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Should I Reveal the Truth?
Posted Saturday June 4 2022, 11:48 pm
Hello, I am a female in my mid 20s. When I was 19 years old I was sexually assaulted by this guy I just met and was dating. I didn't tell anyone, not even my friends. I was in college and it really messed me up to where I became depressed and had to take a break from school. I am now on antidepressants and am seeing a therapist. My therapist does not know what happened because I did not tell her, and therefore she hasn't been able to help me with it. My question is, should I tell my parents what happened? They want to know why I haven't finished school yet and why I stopped going when I had a full scholarship. To be honest, I was too embarrassed to tell them what happened, and I was afraid they would blame me. I am trying to get my life bac...
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Is "gaslighting" an actual thing?
Posted Sunday February 28 2021, 1:53 pm
I hear people throwing that word around a lot and I wanted to know if it's an actual thing or if it's just something that people say when they don't want to confront something?
My dad has Parkinson's disease.... he first developed symptoms about 12 years ago. My mom and I were getting worried about him because his memory was starting to disintegrate. He would frequently forget stuff we just told him and he even got fired from his job because he could no longer keep track of paperwork. We tried to get him to drive less frequently and seek a specialist. Every time we brought up the subject, he would tell us that we were "gaslighting" him. That we were trying to convince him that something was wrong with his brain so t...
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Guilt tripping mom
Posted Sunday July 19 2020, 9:42 pm
I am a 28years old married woman and the only child to my parents. I am very close to my parents, especially my mom used to be my whole world before I got married. Things have changed a little bit now as I spend all the time with my husband in abroad far away from my friends, relatives and parents. My parents have a faulty marriage. Initially after their marriage, mom was abused and ill-treated by my dad and his family (typical Indian Joint family) but after my birth my parents moves to another city (close to my material grandfather's family and their relatives) due to my dad's office posting and started as a nuclear family. Now my mom got entangled by her parents and brothers family issues. They used to involve her on every family related ...
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Should I continue our sexual relationship or run far away?
Posted Monday July 6 2020, 7:21 pm
In April, I met this guy on Tinder. I’m 22. He’s 23. He told me he was on the app looking for a friend with benefits. I was looking for a boyfriend. But at the same time I’m not in any rush. He consistently messaged and video chatted for 2 months. After a while he said that he changed his mind. He deleted the app. That he wanted to be my boyfriend in the near future. We finally met in person, went on two amazing dates, then he pressured/guilted me into sex with him on our 3rd date. He said,
“If we both want each other, why aren’t we having sex? You’re playing games. I won’t pressure you to do anything you don’t want to do, but I don’t understand why we can’t have sex. If we stop talking today, I’d have l...
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Husband and in-laws problem (Indian)
Posted Friday June 5 2020, 6:52 pm
Being the only child of my parents, I was reared up in a very gender neutral environment. My parents are very broad minded and liberal. They have never stopped me from doing anything in life. They are very encouraging and supportive. On the other hand, my in-laws are very Orthodox and selfish and male-chauvinistic.Its been a year now that I got married to their son and they are constantly trying to dictate over my life.They wants me to observe some Indian hindu religious rituals on daily basis.I made it clear once that I am a secular person and won't observe them. They got offended and rebuked me by saying "it's irrelevant what you believe and don't. You had rights over your faith system when unmarried. Now that you are married and the...
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I'm being blackmailed and don't know what to do
Posted Tuesday October 1 2019, 5:15 pm
I started college in August. During my first week on campus, I met "Amy." We quickly became good friends. From the beginning, I knew that she was gay, but it didn't bother me. I'm pretty open-minded, despite my upbringing (more on that in a minute). I knew she was attracted to me too, which I guess I found flattering. For a couple weeks afterward, anytime we were alone and especially when we were in her dorm room, she would start working on me, trying to get me to experiment with her. Finally one night, when I'd had a bit to drink and we were again alone in her room, I gave in and had sex with her.
I didn't particularly enjoy it, but it was just an experiment, so whatever, right? But after that night, she began pres...
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Friend's boyfriend didn't stop, but neither of them communicated clearly...
Posted Thursday September 19 2019, 12:37 pm
A friend I don't get to see very often has been going through a really rough time. Her best friend just died a couple of months ago. She told me that, before her friend passed, she and her boyfriend were having sex pretty regularly, a couple times a week. They've been dating for a few years, and went through a rough patch in the spring, but otherwise must have been doing okay, until this. She told me that he wanted to have sex one night, and they must have already started, and he was asking her whether she wanted to continue or not. She said that she shrugged at him a couple of times, that she cried, and he just kept going til he finished.
She didn't tell me whether he knew she was crying, and she never gave him a clear answ...
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Friend's boyfriend didn't stop, but neither of them communicated clearly...
Posted Thursday September 19 2019, 1:13 am
A friend I don't get to see very often has been going through a really rough time. Her best friend just died a couple of months ago. She told me that, before her friend passed, she and her boyfriend were having sex pretty regularly, a couple times a week. They've been dating for a few years, and went through a rough patch in the spring, but otherwise must have been doing okay, until this. She told me that he wanted to have sex one night, and they must have already started, and he was asking her whether she wanted to continue or not. She said that she shrugged at him a couple of times, that she cried, and he just kept going til he finished.
She didn't tell me whether he knew she was crying, and she never gave him a clear answ...
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What should I do to best help my brother, and not hurt in the long run?
Posted Tuesday June 25 2019, 3:50 pm
Thank you in advance.
My youngest brother and I are ten years apart, and I'm the oldest at 20. He's recently been diagnosed ADHD, and he's obviously a little delayed and not very socially adept within his age group.
I moved out from my parents' house almost 2 years ago, and I've been realizing how fucked up our lives have actually been. My sister (18) and other brother (16) have moved out to live with our father,and my youngest brother is still living with my mom and stepfather. My step dad has borderline personality disorder, and my mother knows but looks past his behaviors and defends him because she loves him. I hoped that with the older, more stressful kids gone, life for them would get better, but ...
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Abusive relationship /parenting
Posted Monday June 3 2019, 2:05 am
I’ve been with my boyfriend going on three years now, and we have a one-year-old son together, and a have a daughter four-year-old daughter from a previous relationship, and he’s been in her life since she was one and he loves her as much as her father. Previous to our relationship before I met my current boyfriend I was going threw a stage trying to find myself so I messed around with one of his friends that constantly came to my job trying to talk to me at that time I was freshly single from a 8 years long relationship so I went for it and it was the worst thing I ever did he never told me of his girlfriend so when I found out I was so mad I slept with one of his friends one time and that’s was the biggest regret of my life because ...
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Does how my mother treating me count as verbal abuse?
Posted Sunday January 13 2019, 5:23 pm
My mother gets angry very easily, and yells and screams at me and my younger brother almost every day, although it is more often at me. I did do something wrong, but it is often very trivial (or at least I think so), like me leaving my sweater on the floor and forgetting to pick it up. She often says derogatory things to me, things like, "You don't deserve this", or "When you grow up, you'll become a stupid, useless, lazy person." She gets in my face a lot, but it has never escalated to anything physical. However, there are times when she is kind, and although she never apologizes for screaming at me, it's not like I have a bad life. My family is well-off, and I'm grateful for that so I feel a little guilty writing this....
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I raped him. 21, woman
Posted Friday October 26 2018, 4:41 pm
CW: rape
Two weeks ago now, I engaged in sexual interactions with my boyfriend. I told him that I didn’t want anything to happen to me down there, because at the time I was uncomfortable with it, and also I had just had a UTI and I really didn’t want to inflame it, but that I would go down on him. He was angry that I wouldn’t let him, and even though I persisted he was still sexual, and made advances… I escaped to the bathroom and showered so I would be able to get away. When I got back, he was still really sexual and took the towel away.
I felt wrong about it, but I knew from experience that if I said no, he’d get angry and I’d end up paying for it. I’m a victim of rape myself, and sometimes I can’t have sex ...
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Help
Posted Monday July 9 2018, 1:17 am
My story is actually pretty long but ill try to keep it short. I met this guy about two years ago, he wasn't my type but he seemed very nice so I gave him a chance. As the relationship developed I noticed his flaws such as anger issues - being rude and disrespectful. I myself have an attitude but its only when he starts. He's the type of person to make me believe that everything is me, he always tells me that its me me me and sometimes I believe it. Half of my family doesn't like him, my parents like him but thats because they don't know anything, The relationship has gotten to a point where its toxic, not only does he disrespect me but he has put his hands on me MANY times. he has broken many of my phones, my glasses, has pulled my hair, c...
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what do i do my boyfriend called me a bitch....
Posted Thursday May 17 2018, 4:37 pm
so me an my boyfriend are long distance and so this week i said i wanted a break so it started Tuesday night so i texted him Thursday and said it felt like night days and that i miss him then he said your one crazy bitch that took me by shock like i feel its messed up but i also love him to death but should i leave him
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He wants me to have sex with the dog
Posted Monday February 12 2018, 11:53 pm
He has been rapping me and letting his friends have sex with me and now he wants me to have sex with a Great Dane dog
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Is he manipulating my close friend?
Posted Saturday December 30 2017, 6:14 pm
So, a friend of mine asked me for advice. She got into an argument with her boyfriend recently. She's currently seeing family over Christmas - his family don't celebrate it . He sends her a WhatsApp message telling her he's going to Manchester with a friend, that he's being picked up in her car , that's he's almost there and he hasn't brought his phone charger with him , and he'll speak to her Friday night. She then receives a Snapchat message from him with a message telling her he's actually going into the city (where they both are staying for uni) doing errands . Then he turns his phone off. An hour later he puts his phone back on , but his whatsapp says he's online he's just muting her messages.
She then get's angry, swe...
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Can Anyone Help Me?
Posted Friday December 22 2017, 2:11 pm
My question is because of my situation I want to know if there are people out there who will help others to start over and first listen to exactly what the problem was how it was resolved and what the outcome is been and how much it's destroyed my life and I want to know if there's organizations or people out there that are willing to help out an individual who is able to be helped and get on their feet to once again regain their life. I am not looking for Access welfare or I'm not looking for clinics like cope and mental health places I'm perfectly sane and understand exactly what my thoughts are in exactly where I'm at in life but it's so overwhelming that I need someone or would like someone who's able to help a person get on their feet ...
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Do I leave him homeless??
Posted Thursday November 2 2017, 6:30 pm
I'm in a horrible situation and need help fast. I'm 22 and he is 22, slightly younger than me. I have no one to talk to because I'm not supposed to be talking to him. I met this guy a year ago through a friend when he moved here from another state. He was staying with his friend who lived with my friend. I was also moving into an apartment at the same time. It's my first apartment and I got it all on my own. Me, jumping into adult life quickly, I let this guy stay at my apartment and then lived there and we were dating. Things got real ugly. Long story shot, I've called the cops on him 3 times, had him sent to a mental help place for saying he was going to kill himself, and he's punched a hole through my door and stolen hundreds from me, bo...
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Is there anything I can do?
Posted Saturday June 17 2017, 11:08 pm
I recently found out that my father has gotten married for the sixth time. I haven't seen him in five years. I am currently seventeen and live in Kentucky. I know that my father is an abusive, selfish man. He cheats constantly. He has a thing for young girls. Girls my age, and he's around forty now. I don't know his wife's age, but I do know that she will be abused emotionally and physically. I am honestly amazed that someone as lazy as him could put so much effort into tearing down another person. He never keeps a job for longer than a month, never pays child support, and just generally does little to support his children or anyone else. He preys on vulnerable women, finding younger girls with low self esteem, who are easy to manipulate. I...
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Should I change my payee?
Posted Thursday February 16 2017, 12:29 pm
I am a 27 year old female and this party Tuesday on Valentine's Dayi was sleep I woke up with my mom yelling at me about leaving the porch light on well the problem with her thinking I left the porch light on is that I was in my room asleep the whole time. I told her that and she called me a liar. Then she accused me of taking my nephew's pain medicine.I have never stolen anything from my mom in my life . I have 2 bottles of the same pain medicine that were prescribed by my dentist so why would I need to steal his. I get a disability check when I called the cops they took me to my aunt's and they suggested that I need to change my payee.I am scared my mom will get mad if I do that. Should I change my payee?
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