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Liking a guy
I'm 15 years old.. a freshman.. and i like his sophmore guy. lets call him D. my friend is R. well anyways my R has liked D for about a month. but ive liked D for like.. around 5-6 months.. she has NO idea what i feel about him.. in fact i told her that i didnt like him cause i couldnt trust her with my secret.. D told me that he dislikes R. R doesnt even TALK to D.. only on msn for liek.. 2 min once a week!
WHAT DO I DO
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I don't recommend telling your friend you like "D" because it sounds like she will tell him before you do. So my advice is to talk to "D," let him know how you feel if he doesn't already know, and see if he feels the same way. If so, talk to your friend and she should understand -- if not, she's not being much of a friend to you. You have liked him for a much longer period of time and you two actually talk, and communication is key in any relationship.
So talk to "D" and tell him how you feel, if things work out, talk to your friend and she will understand if she's a good friend. If she doesn't, do not worry about it, you don't have anything to feel bad about and she will most likely come around anyhow.
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You should NEVER let a guy get in the middle of your friendship no matter which one of you likes him or no matter how long which one of you has liked him. I guess what I'm saying is who do you care more about "D" or "R"? "D" is just some guy that you like... what about "R" though? She is your friend and that would be a bit of a hurtful move if you decided to go after him even if he doesn't like her. My advice is forget about the guy and continue your friendship...because if you choose to go for the guy its going to possible hurt your friendship a lot. If you were to do that it would be a bit selfish...how would you feel if she did that to you?
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hmmm R sounds like a complex person, or a not-so likeable person, if a guy she doesnt talk to (hence D) openly says he doesnt like her. Or maybe D is not really a nice person. just saying. sorry im pretty honest.
I say, dont tell R you like D unless she's your really really best friend. Cos you know, she might be mad she'll tell D about you liking him and tell him your other secrets or make up bad stories and ruin any chance of you and D. they still talk, you know, on msn. as rivals in love, girls can do some real mean stuff.
and if things do eventually go well for you and D and nothing can come between you, then you should nicely tell R. if she's a real friend, she'll understand. and if you feel bad about taking D from me, go hook her up with some hot guy ;P
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If ''r'' Is your friend she should understand that you like him and that you he does not like her,then thats all the opportunity in the world to have to talk to him and don't let her feelings for him Get in the way of your happiness But don't tell her that he does not like her, Let him tell her because ''r'' Would think that you are just saying that so you can destroy her feelings. But by all means,take a shot at it because if you never try you never know
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If, "R" is your friend, then she'll understand if you go out with "D". "R" has obviously shown that she doesn't like him, even though she says she does. You should totally go for it.
If "R" does really happens to like "D", then you should explain to her, how you were waiting for her to make her move, being the friend you are. Don't rub it in her face, or this might end in a love triangle. You don't want that to happen. Good luck. And remember, you're still young, and dating should be for fun.
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First of all, you need to stop calling people your "friend" if you cant trust them. That just confuses issues like this one.
If "R" is your friend, really, you need to tell her that you have liked him for 5-6 months and you need to apologize for lying about it. Then you need to sort out with your friend what to do about it. (Decide if one of you will back off for the other, or let the guy decide and you two agree to abide by his decision, no hard feelings.)
If "R" is not your friend, really, then you dont really have a problem concerning the guy. You dont need to worry about damaging a friendship that doesnt really exist, do you? However if this is the case, you should stop pretending to be R's friend if you really arent. Apparently R is confiding in you, so R may not realize you are not really friends. Honestly, that seems like that may be at least partially your fault.
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