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I've been very deppressed ever since my best friend died!
my best friend died on father's day which was about 2 months ago she was only f18 at the time and iam 20 years old and I have been actring different ever since the death my best friend that i've been friends with ever since 5th grade and I donk't understand why Gabby had to die so young. I've already tried to commit suicide twice since it happened it's just that I feel nobody loves me becouse I was molested when I was 3and then my parent's divorced after that becouse my mom found out what my dad did to me, and then my dad died when I was 12, then my granny died when I was 17 and then my cousin who I was very close to got mad at me and won't talk to me anymore and now my best friend that have been friends with since 5th grade dies I just don't feel loved at all please help me.
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First off, I'm very sorry for your loss. It's very hard to deal with a close friend dying. However, the fact that you've made it this far says a lot. You're strong - even when you feel you're at your weakest.
Have you thought about seeking therapy? Maybe talking to someone about this will help you. You've been through a lot, and while seeking professional help won't fix the things that have happened, it'll make you see everything more clearly, and it'll help you come to terms with it all.
Death is never easy, but it's bound to happen. At least you know that your friend is in a better place, and that she's happy and doesn't have to suffer anymore.
I'm also very sorry to hear about your sexual abuse. It is not a hard thing to live with because you often feel like the abuse was your fault or that you deserved it. It's not your fault, and you didn't deserve it. Therapy will also help with this. I'm sure your cousin will talk to you in time. Give he/she time to calm down & they will eventually see eye to eye so that the problem can be fixed. :)
I really hope you seek professional help. I really think it'll help you come to terms with everything. Depression can go away, but you need to be willing to get help for yourself. Take care of yourself.
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You have had some real shocks. It is not surprising you feel depressed.
Becoming "undepressed" is a process. It takes time. What do you enjoy? What did you enjoy in the past? Maybe start there on your healing.
Life often seems to run in cycles. Sometimes, it seems almost too much to bear. Other times, your heart will be filled with abundance.
You may feel unloved; but that does not mean you are unlovable. You will find out. Stay open, even when it hurts. There is always something to learn, something that will help you grow. You are not unlovable, and no one has deserted you. They died, and it had nothing to do with you.
You might consider prescription medication, just to get through the rough spot you have hit. Talk to your doctor.
Perhaps exercise would be helpful. Booze and streets drugs will not help. Walks under the open night sky, away from city lights, where you can see the grand sweep of the universe is helpful in gaining some perspective. Maybe you will see how lucky we are even to be part of such a glorious place.
There is an old Indian story about life and death. When the Creator sends you to earth, he puts pebbles in your hand and folds your fingers around them. For some, there are many, for others, only a few. No one knows how many he or she was given. These are your days in this life.
Perhaps there were only a few because that's all a person needed to learn the lessons of this life. For others, there are many, not necessarily because they are better people, but because the lessons of this life required more time.
What your dad did was a bad thing. But that doesn't make you are a bad person. You were a victim, and like all victims, you can heal.
Grieve for those who are gone. But say goodbye. There destiny is elsewhere, but yours is still here.
Take a small step toward wholeness today. Take another tomorrow. And be proud of your progress, no matter how slight it might seem. Life takes courage, and you have the courage. In time, you will look back over your shoulder and marvel at how far you have come.
A wise person once told me that what's important in life is the good you do, and the spirit in which you do it. I think that is right. That doesn't make life easy. But it is not without meaning.
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wow. I wasn't expecting to read all of that geez. Well yes, you have been through quite a lot, and you are such an inspiration, seriously. First of all, I am very sorry about what happened to you when you were 3, no one deserves to be molested. And I am very very sorry about the death of your father, grandma, and best friend. Sometimes in this world we lose people and although we do not understand why, it still happens. I know you have tried to commit suicide, but why do you want to do that. Your story seriously touched my heart,think of all the other lives you could touch and change for the better. Just because you do have a sad story doesnt mean people don't want to hear you and that you are not loved. I guarantee that you are loved. My best friend, see the cool thing is, is that He loves everyone. He's everywhere, and I tell you what, I'll share Him with you. Everytimg that you are about to cry or you want to think of killing yourself, just ask the holy spirit to come stay with you, whether it be 5 minutes, 5 hours 5 days. Call out to God, He is there when our struggles get too heavy, he was there for me, and I know He'll be there for you too. Just call out to Him, and He will save your life. Believe me, He saved mine. And we all have our crosses to bear, I am so sorry about how tough and heavy yours is, but don't worry my friend, it will get easier, real soon. Sooner than it seems, life turns around. Just open your eyes. There is no reason for you to kill yourself or want to die, you have to go out there and fulfill a purpose that only you can do. NO one can take your place, you are too precious, too loved for anyone ever to take your place. Don't forget that, ever.
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