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i get raped
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i get raped when i was 16 and bleed.... it was an attact to me. so i noised and he didnt get chance to insert again. now i am 19 and getting married . will i bleed at first night... and no one knows about it except my mother . we are scare now because if a girl will not bleed at first night then the husband give divorce .. i never had any bf. i am a loyal and true girl plz help me
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I am so sorry to hear this. I too have been sexually harassed in the past.. The best thing I believe you can do is be honest to your future husband, he will not divorce/leave you if he loves you, that was a viscous attack that you couldn't help. You didn't choose for that to happen. You sound like a true, honest and good person, and if your partner is the same he will understand.. Never start a new life with secrets.. You are a strong young woman you will get through this x
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I am truly sorry you were raped. The fact is that when you were raped you lost your Hymen and along with it your virginity. Unless your husband in someway tears you when you have your fist sex with him or you are having your period you will not bleed again because of the loss of your Hymen. It does not grow back.
Many women who go to their marital beds do not bleed as they no longer have a Hymen lost through other activities than sex. Horse back riding, bike riding and playing some sports or even some dance activities can dislodge a women's hymen without their knowledge. The use of tampons can destroy a hymen as well.
THe best thing though is honesty and to tell your future husband what happened to you. If he truly loves you the fact that you were raped and not a virgin any more should make no difference to him. I know it would make no difference to me and cause me to love her all the more and want to help her put that terrible ordeal in her past and to move on to a wonderful life together.
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