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i don't know about this guy.
so im a 19/f and i was talking to this guy. it all started at school one day in the lunch line. after that i added him on faceboook. and we didn't really talk til he messaged me and asked me about my name. well we were talking & then he asked me for my number but i didn't give it to him because i didn't really know him that well. well we started talking more & then i finally gave my number to him. & we started talking on the phone and texting. but our conversations always seemed to be about sex. like how many times he masturbated, & we had phone sex. after that he blocked me on facebook & stopped texting/caling me. and then last night he texted me randomly & i didn't know who it was. he said no one, but i told him to tell me who he was and then said who didn't want to tell me because he thought i would get mad, but i wasn't. then he started telling me how he got nervous to be in a relationship with me so thats why he ignored me. & then he told me it was because he onl wanted to have sex with me. he told me how sorry he was etc. and i asked him if he still wanted to be with me & he told me he wasn't sure. and i told him that im not going to pressure him to be with me. he said he felt bad for just talking to me about sex & then ignoring me all these months. & i told him that i thought he was sweet but im not sure if talking to him still is a good idea. help?
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Get out while you still can! This guy has trouble written all over him. If the only thing this guy wants to do is talk to you about sex and have phone sex with you, thats the only thing he associates you with, and all you'll ever be to him is a sort of indirect booty call. I know its kind of harsh, and you probably expect more from him.. but you can do so much better. I would label this guy a douche. It sounds like he's just into playing games. Think about it; he said he was nervous about being a relationship, which is his excuse for ignoring you, which would lead you to believe that he's talking to you again because he finally realized he WANTS a relationship with you. Then he goes and says he doesn't know if he wants a relationship. Don't waste your time on guys like these. They're no good.
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I can safely say, you're right - talking to him isn't such a good idea.
He ignored you for months and admitted he only wanted sex. Seems to me, he's not getting it in other places and is crawling back to you.
The main factor is how you asked if he wanted to be with you and he said he wasn't sure. If a boy wants to be with you, he just knows, either a simple yes or no. The fact he said he wasn't sure is making you hold on to him in a way, to see if he will change his mind.
Do yourself a favour and move on. You can do much better and find someone who would jump at the chance of being with you.
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He already admitted he only wants you for sex. He's hoping you'll say ok and be his booty call (no strings attached and if you get hurt, he doesnt have to feel bad since he was up-front about his expectations). He sounds like an ass... he probably had someone he was screwing for those couple months that he was ignoring you, but now thats over and so he's decided to try for you again.
For some people, that kind of relationship is good. It doesnt sound like thats what you want though, and you shouldnt settle for being used if youre not getting what you want out of it too.
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A 19 year-old male is obsessed with sex and this surprises you? 8)
Seriously, males at 19 are nowhere nearly into the emotional side of relationships as females. however, if sex is the only thing that a guy is after, then looking for more than that out of him is a waste of time.
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if you want a sex buddy then yeah. it doesn't seem like he wants a relationship since all you talk about is sex. he made it pretty clear that he only talked to you because he wanted to have sex with you. if you're going to just talk about sex then he will start to expect it from you. there are a lot of red flags about him so if you don't want sex then i would just stop talking to him.
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If the guy is talking to you about sex, Then that right there should raise the flag considering you do not know him that well. It sounds like that is all he might be thinking about, It sounds funny how he would come out and talk about sex but ignores you because he is too scared/nervous to be a in a relationship? Don't take offense here but he sounds like an immature pig. I think you deserve someone who is going to show you the same respect you show them. A guy who talks about sex 24.7 and then ignores you isn't worth it.
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