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I'm in love with my same sex cousin...
He is 15 and I'm 16. He's a solid Jehovah Witness and very closely follows doctrine. I really fell in love with him. I would always be thinking about him and hanging out with him and texting, calling, video chat. We live fairly close. I got the courage to tell him I was bi and loved him at the same time, he was shocked and needed some space. I saw some hope in his voice though. I'm 80% sure he's straight, although religion might cause him to hide it if he is. I want to have a strong relationship forever and can't live without him, he means the world to me. I'd take a bullet for him. My teen "love" hormones are also very high. I'm a little confused because he's family.... What should I do? How do I keep him as my BFF, and still have "fun" with him? Any other comments?
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Having sexual encounters with family is considered incest, This is a crime.
There is NO hope and there shouldn't be, He is your family.
You need to respect that, Back off and be his cousin or loose him altogether.
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I'd have to say even if he did feel the same way, it's illegal whether you guys are blood related or not.
You can talk things out with him and try to stay friends with him but believe me, it probably won't be the same anymore.
I think that's the best thing you can do in this situation because incest is illegal. So talk to him and see if you can stay friends because it seems like he might be uncomfortable.
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This is incest, and it's a crime.
If you feel this way for him, I understand it must be confusing for you. Its great you get on, but not in that sort of way. The fact you're both boys does not matter-if it was a boy and a girl I'd still be typing the same thing.
You need therapy to get over him. I think you probably shouldn't have told him you loved him-that was a bad move. You need to apologise firstly for making him feel uncomfortable. If you don't want to speak face to face, write a note.
Say: 'I realise I made you feel uncomfortable, and it was highly inappropriate for me to tell you what I did'. Then go on by explaining your at a very confusing, teenage point in your life.
You can't have him as any more than a BFF and it not be a crime. It also sounds like he doesn't want to have 'fun' with you-why not find someone else who actually wants to be with you-that would be a start.
For now, you'll have to accept that things are different between you and your cousin, and possibly face the fact that they always will be. Give your cousin a break from yourself. Try not to speak to him/text or even see him for abit. Just carry on with your life. When you feel mature enough and the harsh prick of emotions has passed by, then try writing to him and saying sorry.
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