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Ме and му friends both 13 female and I used to cut and tried killing myself by taking a od. Anyway lately friends been cutting hecticly, she started friday and been cutting over the weekend and has been telling ме how she wants to die and she's planning on comitting suicide. I'm really worried about her. How can I make her stop and give her good advice and what can I say to make her think a little? I can't tell sanyone about it though so please don't say tell her parents because they know and she just gets grounded for it and they fight because of it which makes her cut even more. Her famils the main reason of her cutting.
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im crying right now........i understand ive cut for years and am 13.ITS NOT WORTH IT!!!!!!!!tell her its NOT COOL AND SHES NOT ALONE.CALL A SUICIDE HOTLINE AND REPORT HER>TELL THE SCHOOL COUNSLER BE BRAVE!DO NOT LET THIS GIRL DIE DO ANYTHING IN YOUR POWER TO STOP HER.go on youtube look up reasons to live and LAURACANFLY.she is an angel for cutters and will help.get helllllp.go to stopthescars.com.please dont let an unworthy bully or family kill another girl.go to standforthesilent.help now.im here.
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Well you're in a tough situation. There's not much you can say or do to get her to stop on your own. You can be supportive and tell her how much you love her but she could possibly have depression, and that can't be solved by a friend telling her she's loved.
I know you probably don't want to tell an adult. That's where the tough part comes in for you. You probably don't want her to get mad at you. But I was in your friends situation once. My friend knew I was cutting and she knew I wanted no one to know but since she loved me and wanted to help me, she told my schools counselor. While the counselor had to tell my parents, I knew that my friend cared enough to try to get me help.
You definitely should be worried about her because she's thinking about suicide. So it's better to have a friend who's mad at you, than a friend who's dead. That's how you have to look at it.
Since her family isn't helping her, she should talk to a counselor or some other trusted adult. You could have her talk to a doctor as well. Talk your parents and see if they could help you out.
Since her family is a big part of why she's doing this, she's only 13, she is going to be living with this for the next 5 years. So if you leave her like this with just some encouraging words, it's not going to save her life than what you really could do for her.
I was in her situation when I was 14. When my parents found out, they grounded me for months and I couldn't see anybody. I wish I had gotten help sooner. I made sure my friends wouldn't tell anybody because I was afraid my parents would get mad again. But I had one friend who really knew what I needed.
So don't let her waste her life, get her some help.
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The truth is, there's only so much help you can give before you have to get an adult involved.
I know how it feels-you don't want anything to change between the two of you as friends, but you want to help her in a way that causes the least amount of trouble.
I'm not a doctor, but if she wants to kill herself she sounds depressed. If it is about her family-then there you have it-that's where the blame may lie and that's how your friend can get better.
You'll have to tell a teacher, a priest, a neighbour...a responsible adult. I hope you realise how serious this is...people get sectioned for this kind of thing, or put on suicide watch.
Telling an adult will help your friend the most. If you try to help her alone...by say typing in 'cure for depression' into Google, it's not going to work. Because you don't have the resources and adult does, and also if you cut yourself, that suggests you're perhaps a little depressed to. So the last thing you want to do is club together with a fellow person who is depressed, because you don't want to be swung to her point of view.
If you tell an adult, they can drive your friend to speak to a doctor and a counsellor.
I suppose it all starts with motivation. You're friend can get better, but it means being brave, in the sense that you have to put your personal views aside e.g: you don't want to change the relationship you have with your friend.
Telling another adult may be the hardest, and last thing you want to do, but it may be the only thing that saves your friends life.
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