I have joined this because I enjoy giving people advice and helping people, and I have been through a lot in my life although I'm still quite young.. So if I can offer some free advice for those who have been through what I've been through or feel alone in the world, then I will. =). Soo.. Pleeease don't be afraid to inbox me or comment and ask me a question, and in return I promise to at he very least give my best answer x
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I raped someone I want to turn myself in immediately. Tell me what I need to do. I need to be punished. I will not say how it happen and why. I can't make up any excuses. I was drunk but it doesn't change anything. The person who was hurt doesn't want to do anything and prefers to just forget and move on, but I can't . I need to be punished and I want to turn myself in. The person wouldn't have to worry about trial or publicity. I just need to know what I have to prepare for. (link)
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I understand the person may not want anything brought up, but you are right. You do need to be punished. What you done was wrong and you have acknowledged this. Turning yourself in, in my opinion would be best.
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So i am 15 Years old, and people in my year have started becoming more sexual. There is a guy i know and like who wants to do more than kissing but i am too insecure about my vagina to do anything. It hangs down alot and im worried he will be grossed out. Help:( (link)
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I think the real question is... Are you ready to do more than just kissing?... Vaginal worries aside.
If you are and you are really that insecure about the look of your private area, maybe you could speak to a doctor or have counselling.
However if you are not entirely sure or even have slight doubts about this person or having sex then don't do it. because sex is never a thing you want to regret. You are also only 15 and do have time yet. all my friend had, had sex by the time we were all 16. I nearly did. Twice. but i wasn't ready and didn't have the confidence yet. I then lost it at 18 and do not regret it at all.
Oh, and one last word of advice... In order for anyone to love or respect you and your body... You have to do it first..:)
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I'm 15 and just got recently into masturbating.. I'm a female. What are any ways to arouse myself more? I would love to be able to orgasm but I don't know how to make myself orgasm, help?! (link)
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Ann summers- the bullet .. It's almost a guaranteed orgasm.. U jus simply hold it on the clitoris and it has 3 speeds so is suitable for all, and only £5 x
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16 yr old Female, UK
My Music teacher is 49. I am 16. I help out in some of his lessons, for younger years. We talk all the time. He tells me funny little stories about his family, and he tells me about his difficult past, personal stuff... but he has always seemed such a closed off man.
He calls me Professor Jane (Jane is not my name, but I don't want to put my name on here), and I call him by just his last name (like smith, rather than Mr. Smith)
I resently left school (year 11) and he wrote a funny limerick about me (teasing me) in my leavers book, and I know he didn't write in anyone elses. He gave me his number, in case I needed it for my exam revision.
We argue, like allot, over all sorts of silly stuff. Like, the other day, we argued about the best Dr from Dr who, and its like real arguing.
He tells me stuff about the school, like stuff about private teachers meeting. I consider him a very good friend.
I suppose this is not a question, more a situation, and I would like your opinions on it?
Thank you
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It's not illegal him talking or being close to you because your of legal age to do so, however I do not see this ending too well, due to the fact I can't see what a 49 year old man would want with a young woman of your age, he may be the nicest man on the planet, but it just doesn't seem right to me personally but I dont know the full details I suppose.. Do your parents know about this? Does he talk in appropriately at all to you? In any way?..x
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I am really scared that i peed in bed last night its first time in my life after I left wetting bed in the age of 12. I am quite healthy I don't take any medicines I don't drink wine I don't know what to do I am ashamed of telling it to others.actually last night in my dreams I went to my uncle new house but in dreams when I reached there I felt that I need to urinate badly so I used my uncle bathroom and did a lot of pee but it happened in real and I got up immediately and found my bed wet. (link)
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It's completely fine... If it starts to happen a lot and regularly look into getting help but I seriously wouldn't worry, I have a friend who woke up, had wet the bed AND... Had no bottoms on through dreaming she was going to the toilet.. Honestly. You are completely normal and nothing to worry about, as I said, Speak to someone professional if it does begin to get more worrying x
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I've know this guy for almost a year, we used to talk pretty often and hung out a few times. Were both attracted eachother and we hunting about 2 weeks ago and he stayed the night. While we were in bed we started making out and stuff and I told him I wasn't going to have sex with him (because there were other people in the next room) but we continued anyways. He wanted me to give him a blowjob instead of "leaving him hanging" but I didnt want to so I gave him a handjob instead. Since then we've only texted a few times and he always seems busy, his replys are short and really spaced out. Was he just using me and now he's dropping me because he didn't get what he wanted? I'm interested in him but I just feel like I'm bugging him when I text him.
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Yes it does seem that way. Be straight with him. You never know unless you ask. But well done for sticking to your guns x
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i've been married for 5 years and i've met this guy who is my sister's friend. He lives in another town. He's been recently sending me messages through facebook. What should I do?? Because I've started to like him..I really love my husband,though, and I'm afraid of hurting him. (link)
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Stop worrying! It is completely natural to feel that way when someone pays you attention especially when you're in a committed relationship however, this does not make what your doing right. Stop talking to him. Completely, it will probably seem strangely hard to do that at 1st but after a week or so you will be fine and over it, then you need to get the spark flying again with your husband. There is obviously something getting boring/dull so maybe, spice up the sex life? Go somewhere romantic? Remind him of old times? Dress sexy/sexier? Make up? .. Make an effort more.. And no doubt he will too, good luck x
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I am a 24 female and my ex is a 20 year old. He lives with his mom and dad and I live with my mom if that helps any. we only dated 7 months I broke up with him for several reasons .
reason number 1: He was constantly trying to talk me into having sex with him even though I told him I wanted to wait till marriage because I was trying to get my life right at time but he finally succeeded and talked me into it. He did this by saying things like I could always get sex from some girl in another town and looking to have sex with people he meets off of face book I saw the ad he posted my self.
reason number 2 is because he was emotionally abusive . If I said no he would yell at me and call me sorry .
he would also make me give all my money to him when I got my pay check and now when we have been broke up for a little over a year now he is harassing me . He does this by calling my mom's cell phone because I have gotten a number because he wouldn't leave me alone . I blocked him on face book. I have even called the police and all they did was warn him and I have a new boyfriend now who says that if he doesn't leave me alone he can't handle it anymore and will break up me what should I do please help me.
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The person before is right, you need to go to the police again, speak to them and tell them everything, see what you can get him arrested for, maybe a restraining order? This is defiantly harassment and you can defiantly get some help.. Don't give up. This is harassment. Make sure it is known x
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Hello. So I will try to sumamrize this story.. all tho it is a long one. I am a sixteen year old female high school studnet. I have this best friend named Lisa..Lisa is friends with Jane. Jane lives out of state tho, and is 3 years older than us. As a joke, Lisa made a group text wih Jane and I. Well, me and jane, as we were talking realized we are alot alike. Now me and Jane talk literally every second of the day. I tell her eveything. She tell me eveeything. I recently found out she was gay.
I have never liked a girl in my life..and never planned on it. I am totally accpeting of gays, just wouldn't be itnerested in trying it.
Me and Jane talk so much, we call eachother fiance and fiance. as a joke of course. But recently, I have started liking it. Alot acutally.
I get excited to see her texts. I love talking to her on skype every night. we talk for hours. this is crazy because we havenever met..but i miss her alot.
I think i am in love with Jane.
accept...she is a girl.
And i dont like girls.
As so i thought. I have never had one thought abut girls before Jane. So i am just so confused now.
But i want to be with her.
What do I do?? should i tell her. because if i tell her..things could get realllyyy messed up.
And at the mioment, I need jane and cant emss thignsup. I tell her everything in my life, and loosing her.. i couldnt get through high school.
I left some parts out....so if you need more info! message me.
Thanks.
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If you can talk to her about anything then just be honest.. Tell her exactly how you feel.. Well mention you think you may be bi and you're not sure what to do and would like her help, as a friend.. Or maybe even experiment, just kiss a girl and see how that makes you feel. But I think the other person was right, you do not actually know her physically, you haven't met her face to face and this is the 1st time you have had feelings like this, so although you feelings may be genuine, don't look too much into it or stress yourself out because sometimes the mind does trick us into feeling this way when we get shown a certain amount of attention we may lack from others or crave/enjoy...x
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here is my story.im a 13 year old female and have had an obvious attraction for women since a very young age. I would deny it every day and say this cannot be happening your straight you like men.I fell into a habit of self destruction. I had 1 crush on a guy, but I was 8 my parents were fighting and I only liked him because he was girly.Last summer a friend who was also questioning her sexuality came out to me at a fair. I talked to her recently and she says shes straight again.At that moment I realized that maybe I am as well.I always would fantasize about women,men almost never.I have come out to a very few close people including my mother who is very accepting and understanding and a few very close friends.they understand,I live in a tight homophobic racist community and have been made fun of for being a bit if a tomboy and holding hands and even hugging and kissing my 2 best female friends good-bye.my dad is one of those guys who never accepts anything like this.im afraid im in a phase, but am sure i'm not.comments?i have anxiety as well. I have had a crush on a girl for he longest time she's straight and knows I like her its complicated she acts like she likes me all the time and says stuff like o shes my half gf, I'm so lost.im a cutter and bruiser and lost.im made fun of constantly and need support and an answer to my questions in my heart about who I like in that way.thank you and I apologize for thwe length. (link)
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When I was your age I was a cutter too.. I couldn't handle stress and didn't know what else to do.. But the way I over come it was accepting me for who I am, it wasn't my sexuality that bothered me it was my race.. But I now realise the ones that truly love and support me will still be there at the end of it all.. I still have the cutting urge dot get me wrong, but I manage to control it by reminding myself that no one will love and accept me if I don't love and accept myself... If you are a lesbian (which sounds like the most likely outcome) then this is not a problem, it does not make you any lesser of a person, not at all. Your dad may be the "judgmental" type but never-the-less he loves you, it may take some adjusting to but he will deal with it, he has no choice, be happy with who you are, embrace it, you sound like a lovely young lady with your whole life ahead of you.. Hold your head up high and be proud of who you are, there is no shame. They may laugh because you're different.. But you will laugh because they are mentally or even physically ugly!..:) x
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He keeps liking my photos but I'm not sure if he likes me because were not talking? (link)
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Try not to read too much into it.. Play it cool, if you like him, then like a couple his photos, maybe thank him for liking your photo. I.E.. "Thanks for liking the pic.." Short and sweet.. Hints will straighten out eventually x
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I am a girl 38 years old and my best friend is 27 years old she is a girl too.She kissed me on the lips passionately six years ago so i told her not to do it that time so she didnt do that ever again to me.Now we are still best friends but she has two kids and is married.Shes getting marriage problems at the moment and we went clubbing last saturday night, i think i still have the same feelings for her but dont know if she still loves me the same back.But a couple of days ago she was holding my hand in the stree,hugging me on the bus,hugging me in the nightclub but then she told me that she wasnt a lesbian when i was playing with her at the nightclub on last saturday night.What should I do?We have been best friends for 13 years? (link)
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I'd say simply be honest with her, she is your best friend so should understand... Also explain that it makes you feel slightly awkward and Un comfortable and you would've spoke to her earlier but you didn't want to risk ruining the friendship and wasn't sure on how to explain your feelings. You have been friends for a very long time and you sound like a good friend. Be honest, calm and nice. Good luck x
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Why do i feel like this everyday? What can i do?
I know everyone has seen something like this before. I have looked at other peoples questions like this but they are not the answers i'm looking for. I'm 17. I hate my parents more than anyone. I have one person who used to be my friend but i don't like him anymore. If i bump into an object/wall i get angry and punch it or kick it. I hate everything about myself. I'm pessimistic about everything. I used to think about suicide but then i realized its everyone else who is my problem and i wish they would die or get out of my life completely. The only things i love at all would be my 2 dogs. and surfing the internet after i play with my dogs. That;s my life now, it's summer , but i am stuck here at my room, i don't want to go out, may father is always intrusive what i am doing, when i go out with friends, just once a week last month, when i got home he always do say i am flirting with a boy(im bi, and he knows it). That's why i never get out with my friends anymore. It change me a lot what my father treat me. I am not social at all. The friends i used to have came to me i didn't go to them. Sometimes i can manage to act happy but really inside i want to put a hole in something. I am so mad with my father, last 2 months he punched me, and kick me in my leg, just because i forgot to feed his chicken, i am eating that time and i said to him, wait i will just finish my breakfast, and he yelled at me saying you respondent idiot, he cussed me while im eating, thats what happen, then he punched me and kick me. Not only that, much more. I wish he die, i tell my mom all the time when im pissed of him. I don't know where to release my anger towards my father. And because of this i am always offer profanity, to anyone even to my mother. When my father got home, i shut to my bedroom. I have been this way for 2 years and i only get angrier by the year. Most of the things that used to make me happy are dead to me. My parents are getting sick of my constant angry attitude and violence toward inanimate objects and to my sister, and friends of my sister, i get angry all the time. I go to a "special" school full of the most idiotic people you can imagine. Really i'm not sure how much more i can take before i have a mental breakdown. Sometimes i am thinking hanging my self. :( need your advice guys . I am from philippines. (link)
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I understand you. I understand that all you would like is some help but you don't know where to begin. Yes your father is abusing you and this seems to be the route of the problem.. You mentioned that your father says things about your sexuality. Are you bi-sexual or gay and feeling ashamed from it? If so, don't be. It's not your sexuality that makes you, it's who you are inside. Try to concentrate on getting an education and then getting a job, this will bring you closer to having your own home an own life, independence can help you a lot, maybe try to sit and talk calmly to your parents, no matter what we feel about our parents, they brought us into this world and will love us for eternity.
And suicide? Really? Even the most smallest person in the world can make a difference.. Your great personality, ideas or skills Could greatly help someone or something in the future, someone once told me... If you don't love yourself, no one will... And I truly believe this, it's so hard to love yourself when you believe you are disgusting and worthless but all u need to find is that one style that suits you, and a skill you have.. Then progress in it all.. You will be okay. You are a good person or you wouldn't realise your faults. Take a look in the mirror. Your not as bad as you think you are...x
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shonakhargosh@yahoo.com my id
i get raped when i was 16 and bleed.... it was an attact to me. so i noised and he didnt get chance to insert again. now i am 19 and getting married . will i bleed at first night... and no one knows about it except my mother . we are scare now because if a girl will not bleed at first night then the husband give divorce .. i never had any bf. i am a loyal and true girl plz help me (link)
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I am so sorry to hear this. I too have been sexually harassed in the past.. The best thing I believe you can do is be honest to your future husband, he will not divorce/leave you if he loves you, that was a viscous attack that you couldn't help. You didn't choose for that to happen. You sound like a true, honest and good person, and if your partner is the same he will understand.. Never start a new life with secrets.. You are a strong young woman you will get through this x
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Im 14 and im about to have sex for the first time with a 14 year old too but he has had sex before..
I was just wondering..
Does it hurt? I heard it does because you viagina tears..
And what if the condombreaks?
Im not worried about much right now i just dont want a kid right now.. not ever actually. But if you could please help? Thank you. (link)
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First of all babe, make sure you are doing this for all the right reasons, do not feel pressured into anything. If I really feel you are ready then there is no stopping what you will do.
It will probably hurt and feel slightly un-comfortable the first time round, but it's not as scary an awful as you would think.. And get a condom that fits well.. If it is too tight or put on the wrong way or too dry then it can break, so use precautions and think hard before you do it.. Ur virginity is the one thing you give but will never get back... Don't make it something to regret..x
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