Member Since: March 4, 2010
Answers: 23
Last Update: March 17, 2010
Visitors: 2373
|
| |
|
well theres this guy at my school and i dont know if he likes me it seems like he does but he used to like my friend and i dont want to get my heart broken again and he knows what ive been through with these other guys and i know some stuff about him i seriously dont know what to do what should i do anybody please answer my question i dont want to get my heart broken anymore =*(**** (link)
|
If you dont want to get your heart broken anymore, stop putting it in situations where it's going to get broken!
Learn to be independent and live for yourself. Add a guy in later if you choose to, but get to know yourself and what you really want first. Dont define yourself by your relationship status. Be friends with people to learn what you do and dont like in another person.
You know what the chances of a relationship working out that started in school? Even less than the chances of someone's first marriage working out. So dont bother putting your whole heart and soul into this relationship that would last at most a couple years (but really probably the most would be a few months) and then end with you hurting even more!
|
|
I'm very worried that when I get pregnant, I may not be able to support my baby. I'm 5'3" and around 95-100 lbs. I'm obviously a very tiny girl. I don't look sickly skinny, but I can still see my ribs and my hip bones stick out. It's not that I don't eat, because I eat a lot. I am also a runner, and have a fast metabolism. I am just scared that when I do get pregnant, I won't be able to carry my baby full-term or something else may go wrong. I have an older sister who is a bit smaller than me and the first time she got pregnant, she had a miscarriage. The second time, her son was born 2 months early (but lived) and while pregnant with her last son, she had was on so much medication to keep the baby inside her for as long as possible. Does anyone have any experience with this ? Or could anyone tell me what might happen ? (link)
|
Dont worry about your size... that is not what will cause a miscarriage or early delivery. My cousin is about your size and had her son just fine about 5 years ago, and he's actually pretty big for a 5 year old! My aunt was shorter (I dont know what weight she was back then) and had 3 kids who now tower over her.
You just have to eat right and live healthy and avoid bad things like caffeine and certain medications and this and that and this and that. Miscarriages normally happen because there is something wrong with the baby and it wouldnt come out right anyways. You do need to be careful, but dont worry that much because stressing will cause your body to terminate a pregnancy too. Someone who is average weight should gain 25-30 pounds during pregnancy, but if youre underweight, you should gain more; or if youre overweight, you gain less.
An OBGYN wont mind if you set up a pre-pregnancy appointment. They actually recommend it. They'll give you advice on what to do before getting pregnant and explain what goes on in the beginning of the pregnancy and beyond. That might help calm your nerves and get you a realistic view on everything....
|
|
What are the chances of getting pregnant if a condom and birth control are both used properly while having sex? I'm not talking about perfect use, but typical use. I already know the chances are slim, but for those who know the typical use statistics, could you please give me an idea of what kind of chance I am taking? (link)
|
That's funny... I was talking about that yesterday with a couple friends. I dont know actual stats, but I know plenty of "birth control-condom babies." Both of mine were "emergency contraception babies" (meaning I took EC and it failed. It's supposed to be 99% effective if taken within 72 hours, and I took it 7 hours later and still got preg!). I am also close friends with someone who recently got pregnant even though she had an IUD, which is supposed to be as effective as sterilization (the packet the doctor gave me said so).
I know this isnt what you want to hear, but my point is that there are definitely no gaurantees and it doesnt matter what the stats are.... all it takes is one time of it not working right...
Oh, and the stats the other person gave you are with perfect use. With typical use, I think each is about in the 60th percents or so. Not taking birth control pills correctly actually increases your chances of getting pregnant, so read the packet of info that comes with it, and be sure to take it perfectly, for your best chance.
|
|
today someone told me that theyre are going to college for $8.00. i find this to be outrageously wrong. i am going to pay about $12,000 for my college. she says she got a lot of scholarships and with the fafsa loans, she will only have to pay 8 bucks. do you think she was misled? or if this possible? (link)
|
It's possible, though it depends on exactly what she's saying. You can get enough scholarships to where you dont have to pay for anything... some will pay tuition, books, housing and everything. It sounds like she got enough to cover some of her tuition.
Then you can get enough from loans to cover everything too, depending on how bad off your and your family's financial standing is.
So if she's saying she's going to have to pay $8, that probably means that she got enough from the scholarships and loans to cover her tuition, except for the $8, for a semester.
If she's saying she's ONLY going to pay $8 EVER, then she's either full of crap or doesnt know how student loans work (thinking she doesnt have to pay them back???). But I'm sure that her FAFSA loans are not $8.
|
Hi,
My question is directed at people who have had a keloid scar and have had it removed in some sort of way.
I have on and it's the size of a dime, on my chest. I would have no problem if it was just a scar (I think they're unique) but this keloid is raised, ALWAYS red & attracts too much attention to my chest. I tried makeup, and steroid injections, neither of the two work.
I'm thinking about doing plastic surgery, but I'm looking for other options, so if you recommend ANYTHING, I'd be grateful. At this point, any ideas would be wonderful. (link)
| |
Talk to a plastic surgeon... There are multiple procedures they can do, like cutting it out vs laser surgery or something. I looked into it once and I remember there were 3 options, but those are the only ones I thought about. I'm pretty sure there's a cream on the market that says it'll reduce scars, but I doubt it would actually work (like stretch mark creams.... sigh). It could be worth a try if you dont like the surgery options though.
|
|
I met this fantastic guy several months ago. He is so honest and up front about things and we've talked about long-term possibilities. I know he likes me, I like him too. I even told him that if by chance he popped the question, I would say "Yes!" in a heartbeat!! This did not freak him out; in fact, he was glad to hear it and has continued to try and call me whenever he had time or a chance to. He's in the process of taking over a family business right now. It is a priority to him, which has a lot involved and has to be focused on this--this is his bread & butter. It however, has left us with very limited to no time to spend together. Sporadically, he would call me to meet at the very moment he is available, and often times, the opportunities pass and I may not get to return the messages until at least a few hours after he calls. By that time, he's busy again. The last time he called, I was sick and couldn't get back to him until 2 days later. At that point, he sounded a little down and asked, "Can we just work on being friends for now?” I asked if he had a change of heart and he responded, Yeah, a little. It’s just that things are a mess and I want to have things 'clean'." I happily accepted the fact that he wants to be friends, I kind of understand what he is going through (business-wise) and I asked if he wanted me to refrain from calling him. He answered, "Just for a little while, if that's okay." I accepted and asked if he will call me. Without hesitation, he said that he will. He needs to get "things" cleaned up and a few things lined out. He didn't like the fact that he had to inform me in the manner he did, but I graciously thanked him for telling me, regardless. He had another call coming in at that time and quickly stated, "We'll talk again later Sweetie." We exchanged our good-byes and that was the last I heard from him. I will wait for him, but at this point, I am holding on faith. How long is "a little while"? Shouldn't we be talking semi-regularly as "friends"? I don't mind giving it as much time needed, but it will almost be 1 month after we've last spoken. Would it be okay to contact him later down the road even after I asked for him to call me? How should I approach this? If I do call, how much time should I wait until I attempt to? (link)
|
I'm sorry too, but the other answer is probably right. Your post actually reminded me of last weeks episode of "How I met your Mother." The episode was called "hooked." You should really watch it. It sounds just like this.
But dont stress.... someone better will come along! Might as well start giving someone worthwhile your attention.
(final word of advice... beware of any relationship that makes you want to marry them after just a few months. You definitely dont know someone well enough in that period of time... guys are still in their "only showing the good parts" phase.)
|
Hi! I would really love to hear from everyone, ESPECIALLY those who have lost a lot of weight (like 60+) or are seeing results currently.
Well, I'm young, only 18... and I have a huge issue with my weight. Ever since elementary school, I can remember being one of the heavy girls in class. Now, I'm 5'4 and my weight usually ranges from 190 to 200. I've tried diets, I've tried working out, but I can never commit. Right now I live in a household where you will never find healthy choices like veggies, fruits, whole wheats, etc. And it's not my family, so I don't dare ask them to buy ME anything, I just take what I am given, you know?
I don't have a job right now, so I can't even buy my own food. I don't know, I just wish to lose weight. Can anyone give me any advice? Does anyone know where I can buy good machines (like ellipticals) for a reasonable price? ANY type of help would be appreciated! (link)
|
Inclines!
If you can find a cheap treadmill, go for it, but make sure the inclines work. Otherwise, there are probably places around you where you can join a gym for $10 a month, which is really good. Go and just use their treadmills. Work out for 30-60 minutes 3-5 times a week. Do 5 or 10 minutes on flat, and then 10 at incline, then 5 or 10 flat, then 5 or 10 at incline, etc etc. This keeps your heart rate going up and down, which makes you lose more weight. If you just go flat, your heart stays at a steady rate and doesnt do as much work.
Inclines!
|
18/m.
Last saturday it was my friends 18th birthday, and we went to this restaurant for dinner, then hit a few clubs. During the restaurant, my friend introduced me to her friend (kate), who was at the restaurant, but for another party. My friend gave me kate's number, and i was texting her for awhile, and we've been talking on facebook abit since.
Today however, our mutual friend (who introduced us) arranged a sort of first date. Me, kate, and out mutual friend, all going to see a movie? My friend rang her, and asked if she wanted to see a movie, and then she told kate i 'might' be coming. Kate then said "should i be scared?", my friend said "no, dont worry, i'll be there". What the hell does "should i be scared" mean!?
Now, i dont know what to do...ive never done this sort of '3 people on a date' thing? its kind of wierd, but i suggested it, because i didnt want kate to feel awkward, or wierd.
Any advice for the night? do you think she got the wrong idea or anything, she might think i just want be friends? what did she mean by "should i be scared?" Any advice would be good, thanks in advance. (link)
|
ask your friend what "should i be scared" means. and bring another guy friend for your friend so it's kinda like a double date but kinda like a bunch of friends going out.
(or at least another girl... just have it be an even number... otherwise, SOMEONE is going to be the 3rd wheel)
|
i always get weedgies , how do i prevent this from happening ?
-meghan:) (link)
| |
your body is not shaped for the brand that youre trying to wear. try a different brand. thats the only thing that worked for me.
|
okay ...
well there was this quy *jason* that i thouqht was really cute & i started talkinq to him (not leadinq him on thouqh, just as friends), but i liked him, he just didnt know. then i saw a picture w/ out his shirt on & i qot totally turned off cause he had a biq belly button & biq nipples. is that really messed up ? or am i just weird ? lol.
be honest. (link)
|
I think the answer was pretty good, though I dont see where you said youre 13.
I'm going to go off of personal experience and say that you cant be with a guy that totally disgusts you. There has to be some kind of physical attraction. We all have different tastes, so what's "perfect" or "acceptable" to one person is completely different than what the next person wants. Some people may find him acceptable. If you can deal with it and want to, go ahead. It sounds like you cant/dont. You realize that now, so you can get out before you've invested too much.
You can't marry/be with everyone; there's always going to be a deal breaker. It's likely that there's someone equal to or better than he is anyways. Think about his friends. Or some other classmates or something. You dont want all of them. Why? Because they're not cute enough or interesting enough. And that's ok. Youre not going to like everyone and not everyone is going to like you. But someone will like them and someone will like you. That's the great thing about this life/world.
|
I'm an 18 year old successful student at a top college...and I've found myself with the crazy urge to have a baby. This started in October. My boyfriend of 8 months and I ran out of condoms and had unprotected sex. It was the first time we had ever done it without one and I was terrified. A week later we broke up due to stress from living in different states. A couple weeks later I found out I was pregnant and I was scared to death, then a couple days later I had a miscarriage. Two months later we got back together and he now lives half an hour from my school. He knows I miscarried but we don't talk about it.
Since we've gotten back together we've had sex without a condom..a lot. Every so often it makes me nervous that I'll get pregnant again, even though he always pulls out, he pulled out the first time and I got pregnant on precum. But sometimes I'm completely unconcerned that I'll get pregnant and have a "if it happens, it happens" type of attitude about it.
I know he doesn't want kids now. His best friend is a new dad and he always talks about how stupid he was to get his girl knocked up but we're pretty much putting ourselves in the same situation.
I've always wanted children and I wanted my first by the time I was 24 so I've always wanted to be a younger mom but I never thought this young. Part of what makes me feel this way is seeing my boyfriend when he's around children. We're good friends with a 26 year old couple with two toddler girls and whenever my guy is around the kids he's so amazing with them.
I know his family would be supportive and knowing that isn't helping me get myself out of that. I know its hard to have kids, I've babysit triplet boys from the time they were born until they were 6.
I have the urge to have a baby, and I need to get out of it. (link)
|
First of all, just because youre a "successful student" right now, doesnt mean you would be if you had a baby right now. At 18, youre probably a freshman, which means the hardest is yet to come. You need to have fun and experience college life right now. It wouldnt be fair to a baby to have to share his/her mother with classes and homework, nor would it be fair to either of you if you quit school to work a minimum wage job to pay the bills. If you get your degree, you'll be worth a lot more to employers, which means you'll be worth a lot more as a mother.
Babysitting kids is a lot different than having your own. In some ways it's better to have your own, and in some ways it's worse. Either way, your life will be much easier if you have a good job and financial security first. Your baby will be much happier BECAUSE YOU will be much happier without the stresses over money. I had my first baby at 22 years old... he was one month old when I walked at my graduation, and my life is much more happy and stable than anyone I know who had kids at 21 or earlier. They are all struggling to get through school while their kids suffer because their parents cant spend enough quality time with them. Everyone loses when you have kids too young, and with this economy, you really cant afford to not get your degree.
On a final note, dont plan to count on any man or his family. They always seems supportive in the beginning. You always think "no, THESE people really are great/helpful/whatever." Dont count on it. The only person you can ever truly rely on is yourself. So put yourself in a position where you can take care of yourself before you think you can take care of a baby too.
|
|
okay i'm 14/f and i already have my ear lobes pierced. today i asked my mom if i could get my cartilage pierced and she went off and said no. i was like wtf? the only reason she had was that ears aren't meant to be pierce their ears there. i even offered to pay to get it done but she still wont budge.. how can i get her to let me get it done? im about to just do it myself.. (link)
|
These other people have given good advice. However, if your mom is anything like my mom, she's not concerned about the risks of it and nothing will change her mind. My mother is insanely conservative and got pissed when I pierced my belly when I was 18.
I do agree that you shouldnt bother going behind her back. She will find out and then that's just one more battle youre going to have to fight, and since youre a minor, youre going to lose it.
Worst case scenario, wait until youre 18.
Something else you could try, though, is to have her actually see what it looks like. Beware though, that could make her be more against it. If you have any friends that she really likes and thinks are so good, see if they will get one, and then either ask to go with that friend to get them together, or show it to your mom after that friend has it done.
My mother is all about appearances and judging people from the outside. Anyone who has any kind of piercings or tattoos outside the ordinary is automatically trashy. Your mother is probably just worried that one piercing will lead to another, and then another, and then a tattoo, and then a biker boyfriend, and then an unwanted pregnancy, and then and then and then.....
So if you really want one, even if not now, but in the future, show her that you are a good kid with your head on straight and that you can make good decisions and this isnt going to change you or ruin your life. Point out that it's not a permanent body change and can be reversed (essentially) at any time. It's hardly different than getting a new hairstyle. Seriously.
If that doesnt work, though, dont flip out on her. Just walk away maturely and re-approach some other way later. Just being honest, though..... there's nothing I would have been able to do to convince my mother.
|
|
My daughter is only, 12 days old. Premium Formula makes her eyes real goppy she can't even open them we are taking a warm wash rag over and over again wipeing her eyes several times about every 5 minutes. I switcher her to Soy milk and she got really bad diarea but her goppy eyes stopped and I was afrid she was going to get dehydrated so i m oved her back and called the doctor and still waiting to hear back from her has anyone expierenced this or no someone that has? (link)
|
That first answer was right... your breastmilk is made perfectly for your baby. It's always the right temperature and has never been recalled like formula. There's no trial and error to determine what she may be allergic to or have problems from. You dont have to deal with cleaning bottles or making sure to pack bottles when you go out. It helps your baby's brain develop so much better.
It's not too late to start. You can contact a lactation consultant for a cost, or a La Leche League leader for free. Most of the time, they are as good as a lactation consultant. Go to llli.org and then find your location. You should be able to find phone numbers or email addresses of people near you who really want to help. Including me... just let me know if there's anything I can do to help. I know it's what's best for babies and I would love to help your baby get what's best for her (and you!).
First of all, you rated the other breastfeeding answer as a 4, so I figured you wouldnt be close-minded to the idea. The entire point of my post is that you CAN breastfeed if you actually WANTED to do what was best for your baby. It just takes a little work and a little help, and I told you where to get it. If you want your baby to keep suffering, go ahead.
|
|
Hi I would like to know how i can PLEASE my girlfriend WITHOUT sex. I have never dated before and need help. Thank you. (link)
| |
The only thing they missed is massages. Massage her feet or back or neck. Start gentle and only apply deeper pressure as she asks for it. You can google it for tips on how to do it well. Every girl loves a guy who gives good massages!
|
|
so im a 19/f and i was talking to this guy. it all started at school one day in the lunch line. after that i added him on faceboook. and we didn't really talk til he messaged me and asked me about my name. well we were talking & then he asked me for my number but i didn't give it to him because i didn't really know him that well. well we started talking more & then i finally gave my number to him. & we started talking on the phone and texting. but our conversations always seemed to be about sex. like how many times he masturbated, & we had phone sex. after that he blocked me on facebook & stopped texting/caling me. and then last night he texted me randomly & i didn't know who it was. he said no one, but i told him to tell me who he was and then said who didn't want to tell me because he thought i would get mad, but i wasn't. then he started telling me how he got nervous to be in a relationship with me so thats why he ignored me. & then he told me it was because he onl wanted to have sex with me. he told me how sorry he was etc. and i asked him if he still wanted to be with me & he told me he wasn't sure. and i told him that im not going to pressure him to be with me. he said he felt bad for just talking to me about sex & then ignoring me all these months. & i told him that i thought he was sweet but im not sure if talking to him still is a good idea. help? (link)
|
He already admitted he only wants you for sex. He's hoping you'll say ok and be his booty call (no strings attached and if you get hurt, he doesnt have to feel bad since he was up-front about his expectations). He sounds like an ass... he probably had someone he was screwing for those couple months that he was ignoring you, but now thats over and so he's decided to try for you again.
For some people, that kind of relationship is good. It doesnt sound like thats what you want though, and you shouldnt settle for being used if youre not getting what you want out of it too.
|
|
I was dating this guy for like 3 and a half years, we broke up but still hung out all of the time, still had sex, the whole thing. We basically broke up because of money I was raised rich and he was raised poor he doesnt work but he gets disability income meanwhile i believe in working im in college and have always seen myself becoming well off like my parents. but we broke up because i was no longer willing to help support him, so he's moving back home to the west coast next week. And now I'm so confused. Now I'll have the chance to work and save my money, spend it on myself, not have to worry about him- but im devistated. If I had my way I'd drop everything put school on hold and move with him, which would devistate my family and I'm pretty sure I'd never be well off. I don't know what to do I know that if we were to get back together we'd have the same stupid money fights, but if i can accept and make peace with the fact that we will never be rich together it would hopefully make the fights less frequent. Is it dumb to throw away oppurtunity for love? I see myself graduating and going over to be with him later in life but I can't even imagine life without him at this point. But I'm 22 I'm not old but I'm not that young anymore and I feel like I need to hurry up and decide what to do with my life. So... now what. (link)
| |
I agree with the other answer. You made your decision. Dont second guess yourself. Differences in views on money is the number one reason for divorces. It's not something that person will change about himself and it's not something you can change in yourself. Yes, you care about him, but that's not always enough. I gaurantee that you will find someone you care about more and will have the same views as you, and because of that, you will respect that new guy so much more, and you can actually have a relationship without a lot of fights. He's obviously not concerned about the future and you just cant build a real relationship on a foundation this rocky. Trust yourself. In the long run, you know this is what's best. You shouldnt give up the life you want for some guy who wont change anything for you. You shouldnt have to sacrifice, and if you do, you'll resent him down the road for it. I'm positive that you'll look back at this in a few years and say "what was I thinking???" You just need to give yourself that space to show yourself what you can do with your life when youre not being dragged down by supporting someone else. It may not seem like such a big deal right now, but like I said, when you look back in a few years you'll think you were crazy for wasting so much time/energy/stress/money on such a lazy mooch. (seriously, he cant get a job and support himself... he has to move back home to mommy? come ON!)
|
|
cap so I want to ask somebody to the prom but I don't just want to come right out and say hey you do want to go to the prom? So does anybody have some good prom asking ideas? I would like it to be something that will be remembered years later if possible. :-) (link)
|
Are you the guy or the girl? I'm assuming the guy...
You could start out by talking about what she's going to wear or do to get ready and say something like
"wow I bet you'll be gorgeous. whoever gets to take you is so lucky. any chance for me?"
or "hey youre wearing red (or green or blue or whatever)? How great would it be for me to accent my tux in that color and we show up looking awesome together?" (or "... looking like the most awesome couple there?" or "and make everyone jealous of us?") (or if she doesnt know what color she's wearing yet, ask if she'd want to let you know later for those same reasons)
This is a fun question... I'll keep trying to think of some. Am I on the right track at all?
|
my boyfriend is 19 and I am 15 and I really want him to kiss me but he won't kiss me in public because he is afraid he would get in trouble. Is kissing a minor illegal or something? I thought it was only against the law if we had sex?
Does anybody know? (link)
| |
Each state has it's own laws. Google it for your state.
|
so i just recently lost my virginity, and i dont feel anything. I didnt like it or dislike it. It just felt like a casual thing. I'm not in a relationship with this guy. I've barely seen him, but we have talked for a long time. I dont feel any regret or sadness or anger.. i dont feel anything.
Is this good or bad? And why do i feel like this? (link)
|
People put way too much emphasis on first times for everything. It really is ridiculous. I felt the same way as you after my first time, though I was in a relationship with the guy. How old are you? My guess is that you were simply just ready. When you do it too young is when you have all these freak outs and crazy emotions.
Beware though.... this may not last forever. For me, when it was over with that guy, it was a little harder for me. I didnt realize that I'd had expectations I guess. You'll probably feel something about it once there's some time distance in there. You'll be fine though. Dont worry about it. Why would you want to feel regret or sadness or anger? lol that's not what it's all about!!
You can only be a secondary virgin if you plan to not have sex again until youre married. Sorry =P
|
What are some ways to strengthen my tooth enamel? I have heard that there are certain foods that strengthen and certain foods that weaken tooth enamel, is this true?
Are there any vitamins or minerals supplements that I can take to strengthen my teeth?
Thank you for your help. (link)
|
drink a lot of skim milk. it's done wonders for me, even making cavities fix themselves!
I'm pretty sure youre supposed to stay away from coffee and sugary stuff. Taking prenatal vitamins probably couldnt hurt, but a calcium supplement should be sufficient if you dont want to do that. Be sure to get some sun too... no matter how much calcium you put in your body, it wont get absorbed without vitamin D (which you mostly get from the sun)!
|
|