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I'm married and another guy is flirting with me
i've been married for 5 years and i've met this guy who is my sister's friend. He lives in another town. He's been recently sending me messages through facebook. What should I do?? Because I've started to like him..I really love my husband,though, and I'm afraid of hurting him.
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Stop worrying! It is completely natural to feel that way when someone pays you attention especially when you're in a committed relationship however, this does not make what your doing right. Stop talking to him. Completely, it will probably seem strangely hard to do that at 1st but after a week or so you will be fine and over it, then you need to get the spark flying again with your husband. There is obviously something getting boring/dull so maybe, spice up the sex life? Go somewhere romantic? Remind him of old times? Dress sexy/sexier? Make up? .. Make an effort more.. And no doubt he will too, good luck x
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I also think you should stop talking to this guy.. if you don't want to hurt your husband, don't put yourself in a place where you can in any way, sure he may seem nice and tells you everything your husband doesn't. but don't mess up years of love for a little while of "like" cause it can cause you to think that the "like" is growing ,making the new guy seem like heaven on earth, there's this quote
"never leave good, in hopes of finding better, because once you realize you've had the best, the best has found better'
Don't risk it. remember why you married the guy in the first place
xo,
Tatianna
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It's normal to feel the way about a guy who is flirting with you. It makes you feel good.
While developing feelings might be normal, you are married.
So since you want to stay faithful to your husband, you should stop talking to this guy. You can either tell him straight up that you are flattered but you are married or you can just stop talking to him and just leave it at that.
So that is the way to avoid hurting your husband and yourself.
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Having been married for going on 41 years this July I think I know what is happening here.
First you are closing in on the "Seven year itch." It is not a fairy tale type saying as much as it is a reality. Some people are bothered by this period less than others. It is not really a buyers remorse as much as it is a wondering of what life could have or would have been if you waited a little longer to marry. This period generally passes without any real problems for most couples.
The other factor that may be at work here is ego. You may be flattered that this man, I'm assuming he is younger, is enamored with an older married women. This is especially true for women who have had children.
What I'm trying to so delicately say is you are reacting normally for what the situation you are finding yourself in. You know nothing can or will come of this. You don't want to hurt your husband or your sisters friend.
What you have to do is gently explain to this guy that your flattered by his attention but it is just that. Nothing can or will come of it. Your friends, today's version of pen pals so to speak. In fact email him those exact words if you want.
If I have assumed correctly that he is younger than you. Then he to is infatuated by the fact that an older women, ouch sorry about that, is showing him some attention. If your messaging has not gone to far then sending him a message defining what your parameters are for the too of you should cool him down. I would also, in your place, tell your husband of the emails, the fact that you saw him becoming attached to you and you shut him down.
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well but you also started to like him so i think you also flirt him but if you want your life happniness than stop talk him and sy him good bye because you also love your husband very much so for happy marriage life devotion and trust is very necessary.if you not hurt him than you lost your husband and happy life so say him gently that i want my husband not you but you can become a good friend
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