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First Date- Sort of
18/m.
Last saturday it was my friends 18th birthday, and we went to this restaurant for dinner, then hit a few clubs. During the restaurant, my friend introduced me to her friend (kate), who was at the restaurant, but for another party. My friend gave me kate's number, and i was texting her for awhile, and we've been talking on facebook abit since.
Today however, our mutual friend (who introduced us) arranged a sort of first date. Me, kate, and out mutual friend, all going to see a movie? My friend rang her, and asked if she wanted to see a movie, and then she told kate i 'might' be coming. Kate then said "should i be scared?", my friend said "no, dont worry, i'll be there". What the hell does "should i be scared" mean!?
Now, i dont know what to do...ive never done this sort of '3 people on a date' thing? its kind of wierd, but i suggested it, because i didnt want kate to feel awkward, or wierd.
Any advice for the night? do you think she got the wrong idea or anything, she might think i just want be friends? what did she mean by "should i be scared?" Any advice would be good, thanks in advance.
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It could just mean that Kate is shy, and she was kinda joking kind of not to break the tension with your mutual friend.
Some shy people find dating very intimidating. Even if, especially if, they like the person and want to get to know them better. Some people who dont seem shy are only shy around people of the opposite sex they like. (I personally fall into this category.)
Your mutual friend may know this, and may be trying to arrange a date for the three of you hoping that Kate will get to be more comfortable around you, so that you can progress to more normal kinds of dates.
If you like Kate, just go and be yourself. Pay attention to things like whether or not she has a hard time making eye contact with you. Or if she fiddles with things nervously. If she just isnt interested in you at all, she wont appear nervous, she wont care what you think of her, and she will just be herself and not interested in you.
If she likes you, she will be less forthcoming in person than online, and she will act nervous and awkward around you, which can be mistaken for not liking you, but if you watch carefully, you can tell the difference.
I think the odds are good that she likes you and is shy, and is just afraid to take the plunge of a real two person date on her own at this point. I dont know her background, but for me, I grew up in a small town, and I have never been comfortable as an adult dating men I dont know personally. I need to know them a little to get comfortable. This may be the case with your Kate as well.
You will find out soon enough, but thats what I suspect. Good luck, and try to have fun and get to know her better.
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ask your friend what "should i be scared" means. and bring another guy friend for your friend so it's kinda like a double date but kinda like a bunch of friends going out.
(or at least another girl... just have it be an even number... otherwise, SOMEONE is going to be the 3rd wheel)
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I guess it means 'Should i start freaking out, because i'm actually going on a date with him,whom i totally have a huge crush on'! I don't think it means anything else. And i think all parties of the story have good intentions, and i don't think that she thinks you only want to be friends, i think its a good idea, and you don't have to call this outing a date, its probably just getting to know each other, hang out, see what you have in common, and that's a way of taking things slow and not rushing, cause you haven't known each other for long, and you met through someone, so maybe its a better idea that this someone would be with you, cause other than that, although you texted and stuff, it would be weird, like going out with someone you don't know, cause you probably still don't know anything about her.And you know what, maybe that's good, cause maybe you wouldn't like her that way when you actually get to know her, so this way, you don't have to say that you went on an actual date with her, you just hung out you know. Just be cool, and let things fall into place, be yourself and go out and have fun, and whatever is meant to happen will happen, right? So if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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