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Girl in Love with another Girl (should she tell her)
Hello. So I will try to sumamrize this story.. all tho it is a long one. I am a sixteen year old female high school studnet. I have this best friend named Lisa..Lisa is friends with Jane. Jane lives out of state tho, and is 3 years older than us. As a joke, Lisa made a group text wih Jane and I. Well, me and jane, as we were talking realized we are alot alike. Now me and Jane talk literally every second of the day. I tell her eveything. She tell me eveeything. I recently found out she was gay.
I have never liked a girl in my life..and never planned on it. I am totally accpeting of gays, just wouldn't be itnerested in trying it.
Me and Jane talk so much, we call eachother fiance and fiance. as a joke of course. But recently, I have started liking it. Alot acutally.
I get excited to see her texts. I love talking to her on skype every night. we talk for hours. this is crazy because we havenever met..but i miss her alot.
I think i am in love with Jane.
accept...she is a girl.
And i dont like girls.
As so i thought. I have never had one thought abut girls before Jane. So i am just so confused now.
But i want to be with her.
What do I do?? should i tell her. because if i tell her..things could get realllyyy messed up.
And at the mioment, I need jane and cant emss thignsup. I tell her everything in my life, and loosing her.. i couldnt get through high school.
I left some parts out....so if you need more info! message me.
Thanks.
Gray
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If you can talk to her about anything then just be honest.. Tell her exactly how you feel.. Well mention you think you may be bi and you're not sure what to do and would like her help, as a friend.. Or maybe even experiment, just kiss a girl and see how that makes you feel. But I think the other person was right, you do not actually know her physically, you haven't met her face to face and this is the 1st time you have had feelings like this, so although you feelings may be genuine, don't look too much into it or stress yourself out because sometimes the mind does trick us into feeling this way when we get shown a certain amount of attention we may lack from others or crave/enjoy...x
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Well you're in a tough situation.
So maybe you're bi, maybe you just like the idea of it.
Anyways, if you don't want to mess things up, then don't tell her. You've never met her so right now, you love her as a person rather than in love with her because you've never personally met her and you only know what she tells you. You don't see her around her friends or family.
I mean I'd say go for it if she was where you were but it would be ten times harder since she's not there.
So for now, I'd keep being friends with her and if you start noticing other girls, you might figure out how you feel about girls and boys.
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Hi,
Firstly, we can't message you if we need more info, because Advicenators never reveals the name of the question asker.
It sounds like you're confused. You need to consider whether your liking of Jane has any Gravity to it, beyond psychology.
You're in a different state, and because you cant really see her, that could be whats making you want her more.
You never said your age or hers, but its ok to be bi-curious, many teenagers go through a stage like this. Of course, you cant rule out teenage hormones.
The only way to go from here is to meet up with her, I think. If you don't want to get into a relationship with her, then stop talking to her right away.
Why not organise a trip for your friend and her? This is the only way you'll know if you do like her as a person, not just as a cyber friend. Remember-people can be very different online to what they are in person. I'm not saying its really a 50 year old man! I'm saying she could actually be shy in person.
I think it'll do you good, to meet her and see whats she's actually like in human form. Whatever you do, don't go typing away to her about how you're in love with her, before you've actually met her in person.
You need to maintain some credibility, and do this the mature way.
Arrange that 'date'-bring other mutual friends with you and just go shopping or whatever. Get to know her. I know if she lives in a different state this may be tricky, but it really is the only way to truly discover your feelings
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