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cant figure him out
17,f
I've been with my bf for a month and 8 days.
Hes nice, and very honest, and he treats me well, but sometimes hes weird and I cant figure him out. see if maybe you guys can...
the reason I say hes weird is that every time we talk on the phone, we end up not saying anything after a while, and just being on the phone doing different things without talking. sometimes i forget hes there altogether. and i hate that. but everytime i ask him what hes doing or thinking he always either says nothing or that hes thinking about me. I get the impression that hes not really listening to me and that he is either thinking dirty and doesn't wanna tell me, or hes not listening to me... And at one point, everything I told him hed answer with yes...
are you tired? yes
do you want me to let you go sleep? yes
am i going to see you tomorrow? yes
what do you wanna do? yes
what? yes
can you say anything else but yes? yes
say something else! something else
he was trying to be funny i guess so i said:
okay i think you should sleep, ill call you tomorrow morning.
Him: "not really"
Me: what do you mean?
Him: never mind
Me: what? why are you being so weird
Him: IM being weird?
and basically thats how our conversations are sometimes on the phone, he doesnt make much sense and ends up annoying me to the point where im like okay goodbye. then he gets mad at me???
i dont get it! can someone help me out? if i try to hang up he wont let me and says he wants to talk, but then he doesnt and when i try to he doesnt seem to listen and then when i ask him why he isnt talking he gets mad and shit. wtf???? can someone please explain?
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Well sounds like he may be shy. I know as a guy I used to do that to. I am a shy kinda guy to when it comes to girls that I like. Or he may not know how to talk to girls at all. You would be surprised the only thing you can do is just go with the flow. Try to start a converstation that you both have in common. Like music or TV or school. That may also be something you guy's don't ever talk about something interesting to him or to you. So be patient and just try to talk to him about something you both like.
Good Luck!
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Well... unfortunately that second convo you posted sounds like me, lol but only when something is bothering me... It's possible that he feels the same as you do because you do other things and forget he's there, then you try to get off the phone and maybe THAT's what is bothering him.. But it can also be that he is that type of person who can't talk on the phone with his girl, has to be in person where it's more hands on and random things happen. Sometimes, guys AND girls can talk for hours with their friends, but not their boyfriend. Don't fret hun, i suggest talking to him though... Ask him why he doesn't talk much on the phone... If you ask nicely i doubt he'd take it offensively.. communication literally is the key, so you must tell him your likes.. dislikes... turn on and offs... and vice versa... You guys should just sit down and talk to eachother in person..
Now.. there's a problem if he can't talk in person lol. Good luck!!! Hope I helped.
-Uniq =]
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He could be someone who dislikes talking on the phone, so it ends up being awkward for him and he doesn't know what to say, so he just doesn't talk. And when he keeps saying yes, maybe he's just trying to pass the time or get you mad so he doesn't have to be on the phone anymore.
He could just be someone that likes to IM or talk in person. Just ask him.
If that isn't it, then you guys probably don't have much in common & it's just going to get worse until you find some common ground.
Some couples just aren't meant to be.
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I think the reason these convos seem awkward may be because they are. Do you guys have stuff in common? If not then this is how the relationship will be, but if you do, instead of always talking on the phone go out and do it. IF he likes bowling and current events, then go bowling together and talk about the North Korea crisis or the pirates stealing American ships. There are tons of stuff out there to talk about, see what his interests are and show an interest in them, that may reduce the awkwardness.
Good luck. Sometimes people dont listen because they are thinking of something really important, but if he acts weird like this all the time then try what i said and do something fun, maybe he is shy around you and needs to open up. Give it a chance
Good luck, it will work out just fine :)
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