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My ex boyfriend.
I met this guy this beginning of school, and I was new to the school. I was talking to one of my friends there, and I saw him, and I was like shittttttttt who's that?! And she told me and I was like I want him, I'm gonna get him. And sure thing, I did get him. We got to know each other real well, we starting falling in love I swear, and we were together for about 2 weeks at this time. We had so much in common, I came into his room, it was full of German flags, I was like holy shit, you like Germany?! And he's like hell yeah! And my news was that well hey I was born there and I go there every year. I fucking love Germany. It was crazy. We finished each other sentences. Told each other we loved each other, cared about each other, and missed each other all the time. And we weren't obsessive either, we'd talk on the phone like twice a day at most. We had a great relationship. But thing is, I was his first. So when it came to school, he wasn't that affectionate and didn't really know how to act. So anyways, we dated, then for some reason. He broke up with me, because he heard I was going to break up with him because of the way he was acting. So he dumped me. After that, we were still talking to each other, hanging out, and obviously not over each other. He asked me out 2 days later. Everything was going smoothly and we liked each other so much. When I was around him, I got butterflies and I felt so happy, it's like nothing I've ever felt for a guy before. He was perfect literally. So we hang out this one weekend, we go to a party, get drunk as fuck, and I puke in his aunt's bathroom and miss the toilet. He has to clean up my puke for 45 min. while I'm outside puking some more. SO his mom finds out we got drunk, and she had to drive me home, and his family is not too happy at all. So him and I are still close. Then in the morning I text him and tell him we're not hanging out today even though we have plans. He says hey I don't know about us anymore. And I started getting teary eyed wondering what the hell is wrong. He tells me he doesn't want to be with me anymore. So I'm like alright why again? He says because he has mixed feelings right now. So we're still friends, and hang out and stuff. One day we talk on the phone and he wants to hang out with me to help him babysit. The women doesn't end up coming home till 4 a.m. We sleep together of course. I tell him, if you want me, I'm not going to wait forever. He says I'll ask you back in a week span, I fucking miss you, love you, yadayadayada. So the week comes by, we don't even talk. So then we're still friends, but things are moving slowly for no reason. I haven't done anything to him. So then somehow he hears that I was talking shit about him I guess, which I really wasn't, I was just mad because he ignores me in school and treats me like shit in public. He just doesn't act like the same person all the time. It was like he was fake or something or new to this relationship thing. Well anyway, now since he heard that, he doesn't want to deal with me shit and all this, he's not talking to me at all, not even looking at me. I try texting him, he doesn't talk to me. He's just cutting me out of his life. I'm fucking miss him so much and I want him back so bad. I have no idea what to do. He won't talk to me and it's killing me like crazy. I really don't know what to do. I just wish we could at least be friends then him hating me. Because it really sucks. I just want everything back to the way it was. I would talk to him face to face, but I'm way too scared. What should I do? Please help me. Thank you.(:
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Well this sounds to me as if things moved very quickly. Also did you ever consider that fact that maybe his parents might not approve of him having a girlfriend? Parents can put alot of pressure on a child when they see something they are not comforable with. Lay down rules condidtions and so on. I believe that when he told you he was confused most likely he really is. When your sexually active with anyone, sometimes it adds alot of stress that younger people can not handle as well as adults. He might worry about things like could she be pregnant? What would I do? What would my parents do? If he feels that you guys might continue a more intamit relationship like this, it is a possiblilty, one he is not prepared to handle. I know that you are scard to face him, but you guys did engage is adult activity and in my opinion if you are able to do that, you should be able to handle confronting him face to face. I am not trying to sound harsh or mean, but if you truely care for him, then this is something you need to build up the courage to do. The way it is right now, I think you both are confused. But I do feel their are other factors involved as well. Maybe something he is afraid to say to you. No guy is going to admit he stopped seeing you because his parents told him so. That is an example. Another is when guys get scard or feels they are getting to close to someone, they tend to back away. Every guy is differant and in my experiance younger guys tend to NOT want to feel as if they are tied down in any way. Responsibility of any kind can scare alot of guys. Even being responable for someones elses feelings can be scary. I do feel that a good face to face talk is in order here. When you speak with him, pay attention to his body language. If he seems strange or not quite the same as things where before, you will be able to tell when your talking with him. Another thing to remember is, not all guys really know how to communicate very well when it comes to talking to a woman. So dont hang on every word, just take in what he is trying to get across to you. After you say what you need to say, and ask what you need to ask. Give him time to think and answer. Even if he cant give you a direct answer right away. Let him take in all of what you have to say, give him time to process it. If you get a responce like I dont know, then give each other space. When he is ready to share with you he will. Just dont push answers right now cause you need one. I hope this helps, let me know how it goes.
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It sounds like you both need a little break from each other thats maybe longer than 2 weeks. it's proven that the most healthiest relationships are ones where you're not with them all of them time.
Also, please don't get offended but you said that you said "i love you" after 2 weeks....if you just met him and been dating him for only 2 weeks chances are you don't love him. correct me if im wrong but your probably just physically attracted to him or just really like him because you guys are really similar. Sometimes its not a good thing that you guys are that similar because its kind of like dating yourself..in guy form...if you know what i mean. i'm not sure if you've ever heard of the saying "opposites attract".
so anyways what i'd do is just take a break from this guy...let him do the chasing, not you. if he really "loves" you then he'll work it out, it not, you deserve better.
good luck with everything =)
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