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Should I change my payee?
I am a 27 year old female and this party Tuesday on Valentine's Dayi was sleep I woke up with my mom yelling at me about leaving the porch light on well the problem with her thinking I left the porch light on is that I was in my room asleep the whole time. I told her that and she called me a liar. Then she accused me of taking my nephew's pain medicine.I have never stolen anything from my mom in my life . I have 2 bottles of the same pain medicine that were prescribed by my dentist so why would I need to steal his. I get a disability check when I called the cops they took me to my aunt's and they suggested that I need to change my payee.I am scared my mom will get mad if I do that. Should I change my payee?
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I used to be a caregiver for the mentally challenged. I am familiar with this situation. If it is as adviceman said, and you require a guardian, then the most likely one you are first given is a parent if they are living and and or if this disability occurred while you were a minor.
My of my clients was an adult and wanted to change who his guardian was. As I recall, it wasn't for any problems with the guardian, he just preferred the personality and got along better with a relative he wanted who was willing to do it. Then its an easy matter of going thru the proper channels to have it made legal. YOu'd have to ask your appointed social worker how to go about that. If you have their name but don't know how to get a hold of them, contact the local DSHS (Dept. of Social and Health Services and ask them for help in getting in contact with your social worker, privately without MOm knowing yet so she can't interfere. You need some one whom you trust to handle your money, not someone who comes unhinged so easily. YOu need to be rid of stress like that cus the disabled people I know of had automatically enough stress in their lives just finding alternative ways to do the same or accomplish all the things those without disabilities do, you just have different ways to do the same. That is stress enough without adding your Mom into your worries and concerns. If I were you, I would definitely change payee.
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I'm not sure I understand your question. Unless your disability is such that the courts have given your mother guardianship over you your checks should be made out to you. If you became disabled while a minor of course your checks would be made out to a parent or guardian.
If you do not require a guardian to monitor your finances then their is no reason for your mother or anyone else to be the payee on your disability checks. So by all means have the payee change to yourself. IF you do require someone to monitor your finances you can request that someone else be made your guardian and that your finances be administered by and independent third party such as a lawyer, accountant or Bank Trust Department.
If I have misunderstood your question please clarify and I will attempt to answer you again.
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