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He's distant now
I've know this guy for almost a year, we used to talk pretty often and hung out a few times. Were both attracted eachother and we hunting about 2 weeks ago and he stayed the night. While we were in bed we started making out and stuff and I told him I wasn't going to have sex with him (because there were other people in the next room) but we continued anyways. He wanted me to give him a blowjob instead of "leaving him hanging" but I didnt want to so I gave him a handjob instead. Since then we've only texted a few times and he always seems busy, his replys are short and really spaced out. Was he just using me and now he's dropping me because he didn't get what he wanted? I'm interested in him but I just feel like I'm bugging him when I text him.
18/f
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Yes it does seem that way. Be straight with him. You never know unless you ask. But well done for sticking to your guns x
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It does seem like he lost interest because of that.
It's not like you were in the wrong anyways. He isn't a decent guy if he expects things out of you and if he doesn't get them, he drops you.
Guys always want sex but a lot of guys can control it. He shouldn't be ignoring you because of that. You didn't leave him hanging, he should be grateful.
I knew a guy who was like this and then he'd stop talking to me and then when I realized how he was, I stopped texting him and he ended up texting me again.
I mean maybe this guy is really busy. But even if he is, a guy who enjoyed a night with you and messed around with you would take a little bit of time to show he cares rather than act more distant.
If this guy is any good and likes you, he'd make a little more effort. So from here, just decide what you want from him and if he could even give that to you.
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I can't enjoy myself fully when I have to be quiet because others might hear. If its roommates in another room eventually with the right boyfriend, taking your time, you may become more used to doing things knowing others were near by but not in the same room. But thats something that may come over time.
If he was an understanding sensitive man, he would have cared more about your feelings than what you could do to get him off. Guys always have their hormones raging and sex on their minds. That is not going to change not even when you're decades older. At my age if a male friend gets overly focused on trying to even just talk about sex, he tells me to slap him back in place so to speak. They respect that I am married. Men will find their "little head" getting temporary control of the conversation over the "big head."
Don't give in to anything that makes you uncomfortable. Put a guy back in his place and see which ones disappear and avoid you and which ones stay. The ones who stay simply need to be told what your boundaries are, how you like to be treated and they are more likely to do so. the ones who left like yours did, are not good boyfriend material, period!
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Yeah he probably didn't get what he wanted and is keeping you on the back burner in case something he's more interested in doesn't work out.
Even if not he's a guy who asked you to blow him instead of "leaving him hanging" which is about the most unclassy bullshit imaginable. You can do better.
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