. It's like some part of me WANTS to draw, but the rest of me doesn't... how can I make myself love drawing again? I just don't know... (link)
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Everyone has, what I call, "genius moments", where one seems to have so great of an inspiration that one actually suddenly becomes good at something. Even I have those moments every now and then.
The key to opening these moments is to find out what inspires you the most. You "lost your talent" probably because you got bored or probably you have lost what I call "the artist's inspiration". Try relaxing your mind and think of the things that you like to draw the most. After doing this for a while get a sheet of paper and start drawing whatever it is that comes to your mind. I do this trick often whenever I feel that I've lost interest in drawing or if I just can seem to find any ideas on what to draw. (specially if a deadline is due)
Or try this one, whenever I get mentally blocked,
I watch some anime on the net, that usually gives me some ideas, I don't know if this will work for you but its well worth trying.
Oh, and i also find it helpful to see some other people's artwork. It always seems to inspire me to be a better artist. If you want to see other people's work you can visit deviantart.com just to get you inspired.
Hope this helps...
Good luck on your drawing career
Contact me when you get better
Maybe we can do a collab.......
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i have this state of mind that makes me view and act differently against myself. like i feel like i'm an awkard, less than adult, not special, not my best, and anxious. i want to be myself and my best but because i was hurt in the past, i can't get past what i feel and i feel incompetent to doing things. i set myself up for failure. is there anyway i can stop thinking in this kind of way? (link)
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Just what was it that hurt you in the past?
Remember that dwelling on the past wont get you anywhere. I'm not saying that you should forget the past, that's impossible. All I'm saying is that you should try and move on and view that experience in the past as a lesson learned. You can't change what has already happened, but you can do something now to make up for past mistakes. Be the best that you can be now and show your past self that you are the best that you can be, that you're not the anxious, awkward person that you think you are. That you arev more of an adult than you think you are, and that you are, INDEED A SPECIAL PERSON.
If that didn't change your way of thinking then try this.
Whenever your feeling inadequate or your feeling that your incompetent, look at the person that is nearest to you. Start looking for his/her inadequacies.(For example, hey this guy"s/Gal's hair looks like Donald Trump's or this gal"s handwriting is borderline unreadable)Keep these thoughts in your head for about 2 minutes then tell yourself that your better than this guy/gal.
I think that you'll find that you'll have more confidence in yourself than before.
And always remember to talk to your loved one's, especially to your family, because they'll always know what's best for you since they're the ones who are closest to you.
Hope this helps.
Good luck!!!
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i have this state of mind that makes me view and act differently against myself. like i feel like i'm an awkard, less than adult, not special, not my best, and anxious. i want to be myself and my best but because i was hurt in the past, i can't get past what i feel and i feel incompetent to doing things. i set myself up for failure. is there anyway i can stop thinking in this kind of way? (link)
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Just what was it that hurt you in the past?
Remember that dwelling on the past wont get you anywhere. I'm not saying that you should forget the past, that's impossible. All I'm saying is that you should try and move on and view that experience in the past as a lesson learned. You can't change what has already happened, but you can do something now to make up for past mistakes. Be the best that you can be now and show your past self that you are the best that you can be, that you're not the anxious, awkward person that you think you are. That you arev more of an adult than you think you are, and that you are, INDEED A SPECIAL PERSON.
If that didn't change your way of thinking then try this.
Whenever your feeling inadequate or your feeling that your incompetent, look at the person that is nearest to you. Start looking for his/her inadequacies.(For example, hey this guy"s/Gal's hair looks like Donald Trump's or this gal"s handwriting is borderline unreadable)Keep these thoughts in your head for about 2 minutes then tell yourself that your better than this guy/gal.
I think that you'll find that you'll have more confidence in yourself than before.
And always remember to talk to your loved one's, especially to your family, because they'll always know what's best for you since they're the ones who are closest to you.
Hope this helps.
Good luck!!!
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i have this state of mind that makes me view and act differently against myself. like i feel like i'm an awkard, less than adult, not special, not my best, and anxious. i want to be myself and my best but because i was hurt in the past, i can't get past what i feel and i feel incompetent to doing things. i set myself up for failure. is there anyway i can stop thinking in this kind of way? (link)
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Just what was it that hurt you in the past?
Remember that dwelling on the past wont get you anywhere. I'm not saying that you should forget the past, that's impossible. All I'm saying is that you should try and move on and view that experience in the past as a lesson learned. You can't change what has already happened, but you can do something now to make up for past mistakes. Be the best that you can be now and show your past self that you are the best that you can be, that you're not the anxious, awkward person that you think you are. That you arev more of an adult than you think you are, and that you are, INDEED A SPECIAL PERSON.
If that didn't change your way of thinking then try this.
Whenever your feeling inadequate or your feeling that your incompetent, look at the person that is nearest to you. Start looking for his/her inadequacies.(For example, hey this guy"s/Gal's hair looks like Donald Trump's or this gal"s handwriting is borderline unreadable)Keep these thoughts in your head for about 2 minutes then tell yourself that your better than this guy/gal.
I think that you'll find that you'll have more confidence in yourself than before.
And always remember to talk to your loved one's, especially to your family, because they'll always know what's best for you since they're the ones who are closest to you.
Hope this helps.
Good luck!!!
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I really really like this guy at school but I am too shy to talk to him and I don't think he's too good for me anyway...
But anyway, that isn't the problem, one of his friends who is in one of my classes at school has just started talking to me, and I can tell he likes me, I also have always caught him looking at me before he started talking to me. He has only started talking to me within the past week and its very frequent. I would really like to get to know him as a friend because he sounds like a lot of fun and he is really funny but the thing is I can't do it without leading him on. I don't know him well enough to tell him this yet. I don't want to embarrass him by telling him anyway. But I really like his friend so what should I do? (link)
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The truth hurts.
Telling someone the truth also hurts.
I know it's difficult but there is a way to tell him that you only want to be friends and still keep the hurt to a minimum (it's impossible to do this without hurting him). You said that you like another guy, try openly expressing your feeling for that guy whenever the guy that you want to be just friends with is around. But you should still keep talking to him the way that you do normally. This way you will show him that you would still want to be friends with him and still give him the idea that that's all that it is, friendship.
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This guy and i work together. Im 18, he's 20.
We kinda had our first date and that was going downtown and going to a movie after getting to know each other after a while talking downtown.
We still dont know each other too much. He said he had a good time and gave me a kiss on the head before leaving. We both had a good time from what i know.
I asked him to hang out tomorrow, but what should we do? I think ill have to decide bc i asked him to hang out. I dont want him to spend too much money because he will spend money all because he's the guy.
I was thinking just going to the park, him and I. Just hanging out and getting to know each other more or just spending time together but I dont want it to be boring at all! How do I or would I keep the date entertaining at a park?
I guess I just need some ideas on making this date as good as the other one so he knows that I'd like to see more of them. Also I just want us both to enjoy ourself but our date will probably be at 6 in the afternoon also if that makes a difference.
Thanks for your help! (link)
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Why don't you try cooking for him?
I know its cliche but it is a fact that tah way to a guy's heart is through his stomach. And besides, guys like that stuff.
If you don't want to (or can't) cook and your worried about him losing money then try and be creative. It just doesn't have to be a walk in the park. If he likes sports then why not ask him to play badminton, volleyball or even basketball with you. If he likes reading then a date in the library wouldn't be a bad idea as long as you can get to know each other a bit more.
Hope this helps.
Good luck!!!
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Well, I was always the girl who loved school. I had a lot of friends and always had something to do. I had this best friend and me and her was with eachother 24/7. She was like my sister. Well things happened and we kind of drifted apart. She started talking mad crap about me, and made the entire school hate me & want to fight me. I didn't do anything wrong to her. She just got a little jealous when I started dating my boyfriend. Now she keeps sending me threatening e-mails and I don't know what to do about this. I've ignored her, and tried to forget about it but she just won't let it go. It's getting ridiculous. Please any advice besides telling someone or turning her in. (link)
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You said you didn't want to tell someone about this, well I think there's something wrong with that since posting this question on this site is kinda like telling someone about it, right?
Well if what you mean to say is not to tell anyone close to you then there's nothing really wrong with that. You just have to consider the fact that the people closest to you sometimes gives the best advice that you can ever find.
Now about your friend, you said that you tried to ignore her and just let everything blow over, i think this is a mistake. You should have tried communicating with her. Ask her what happened. Why she got mad and why she's doing the stuff she's doing to you now. Communication is the best key in resolving fights.
Now how are you going to do this you ask?
Well, I can tell you a few things that you can do but I guess the best thing to do right now is to talk to your friend personally, with just the two of you, preferably in a place where you used to go to a lot together. This way the two of you will be much more comfortable talking to each other.
If you're not comfortable in doing this sort of thing then here's another advice that I can give you. You said that she was sending you threatening e-mails, is she still doing this?
If so then try replying to that e-mail by saying that you want to why she's doing this. This way you can avoid a physical confrontation (if you're afraid of one) and still find out what happened wrong and reconcile your differences.
I hope this helps you in your problem.
Good luck!!!
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