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ex is harrasing me what should I do ?
I am a 24 female and my ex is a 20 year old. He lives with his mom and dad and I live with my mom if that helps any. we only dated 7 months I broke up with him for several reasons .
reason number 1: He was constantly trying to talk me into having sex with him even though I told him I wanted to wait till marriage because I was trying to get my life right at time but he finally succeeded and talked me into it. He did this by saying things like I could always get sex from some girl in another town and looking to have sex with people he meets off of face book I saw the ad he posted my self.
reason number 2 is because he was emotionally abusive . If I said no he would yell at me and call me sorry .
he would also make me give all my money to him when I got my pay check and now when we have been broke up for a little over a year now he is harassing me . He does this by calling my mom's cell phone because I have gotten a number because he wouldn't leave me alone . I blocked him on face book. I have even called the police and all they did was warn him and I have a new boyfriend now who says that if he doesn't leave me alone he can't handle it anymore and will break up me what should I do please help me.
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Have your mom block him as well and go to the police again. Get a restraining order against him, that way if he goes near you he will be arrested.
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The person before is right, you need to go to the police again, speak to them and tell them everything, see what you can get him arrested for, maybe a restraining order? This is defiantly harassment and you can defiantly get some help.. Don't give up. This is harassment. Make sure it is known x
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From what you have written I would say you have a fair chance at bringing either sexual harassment, harassment and possibly even a rape charge against him. I say possible rape for as I read what you wrote It sounds as if you consented only to stop the harassment. This to me is not consent and in most states is consider rape in a lesser degree, 3rd or 4th.
You have several choices here. You can if you wish simply communicate to him that the sex you had with him by law is not considered consensual and is therefore rape. That if his harassment of you and your family does not stop immediately you will bring rape charges against him.
Another choice is to contact you local states attorney or district attorneys office and discuss with them harassment, sexual harassment and the possible rape charge and see what charges they are willing to bring, sign the charge sheet and leave the rest to the courts to handle.
Last you can contact a lawyer or your local legal aid office for help. They can advise you as to what your options are. AT THE VERY LEAST ON OF THEIR LAWYERS CAN SEND HIM A LETTER EXPLAINING TO HIM WHAT YOUR OPTIONS ARE AN TO HELP YOU FILE AN ORDER OF PROTECTION AGAINST HIN.
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Your mom is a big girl. If receiving these calls from him are disturbing to her, she can block the blocks if possible or do the pain in the butt thing of changing her cell number and telling her friends her new number. As long as she stays with the same servive I don't see how that would be a problem. He doesnt have your new cell. In the meanwhile, tell mom you are no longer taking calls from him and make sure she understands why. Its not a bad thing to admit to her what was going on in case she doesnt know. What would be bad if you had decided to stay with him.
What about his parents, do you suppose they could be any help talking to him?
Apparently your new boyfriend isn't man enough to deal with it. Does he feel jealous about this sick attention from an old boyfriend. Poor little boy is gonna run away cus HE can't handle this? Where in all of this do you come in? What should happen is that you find yourself a real man, someone who loves you enough to not stand for anyone harassing you like that. That kind of man will go over to the old boyfriends house and confront him. "This is MY girlfriend now. Your harassing of her must stop. You can't call her, You can not show up at her house or stalk her around town. If you do not stop, we will take this to the police."
Women who complain about something aren't taken seriously in the beginning because women are seen as emotional by men so if we ignore the problem, maybe it will go away. If a new boyfriend went with you, lets them know that you made a friendly call with the demand that he stop and he still hasn't you both ask to be able to put a "restraining order" on the ex. If they don't want to do it, then you simply have to say, if the law won't protect my woman, then I will and I may need to beat the snot out of this harrassing bully. Does it need to go to the level of him calling a restraining order on me for protecting my girl?
I'll bet all it takes is getting smacked good and hard once by your Real man, and the ex will leave you alone. You mention no dad, otherwise, if your dad was alive and knew about this, he should be the one to go over and deal with your harrasser becauses he loves you. What about a step dad? Any uncle you are close to? You need some male in the family or a boyfriend to go over and put that young brat in his place.
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