I never turn away a question no matter how long,short,or stupid you think it might be.If you need an opinon i will give you mine from my experiences, and will let you know what i know.
Website: Tatianna
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I have had a friends w/benefits situation for the past 5 years and I have developed feelings for my partner. Well, recently I told him that I could not continue this (but I did not tell him how I felt about him) and he said he understood. He has other girls that he can get sex from but he still wants to have sex with me. Why? Could he possibly have feelings for me? (link)
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Well he might like you, but It might be that youre just a great sex partner , if he really liked you, he wouldve been more concerned about you stoping relations with him. But maybe if you tell him how you feel he could feel the same. You never try , you never know.
Xx, Tatianna
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i've been married for 5 years and i've met this guy who is my sister's friend. He lives in another town. He's been recently sending me messages through facebook. What should I do?? Because I've started to like him..I really love my husband,though, and I'm afraid of hurting him. (link)
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I also think you should stop talking to this guy.. if you don't want to hurt your husband, don't put yourself in a place where you can in any way, sure he may seem nice and tells you everything your husband doesn't. but don't mess up years of love for a little while of "like" cause it can cause you to think that the "like" is growing ,making the new guy seem like heaven on earth, there's this quote
"never leave good, in hopes of finding better, because once you realize you've had the best, the best has found better'
Don't risk it. remember why you married the guy in the first place
xo,
Tatianna
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Im 17 years old, I haven't been on here in atleast 4 or 5 years and I decided to make a new account and start fresh! Ok, so here is my problem. I dated this guy, Mike, for 3 1/2 years about 2 years ago. I was younger and he was 4 years older then me, but thats beyond the point. He was my first love, and I was his first love. Things were kind of shaky in the relationship, but we were both really immature and new to the whole "love" thing. We broke up a few times a week, but it was almost to the point where we were expecting it. Eventually we broke up for good but it was almost impossible to stay away from each other. We'd talk about getting back together all the time but it would never fall through because we knew we needed to end it and just live our young lives apart for awhile. Eventually we stopped talking as often and I started dating this guy like 6 months after we broke up for good. He would still text me occasionally and ask me how I was doing, and to let me know that if I needed anything he'd be there for me. Although I dated this other guy, Keith, for a year and a half, the love I had for him was NOTHING compared to the love I had for Mike. Around 6 months ago me and Keith broke up and I haven't talked to him since, which doesn't bother me one bit. But since Keith and I have been broken up, Mike and I have been hanging out occasionally and talking on a more regular basis, but he has a girlfriend that he's currently living with but claims he can't stand her and wants to break up but is scared how things will work out between me and him and if they ended up shitty he'd lose his current girlfriend as well. I do feel bad that he plays his current girlfriend, but its a first love type of thing, I cant get enough of him. I do want to be with him again, but he has awhole other life with another girl. He invited me to the beach for the weekend with him, and said we could talk about getting back together when we go, but why would he invite me to go with him and not his current girlfriend. I hate being a second choice to him, but I dont want to be like "break up with her and get back with me" since I'd forcing a relationship that may end up not working in the end and I have no right to be telling him what to do. I really want to be with him again, because of course I still love him, but I dont know how to react to everything. Thanks everyone, I know this was long.. (link)
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Heres what you should do, and i apologize for how this may come out but GET OVER HIM AND MOVE ON! your young. and you know can get someone else, i mean i know you love him and everything but i mean come on, whatd you think youd be together forever, look, hes gonna always be in your mind, but you know that it needed to end. you can still be friends but if your Someones SECOND choice, He dosent have the right to choose you, remember you are a priority not an option :)
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ok so my really close friend (aka the guy i like) was staring at my lips today for like the whole day (i wore lip gloss today and i usually dont) and he kept smiling and im not quite sure why... (also we r both 14 in high school and im a little taller than him) (link)
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Duhh He wants Your Lips! id Say Keep Him Tortued With Lip Gloss Itll drive him crazy till he asks you out!
Good Luck
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35 ACT, 2400 SAT, and great ECs?
I've gone through a lot of struggles, especially during sophomore and junior year. but i think i've become a much better student than i ever was. would it help if there's an upward trend from the 2nd semester of junior year? I'm a junior right now, and speaking hypothetically for the ACT and SAT scores. But I'm going to be working all summer to study for the tests, because UChicago is my dream school. I also plan on visiting the school, and doing an interview. do you think it would be better if I applied during the regular time, so that I can show them more of the upward trend my senior year? UChicago is my dream school, and I want to major in Econ. After looking up a lot about it, I think I'd fit in there really well, too. Despite my low GPA, I'm smart, but I had lots of problems with procrastination and what not.. which I've finally been able to overcome (it's been a problem since like middle school, but it got worse in high school when I had more work). I'm in all honors and dual credit classes (the highest my school has.. they're like college courses) and I'm involved with multiple sports and clubs (I'm even founding a red cross club at my school now). I'm just trying to stay motivated.. and want to see if this can even be a feasible goal, to get admitted if I keep working really hard. Could colleges forgive my mistakes in the past? (link)
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As a chicagoan i think you could .uic is a great school and they arent always that judgemental ..
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So in high school i noticed a guy and he lived down the street from me, he never really talked to me but he would make jokes at time and was nice. One night in high school he incited me to go over to his house and i did but it was only for like thirty minutes then he dropped me off.Never saw him again. So he moved to AZ and joined the air force and got in touch with me and at this time i was graduating high school and he started talking to me, we got to the point where we where actually in a relationaship and we liked each ithervery much. So i kept putting off not seeing him everytime we made plans to visit but he still stayed with me and we wouls talk on the phone and e-mail,also my mom was very strict so there wasnt really a way to leave to visit him by myself. So it went all well and then his birthday came around and we went to Vegas, well he didnt talk to me for a week! So when he finally texted me he said sorry and i wasnt really mad just relieved and he could believe i was mad and he just seemed weird and a week later he broke up with me saying he cant be with a girl who still lives under her mother not in a mean way though he was kind about it. Well months passed by and i would look at his myspace and he would sooo happy! like he never mentioned anything abut us. So 6 months pass and then he sends a text saying "hey." and i'm really suprised and i start talking to him and it was only for two days then a few weeks later i decide to text him and he says he is actually happy i have texted him! So basically we both start talking again and he says he loves me so all is well and then what i expected happened! he stopped talking to me! and when he finally texted back he said his step-dad had a heart attack and he likes to deal with that studd alone. And then couple weeks later i leace him a messege about not caring about my feelings and he said sorry but that he is afraid of commitment and now we have stopeed talking for about 2 months now, i cant halp but to look at his facebook and myspace and he looks happy i know he is in the air force and has stuff to do but he seems to party it up as well and he cant even aknoledge me so what should i do? how should i fee? And what if he sends me a messege again, what do i do then? its so cinfusing should i forget all the sweet things he said to me and forget and move on?or should i say something. Or do i just like him because i like the idea of him? i like the way he talks about his family i kind of want to be a part of his life, and i like alot of things about him and i know i sound like a physco but its how i can explain. I just need advice i really am not a whiney person and idk whats happening to me. (link)
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Okay It Not You Just Like The Idea Of Him you like him period. I mean iknow hes in airforce but have you ever heard of an long distant realtionship ? You guys obvilsly love each other and so what if your under your mom if its the rightpeson then he should care and iknow its kinda mean he waits long periods of time but a watched fone neevr rings! so occupy your time, hang out with friend and dont chase him...make him chase you? if he texts you then text him back but dont wait around for it love finds a way you dont have too !
Good Luck
Tatianna
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long! (link)
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Well You might Not Think It So Bad But He Has feeling To hide it...mabe he thinks hes going trough something and he dosent want you to know He dsnies it ...not because hes doin something allll outta pocket...Like When you were little and a grown up caught you in a liee...you would keep dening it just so you wont have to admit you wrong...or hiding somethin....well hes the little boy who doesnt want to admit hes done something terribly wrong(at least thats what he thinks) but if you try to ease him into it like you would a child......im pretty sure he'll spit it u!!!!
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hi 15 year old male and im pretty sure im gay i know im still young but im really attracted to guys ive been feeling this way for awhile now im not that attracted to girls i only look at guys i was unsure but now im think im happy about it i think its who i am its normal to be gay at my age? (link)
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well The Truth Is You Are What You Are It Might Be A Fase Or This Is The Choice You Were Ment To Make Its Normal At Any Age You Couldve Been six And Still would have made this decision but look at it this way...at least you know now...rather then lieing to yourself when you get older....
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I have liked my friend for almost a year now and I think I really love him. I want to let him know how I feel but I am afraid of jeopardizing our friendship. I don't know what to do. I am 17 and he is older than me, but we don't judge each other by age. I am a girl and I am 17. Thanks in advance for advice. (link)
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Well i think you should tell him I mean if you love him isnt it worth the risk?If you never try you never know Its like I always say you can have your boyfriend and your friend. Good Luck!
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my boyfriend wont let me near his phone. he gets paranoid if i ask to see it and watches my every move. he sleeps with it in his pocket or under his pillow. should i be worried? (link)
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yea...he's hidding something so you should ask him first and if he gives you the'' you have to trust me '' line then its up to you to belive hi, but I really wouldnt.
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16 year old male and lately my mom keeps asking when am i gonna get a girlfriend my older brother has a girlfriend of 2 years she keeps bugging me about it i usually say i still havent found the right girl yet or use another excuse the thing is im gay i have a great boyfriend weve been together over 6 months we love each other but we still not ready to tell anyone yet im worried what people will think my parents might not accept it what should i do? how do i get her to asking me? (link)
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Im sorry my mail was buggleing up but in my oppion you should tell your mom I mean it is your mom she will love you for who you are regaurdless. You cant keep hiding who you are just to please someone else. I bet if you tell her sure she might get mad at one point but every one cant take something very unexpected but she get over it cause your her son. I wish you the best of luck and I promise if you have any more questions ill answer in a quick amount of time
good luck
Tatianna:))
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im 15 male and i have developed strong feelings for another guy hes 15 we are good friends and we hang out a lot together and the last few months ive started to really like him more than a friend and for awhile ive been attracted to guys i havent told him im not sure if he feels the same way im not sure if i should just come out and say anything to him im worried he might not want to be my friend should i tell him how i feel?
is it normal to feel this way? (link)
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I think you should tell him. every one has a chance at love, you should tell him how you feel. I f you never try you never know, Dont keep asking yourself ''what if'' If it dosent work it dosent work But at least try to try:))
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My boyfriend has recently started talking to an ex girlfriend of his. I could see them talking for long periods of time when they first got in touch with eachother, but she calls him all day and texts him all hours of the morning. She's even sent pictures of herself to him. When I ask him questions about her he gets mad and tells me to get out of his face. Recently he started locking his phone. He's told me they are just friends, but he's lied about a conversation they had for over 2 hours while he was golfing. I know that this girl has feelings for him, but could he be having feelings for her too. I don't know what they talk about when I'm not there. Now when she calls he doesn't answer her calls if I'm there. Should I be concerned? We've been together for 4 years. (link)
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you really should be concerned in my opinon i think you should really talk about it I you guys been together for 4 yrs but this may be the enD of the line.that mabe thats not always the ase but what you said,it mabe possible but you really need to find out!
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18/male.
now i don't know why i do what i do, and yet i do it anyways. i have a nice relationship growing with a female friend of mine. and things are going good. and then i always always do or say something stupid to push her away. like tonight for example she said she would call me back in a few minutes as she had to get off the phone momentarily. and so i sat there for a while then my friend rodney came by and asked me if i wanted to go see a movie. and me being the idiot i am went along with it and left this girl who i have such intense feelings for hanging. and so i came back around and tried to talk to her online and she was mad at me which was to be expected. but the point of this question is: why do i do this crap? why do i always make an idiot out of myself and ruin things between me and a girl? why can't i just leave well enough alone and stick around? is it just because i'm immature and stupid? or is there more to it? (link)
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You shouldn't be so down.Guys always make these mistakes when they really like someone. You second guess yourself I bet like ''Am I being really eager waiting to see if she calls you back '' and ;;would you come on a stalker if you wait for her like that'' . You may not know it but you are. And Girls easily get mad if you never answer when you call them back, They LIKE you for that and just Don't second guess yourself .... Just be you!!!
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I'm 15 years old.. a freshman.. and i like his sophmore guy. lets call him D. my friend is R. well anyways my R has liked D for about a month. but ive liked D for like.. around 5-6 months.. she has NO idea what i feel about him.. in fact i told her that i didnt like him cause i couldnt trust her with my secret.. D told me that he dislikes R. R doesnt even TALK to D.. only on msn for liek.. 2 min once a week!
WHAT DO I DO (link)
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If ''r'' Is your friend she should understand that you like him and that you he does not like her,then thats all the opportunity in the world to have to talk to him and don't let her feelings for him Get in the way of your happiness But don't tell her that he does not like her, Let him tell her because ''r'' Would think that you are just saying that so you can destroy her feelings. But by all means,take a shot at it because if you never try you never know
Tatianna
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Recently, whenever my boyfriend and I are around his friends, I tend to get ignored by him. He has a lot of female friends, and they flirt with him, but he doesn't stop them; he kind of does it back. I don't know what to do! It makes me feel very unappreciated and not important. (link)
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you need to tell him off! Tell him you dont like the way he's been treating you and if it countines your out of his life for good and you need to tell him that you are tired of the flirting with the girls, being ignored and yo u need it to stop.Or you can so the same thing and se how he likes it! But dont get tyo worked up about it what happenns happens and its all for the best.
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The other day, I had this weird dream that my sister kissed my boyfriend and he did NOTHING about it. He didn't keep going but he didn't stop her, either. And he reacted as if nothing happened. Just sat back down next to me.
No, I don't think tihs means that he's cheating on me or anything.
My question is, what can this imply about ME? (link)
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To me it looks like you think your sister is good enough to still him away from you and you feel insucure and if that happens,you wouldnt know how to handle it. You probaly kinda is very quiet when it comes to him making decions but you need to let him know that you have some say in it and your better than all those other girls(thats why he chose you!) Or it could be an out of no where dream and you shouldnt worry!lol(sometimes it is)
good Luck
Tatianna:-))
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he told me on wednesday that we need to take a break becuase he needs time.
and i asked him how long he wont talk to me for and he said idk.
everything has been fine between us so that whole needing a break thing seriously came out of nowhere.
were in a long distance relationship so i dont understand why he needs a break. its not like we get to see eachother alll the time like normal couples.
ive called and texted him a bunch of times and have gotten nothing back. its been three days since he hasnt talk to me and its killing me.
no matter what i say to him, he wont talk to me.
i dont know what to do :[
help meee! (link)
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Well when a bot says he needs time, then that usually means that he dosent know if this would work out or he found some one else in his area that he relly likes. Im not saying that all long distance relationships are doomed to disater but this one mabey falling.Long distance is is very chancey because you really cant tell what the other person is doing at all. but if he dosent reply you need to try to find out what happened and why he might be doing this .But in the mean time try to move on because i dont think this will turn out right.
all the best
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So I've liked this guy for about a year, since I met him. I'm pretty sure I like him. Ok I like him a lot. I really do and it bothered me so much that he didn't know. Everyone was telling me to tell him and that we would be so cute together.
So now he knows... I asked him today if I could tell him something and then I told him that I really like him and that it's been bothering me and that I just wanted him to know. All he had to say back was ight.
Of course that made me feel crappy... but is there still a chance me and him could be together? Or should I forget about it?.. even though I really like him.. =/
I don't get to talk to him much either and it sucks, I just see him a lot and I have one class with him at school.
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well part of you should move on because you cant keep pressing the gas on a car that wouldnt stop.if he isnt actually elaborating on what you said instead of just one word then he really dosnent want to go any further in this relationship.But on the other hand dont give up all the way because he mabe just saying those things in front of his friends and dont want to share his real feeling towards you so dont give up all the way because the way i see it this possible relationship could go both ways.
///good luck////
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4 years ago was the last time I saw my dad. He left without a trace. We've been tracking him and he was arrested today. I might go see him tomorrow, and I am thinking of what to do/say. I could really use some help now. I am a 14 year old male. (link)
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I agree with the last coulumist,u should get off everything you have bottled up in your mind like if you wanted to know why did he leave you without a trace or how could he have done it it is the perfect chance to get things off your chest but heres a tip.. dont try to be all mad -looking when you see him try to have an open mind to his answers and try to tke it from his point of view like hat would you do?? If you stick with this,you should be okay!
Good Luck!
Tatianna!
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