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Are there any products that can cover up a mole on my face? I'm getting it removed sometime in the future, but for now I need something that can hide it. Foundation and powder aren't that thick enough to do the job. (link)
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Dermablend is a foundation designed to cover things like moles, port wine birthmarks, etc.
It is also relatively comfortable for a foundation with that level of coverage.
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My boyfriend is going bald but he doesn't seem to have a problem growing facial hair on his chin. Why do guys seem to do that? My principal is REALLY bald but has a beard, too. Is that normal? Does their hair just stop growing on their heads and grow more on their face then? (link)
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Well, without getting too technical, the reason men who go bald seem to have no problem growing beards is, testosterone.
Facial hair and scalp hair are different types of hair entirely. So, its not a matter of "wearing out the follicles" with brushing. Men can go bald for several different reasons, but one very common reason is that in some men they carry a gene that causes their bodies to convert testosterone to a substance called DHT which damages the follicles on their scalp. The more testosterone they have, the balder they can be.
(Which could also explain why women tend to be so forgiving of a bald head on men, bald men tend to have more testosterone, which women find sexy)
However, facial hair grows because of testosterone. Which is why men only begin to grow it at puberty. The more testosterone, the more facial hair. So, what causes lots of facial hair in some men, can actually reduce their hair on top, if they also have the baldness gene that causes the production of DHT.
So, no, they dont grow more facial hair because they are bald, it all boils down to testosterone and that gene that causes it damage scalp follicles when it is converted to DHT. If they had high testosterone but did not carry the gene, they would have plenty of hair on their heads and on their chins.
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heyy,
okk so theres this guy that goes to my school and hes in grade 11 and im in grade 10 and we go on the same bus and we talk in groups of people and stuff and i think i like him so everyday after school hes always really early so the past week ive been trying to hurry on so me and him can just talk and we have like 3 times and its really easy to talk to him.... so yesterday was the last day of school before spring break and i thought about asking him for his number or like ask to see his phone and then be like can i put in my number :) . but i totally chickened out .. so is it weird for a girl to do thaat to a guy ? or he added me on facebook a little while ago but he never goes on chat he usually just goes on his phone .. so if i wanted to talk to him then i would have to message him .. people dont really message people alot ... so what do you think i should do ? or should i do nothing? please any suggestion will help =)
thanks ,
kaaitlyn (link)
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Its not bad to ask for a guys number, or even to give a guy your number. Some guys are shy, and if you didnt they would never be able to call you.
However, once you know for a fact that he has your phone number, pay attention to whether or not he calls you back. If its always you making the calls, no matter how nice he is to you on the phone, he probably isnt interested in you as a girlfriend.
There is nothing wrong with taking the initiative, but if its ALL you, thats the time to either move into the friend zone, or bow out gracefully.
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Heyy, So there this guy that I have seen since september and I always think he's soo cute and some of my friends are firends with him . But I'm not good friendss with them so I can't really just go up and start talking to him. So I have a couple options, tell my friend that i think he's cute and to talk to him for me? Or they are on the track team and so are my friends but there not friends with himbut they know that I think he's cute so they think I should go to track and try out so I can talk to them bout track and well be on the same team, but the thing is... I hate running and I am really bad so I would probly embarrass myself? And if you do say the first one .. What do I tell my friend to say to him to seem I interested but not creepy ?
Thanks
Kaaitlyn (link)
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Well, although I usually advise someone not to change who they are for someone they want to date, I would say you should join the track team.
There are more events in track and field than just running. Shot put, discus, javelin, lots of jumps, and so on. Besides, only one person wins a race. Just because you arent the best does not mean you will embarrass yourself. Everyone comes in second, third, or even last once in a while. You may even be good at it, once you train a little, and running is one of those things thats sucks if you rarely do it, but feels good if you train in it.
You will not only give yourself the chance to get to know the guy better, and see if you really like him, but extra exercise is just plain good for you. You can always quit if you really hate it, but you never know, you might actually like it once you get over the initial suffering. ;)
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what could you do if, say, you over-plucked your eyebrows? i read in a magazine that you can use an eyeliner pencil and i usually do that to kind of "darken" my eyebrows anyway but when i try to "fix" them using that technique it just doesnt seem to look right. so how could you fill in the messed up/empty spots without makin it look obviously fake. my eyebrows are a light blonde if that helps... (link)
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Another trick is to take a mascara brush in light brown since you are fair, and lightly brush that over the thin spots. Because it is a brush, it will go on in streaks rather than a solid color and look more like hair rather than just a weird spot in your eyebrow.
Good luck, and over plucking happens to the best of us, so you are not alone. ;)
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well theres this guy at my school and i dont know if he likes me it seems like he does but he used to like my friend and i dont want to get my heart broken again and he knows what ive been through with these other guys and i know some stuff about him i seriously dont know what to do what should i do anybody please answer my question i dont want to get my heart broken anymore =*(**** (link)
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I am going to be very honest with you.
No matter how much you dont want to get your heart broken again, I can promise you that it will. No love story has a happy ending. Even if you meet the man of your dreams, marry, have tons of wonderful children and grow old together, odds are, one of you will die first and the other will have their heart broken.
Love is a wonderful thing. But love and heartbreak go hand in hand. Instead of worrying about your heart breaking, just enjoy what you have while you have it. Instead of focusing on what might happen tomorrow, (which can ruin today) just enjoy today.
Also, a lot of times the very things we do to try NOT to get our hearts broken are the very things that drive the other person off.
Take it day by day, enjoy every moment, and try not to worry about the heartbreaks to come. They will get here when they do, but dont let future heartbreaks ruin your present.
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i broke up with my boyfriend of two years because i found out he was cheating on me for the last 4 or so months of it. then he went out of his way to turn people against me and break me down with all my weaknesses he knew, it was hell. but now his mom is in the hospital and not getting better. i was tryin to be nice and tell him shel get better n itl be ok and all. he went off on me, it just hurts i went out of my way to try and help them but now im hurt again.. how do i just give up on him? i love his family i dont want any thing to happen to any of them. what do i do? (link)
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This is going to sound a little harsh, and I apologize in advance.
It isnt only your boyfriend that has issues. You do too. He may be mean, and clearly you are not, but you seem to be lacking in a little self love.
Sometimes something about the way we grow up makes us feel a little unlovable. And sometimes that makes us a little too willing to put up with behaviors that really arent ok. Or to seek out people who dont really love us, and to try to make them love us to kind of prove to ourselves that we really are lovable.
Unfortunately, this really never works. And you cant fix this problem by focusing on his issues. You can only fix it by working on yours.
You need to be your own best friend. I know you care about his family, so do send her a card or some flowers. But dont keep putting yourself in positions where someone who doesnt love the right way can hurt you. You need to just make up your mind that no matter what nice things you can think about him, that he is not good for you. He doesnt, or cant, love you properly.
Would you advise your best friend to talk to her ex after he cheated on her and slandered her to everyone? Who used all their intimate knowledge of her to hurt her or shame her publicly? No. You wouldnt. You need to think of yourself as a friend, and show yourself the same love, the same concern you would a separate person who was your friend.
When you ask how you just give up on him, you need to ask if somewhere deep inside you feel that if he would change his mind, or treat you better, that would prove something about you. That you are good enough for someone to love.
The truth of the matter is that you ARE lovable. You are worthy of someones love. But you may be picking people who cannot love you the right way because of some hurt in your past you never really got over.
Just try the best friend trick, and never let yourself do anything you would not advise your best friend in the world, or your child if you have any, to do. Dont put up with any treatment you would not want someone you love to tolerate. You have to love yourself that much, and protect yourself that much. And when you do, you will start to pick people who are able to love you better.
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18/m.
Last saturday it was my friends 18th birthday, and we went to this restaurant for dinner, then hit a few clubs. During the restaurant, my friend introduced me to her friend (kate), who was at the restaurant, but for another party. My friend gave me kate's number, and i was texting her for awhile, and we've been talking on facebook abit since.
Today however, our mutual friend (who introduced us) arranged a sort of first date. Me, kate, and out mutual friend, all going to see a movie? My friend rang her, and asked if she wanted to see a movie, and then she told kate i 'might' be coming. Kate then said "should i be scared?", my friend said "no, dont worry, i'll be there". What the hell does "should i be scared" mean!?
Now, i dont know what to do...ive never done this sort of '3 people on a date' thing? its kind of wierd, but i suggested it, because i didnt want kate to feel awkward, or wierd.
Any advice for the night? do you think she got the wrong idea or anything, she might think i just want be friends? what did she mean by "should i be scared?" Any advice would be good, thanks in advance. (link)
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It could just mean that Kate is shy, and she was kinda joking kind of not to break the tension with your mutual friend.
Some shy people find dating very intimidating. Even if, especially if, they like the person and want to get to know them better. Some people who dont seem shy are only shy around people of the opposite sex they like. (I personally fall into this category.)
Your mutual friend may know this, and may be trying to arrange a date for the three of you hoping that Kate will get to be more comfortable around you, so that you can progress to more normal kinds of dates.
If you like Kate, just go and be yourself. Pay attention to things like whether or not she has a hard time making eye contact with you. Or if she fiddles with things nervously. If she just isnt interested in you at all, she wont appear nervous, she wont care what you think of her, and she will just be herself and not interested in you.
If she likes you, she will be less forthcoming in person than online, and she will act nervous and awkward around you, which can be mistaken for not liking you, but if you watch carefully, you can tell the difference.
I think the odds are good that she likes you and is shy, and is just afraid to take the plunge of a real two person date on her own at this point. I dont know her background, but for me, I grew up in a small town, and I have never been comfortable as an adult dating men I dont know personally. I need to know them a little to get comfortable. This may be the case with your Kate as well.
You will find out soon enough, but thats what I suspect. Good luck, and try to have fun and get to know her better.
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You know those random freckles on your body (could be black colour or brown colour) like one on your face or a random one on your arm? I have a few little ones on my face but there's this RED one that's not too far under my eye and because I just really looked at it, I noticed that it's red and not one of those normal freckles.
I don't know if they are blood clots (there are 2 more around it but miniscule dots like a pen dab); I looked up pictures of blood clots on Google but those pictures are hideous and nothing compared to three little dots on my face.
The red freckles, I've had them this year in various places on my body. It could be one on my neck and then in 5 days it'll disappear and might appear some other time somewhere else.
I don't know if I should go see a doctor for this because it might not be important and could be taking up someone else's time that really need it, but the one red freckles I get disappear within 5 days and the ones under my eyes have lasted about...3 weeks?
Have you had them before and had something done? Or have any relatives that are in the health profession that can clear this up for me? (link)
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It could be "cherry angiomas." Its really hard to tell without seeing them, but follow this link and take a look at the pictures, and see if they look like what you are describing.
http://www.drmelton.com/Chicago/Cosmetic_Surgery/cosm_lesions/Red_Spots_on_skin/red_spots_on_skin.html
If they do, they arent anything to worry about. If not, you may want to see a dermatologist.
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This is going to be long and u can't believe I'm actually writing about this.
I dated this guy for a really long time and I had a bff for a way long time. Me and my ex broke up and we were friends but still loved eachother and wasn't with other people. But eventually I got over him. I ended up getting locked up for over a year, and when I got out, everything was different. My bff was a virgin and girly and didn't smoke weed, and bow she was completely different except for the virgin part. She hooked up with a good friend of mine the whole time I was gone, and I guess a bunch of shit went down.
She met these two girls named Mariah and Jessica. She became mariahs bestfriend and Mariah moved in with her, saying she comes from a brokeN home. Btw I'm 17 at the time and so is my bff. So is Jessica but Mariah is 14.
Mariah ends up taking my bff boyfriend and it happe overnight and left my bff crushed. Then all our friend started turning on her and me for being her bff and we lost a bunch of friends.
Well they had their drama, and my bff and Jessica fought and my bff won. We thought the drama was over but it just started. After this, Jessica hooks up with my ex and starts callin me names and spreading rumors. The funny thing about it all is I've never Hung out or truly met her or Mariah. So now this Jessica is messig with me and getting on my nerves.
We ended up fighting twice and I beat her up, but of course she says she wins. I've left her alone and tried my hardest to Ignore it but she doesn't stop. She thinks I'm jealous she's with my ex but I'm not. I'm mad she thinks that amd calls me names.
I ended up deleting my myspace because she kept sending me shit n if I blocked her, her friends would. I don't wanna call the cops I'm not like that. And I'm not scared of her at all. But I try to ignore her but she sticks in my head. I don't ever see her, she hassles me on the phone and computer. So I deleted everything and don't answer private calls.
I know I should ignore her but omg I wanna hurt her so bad. I've never hated someone before.
I have a concert next Friday I've been waiting all year to go to and she's going to be there. I don't wanna miss the show, but I'm worried about what might happen.
And btw, I'm no longer friends with my bff so I lost everyone and I have no one on my side anymore. I don't know what to do (link)
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Often times what we think is "hate" is actually just really deep hurt.
I know this is going to sound weird, but what I would do is find a way to speak to her, in private, and tell her some of the things you have told us.
That you arent mad because she is dating your ex, and that you are hurt and angry that she is calling you names.
I would tell her that if she really doesnt want to be friends with you anymore, then thats fine. But I would tell her calmly that none of this drama was what you wanted, and that you hoped she could at least just let it go. Tell her it is too bad that your friendship is over, that that isnt really what you wanted, but tell her there really isnt any reason to be enemies just because you arent friends.
It may not work, she may still be as petty and mean as she is now. But, there is a small possibility it will make her think twice. And there is a big possibility that your being very honest and open about your feelings instead of lashing back will make you feel better about yourself.
Good luck. I know thats a rough position to be in.
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Well, my friend is going to give this cute kid my number and I really want him to like me when he texts me but I don't want to act like a dork. So, I came up with the conclusion I am going to try and play hard to get. My best friend is a guy and he said that kinda thing about a girl really turns the guy on, makes them work for what they want. So, when he texts me and asks if it's me or just says hi, I need to act surprised that he's contacting me. If I know he's gonna text me and I portray that in my texting, he's gonna think I'm desperate. I just don't know how to play hard to get without coming off as a jerk. So, when he texts me hey, I'll say hey and who is this (because I'm not supposed to know it's him ;))then I would assume he'll bring up something about me liking him and I'll say "woah, getting ahead of yourself there, buddy, I just said you were cute, that's all". Please help me in trying to be more hard to gettish, I want him to show me that he wants me (if he does) and that he is willing to work for me. If he even texts me to begin with, I'll be happy haha. Thanks! (link)
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I think you should just be yourself too.
If you want to play a little hard to get, just let him take the lead. Let him text you first. Let him call. Dont all of a sudden send him a flurry of texts or calls just because he sent you one once. If he sends you one, send him one back. And then wait to see if he sends another. Also, if he is texting back and forth with you for a while, you can always say, "Oh sorry, gtg for now, I have _____ to do. It was really nice talking to you." End the conversation first, but politely, before it drags on too long. Let him know you like him, but that you have life too. And never ever break plans with your other friends to do something with him. Tell him you already have plans, and let him know when you are available. If he really wants to see you, you can find a time that doesnt involve one of you being rude to your current friends.
Hard to get doesnt mean being rude when they talk to you, it just means dont YOU chase THEM. Let them come to you, and if they do, be your normal sweet self. But after they do, dont pursue them or bother them to death. Let them continue to take the initiative. If they dont continue to call or text, just let it drop and realize they werent that interested.
What makes some people look desperate is that they get a small indication someone likes them, and then they stick to that person like glue, or they call and text incessantly. Or they are 100% available to that person at the drop of a dime. Just dont do that, and you will be fine.
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my roommate and i caught a family of mice, and we want to keep them as a pet. they are field mice.
is it ok to keep them?
and if we do decide to let them go will they come back inside? or will they fnd a new home outside? (link)
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Its probably ok to keep them, but depending where you live it may not be a good idea. Some places, (like in the southwestern US) mice can carry some really deadly diseases. (Hantavirus, plague)
If you live in an area where wild mice dont have any dangerous diseases you could probably keep them safely. But they will probably never be tame, so they wont be good pets.
If you let them go outside, they may sneak back in the house, but they wont come up and be friendly. I found a litter of baby mice and fed them and cared for them for quite a while, and they were always terrified of me, even though I basically raised them. The wild ones just dont tame up well usually. :( I eventually let them go when they were old enough.
Its probably best to take them a distance away from your house and just let them go. I know they are cute, but they will be happier living in the wild.
There are some really cute tame mice in pet stores. If you really want a pet mouse, I think those would be a much better idea. Pet rats are even better as pets, because they are very smart and friendly.
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14/f
first off, sorry for the stupid name of this. i didn't know what to call it.
second, i really don't want to come off as a bad friend at all. because i'm not i love my best friend it's just i don't know..
here it goes, it seems guys like my best friend better. well, to be honest i think i'm prettier than her. i know that sounds terrible but it's the truth. sure, she's pretty too but i just think i'm a little prettier. so please don't judge me or anything because i say that. anyways, she's really social. like i am too but she's more loud and talkative i guess. like she always has to have someone to talk to and i don't mind the quiet. well, she never stops talking so it does get a little annoying and my other friends agree too.
it's like every guy likes her better than me. and she's a little conceited because of it. and when i'm around her and guys it makes me feel bad about myself. i just don't see why..
thanks in advance, and please don't give me shit. i'm not a bad friend. i just really needed to get this off my chest and get advice.
and thanks if you read this all! (link)
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Guys are intimidated by girls. Especially pretty girls. If you are prettier, (and I am not judging, I havent seen either you or your friend) but you are more reserved, you may be more intimidating.
If your friend is pretty also, but more outgoing, and she makes them feel more confident that she likes them, they will spend more time talking to her.
It doesnt mean they think she is prettier than you. They may actually think YOU are prettier. But liking a person is about more than just looks. Most of us like people who seem to like us.
You could try making the guys feel more at ease, and the best way to do that is to focus on their feelings, not your own. What I mean by that is stop focusing on whom they like better when they are around you both, and pay more attention to them and how they might be feeling.
This strategy works with more than just guys, btw. The more concerned you are with the feelings of those around you, and the more comfortable you make them feel when they are around you, in general, the more they will enjoy your company and seek it out.
Being pretty actually makes it a little harder for you. You have to extend yourself just a little more because guys do get intimidated around pretty girls. (Except for jerks, they usually target the pretty girls because the nice guys are too shy to go up to her)
Dont change the person you are JUST to get guys to like you. That would be unfair to you. Just realize that they are shy and insecure around pretty women, and maybe make them feel a little more secure around you by making it really clear that you want their company.
I would say that is what your friend really has going for her. She makes it VERY clear she WANTS to talk to them. And so they feel comfortable doing so.
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well ive been friends with this girl for already a long time! its just that lately i just find her very annoying for no reason! i feel wierd around her and i dont talk to her anymore! what should i do?? (link)
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This happens in romantic relationships too. And in family relationships. When we first become friends with people, both are really trying to please one another. Over time, you get comfortable, and you know a lot about the other person, and you stop trying to please one another. Many relationships break up when this happens. (If they arent family)
However, I would like to suggest to you that this is just a normal part of relationships. Its just a stage. And, it says more about you than it does about her. You could use this stage of the relationship to work on your own feelings of judgment. Instead of judging the way she eats, and being annoyed by it, try to focus on your feeling of judgment, rather than projecting onto her the annoyance.
When we become judgmental about others, we also tend to be more judgmental about ourselves. Have you been more critical of yourself lately too? Thinking you "should" do this or that? Look like this or that? Act like this or that? Accepting people for who they are, has benefits for you too. If you can be less judgmental of her, you may find you are also more accepting of yourself.
Good comfortable friends are hard to find in life. Be patient with her and yourself, and work on accepting both of you for who you are and appreciating that.
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My cat keeps pooping outside her litter, she's 9 years old, I clean the litter at least twice a day, the litter brand has not been changed. The only thing I believe it is caused by is that we introduced two cats in the house about four months ago, although she only started doing this this last week. I believe that could be the problem but I need her to stop! I cannot remove the other cats because they belong to my roommate and my lease isn't up until July. Is there any advice anyone can give me? (link)
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I personally do not think you will need six litter boxes, I think you can probably get by with one extra box, kept only in your (her) bedroom. And for good measure, use a squirt bottle to keep the new comers out of your room just to give her her own "space." Cats are territorial, and she may just want her own box, in her own room.
Also, you didnt say, but is she pooping on anything in particular? Or just any where? WHERE a cat is using the bathroom outside of the box can sometimes give you clues who she is mad at, if it is an anger issue, and not a health issue. (I had a cat who would pee on my mother in laws pillow when she spent the night, because she didnt like her, for instance.)
If there seems to be no rhyme or reason to the poop locations, and the extra box in the interloper free room doesnt help, then I would consider taking her to the vet. If it were pee, I would suggest that first, in case it was a urinary tract infection. But poop makes it more liking someone thinks their living conditions are "crappy" at the moment, and they are trying to motivate you to fix it.
One last thing, getting mad at the cat that is mad at you, (and the rest of the household) will probably not help. I would quietly clean it up, and not make a big fuss about it. If you punish for it, it may make the anger issue worse. Wait until she is doing something good, and then give lots of extra love and kisses, so she knows she is still the best cat in the house.
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Ihave a 2 month old kitten and notice lately hairloss on her back and sides,she doesn't seem to be sick she plays with the others kittens ,but was wondering if or what should i do. (link)
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It could be mange, as the other poster suggested, or it could also be food allergies.
What does the skin look like? Mange often makes the skin kind of yukky or scaly looking, while food allergies will cause the kitten to scratch off its own hair, often leaving the skin slightly pink with some scabby spots where they scratched too hard.
If you can afford to, take her to the vet. If you cannot afford to take her to the vet, I would recommend changing her food, (to something with no grain or fish, usually a pretty expensive brand) or asking your local pet store for a mange treatment.
If you use a mange treatment, be sure to follow the instructions exactly. Kittens that young have low tolerance for some of the pesticides in those types of treatments. Good luck!
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i just got out of a bad two year relationship a month ago. he cheated on me so i dumped him but i was going to wait to date again but i think im ready to start dating again but just dating not a serious relationship yet. iv turned down a few guys because i dont wana hurt my ex but how can i get him out of my head he hurt me i shouldnt wait if he never did, he even told me all about this new girl he went with so i got mad. now im not sure how to really flirt back to other guys just to see whos right. what are some sweet things to say or do to a guy friend youd like? and am i doing the right thing? (link)
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Your decision to start dating now or not should not be about your ex at all. You should not avoid dating because of his feelings, and you should not start dating because he "didnt wait."
Your decision to start dating or not should be based on one thing. Your state of readiness. Are you over him? If so, begin dating. If not, give yourself some time.
Here are some things I would like you to consider;
1) Most of your post about whether or not you should date involved your ex.
2) You said you got mad about him dating.
3)You were willing to hold off on dating to spare his feelings.
4) Your motivation to date now seems to be "payback" towards him.
All of these things make it seem as if you arent really over him. Give yourself some time. You need time to reflect about what went wrong in that relationship, what he did wrong, and maybe what you did wrong as well. Mistakes are fine, we all make them, but we need to learn from them. It is very hard to learn from our failed relationships if we dont give ourselves time to heal and think about them clearly once the emotions have settled.
I honestly dont think you are ready yet, and I think for your OWN sake you should wait.
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Hi im turing 16 soon and im a girl.okay so i have a guy bestfriend who i havent seen in awhile.Well we started to talk again and he was weirding me out and i told him his myspace pic is really creeping me out the very next day he changed it.Then i know for a fcat ppl comment his myspace but he only has my comments on his.hes says he dont remember me but then he said i missed you.is it possible he still likes me after all these years?
~Lady M (link)
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Well, it is hard to say for sure, as we only have one side of the story, yours. However, I would have to say that from what you have told us, it seems to me that he does like you.
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My girlfriend is an emo, and she wants me to cry on her "to increase sexual pleasure". What shall I do? (link)
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Well, sex should be fun for both parties involved, so if you would find that fun as well, cry away.
If you do not feel you would enjoy that, you can just tell her so. Being in love with someone does not mean you have to sacrifice your own happiness to make them happy.
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Okay, I know that birth control will chill your period ou t a little bit, and I understand that.
But is there something that I can take that'll make me have a period like, maybe only a few times a year?
A shot?
Medicine?
SOMETHING,
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Yes. There is a brand of birth control that will allow you to only have a period 4 times a year. I dont know if I am allowed to say brand names so I wont. But you can search the internet for "birth control fewer periods" and you should find it.
Good luck!
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