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i really need advice
well theres this guy at my school and i dont know if he likes me it seems like he does but he used to like my friend and i dont want to get my heart broken again and he knows what ive been through with these other guys and i know some stuff about him i seriously dont know what to do what should i do anybody please answer my question i dont want to get my heart broken anymore =*(****
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Funny, you never said if you liked him.
If you don't like him, there isn't a problem.
If you do like him, well, I guess if you foresee yourself being heart-broken, it's best to not put yourself in that situation.
There are plenty of "fish in the sea"
--Jack
(18/m)
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Well I hate to break the news but you're bound to get your heartbroken again. There is no way of preventing it from happening...it sucks I know! I've been through heartbreak that you can't even imagine. It was better in the days of kindergarden when you had a little crush on a boy. There is not much you can do to prevent yourself from heartbreak...well there is one thing you could stay in your room for the rest of your life. I doubt you want to go with that though. There was a guy I once knew he's honestly one of the smartest guys I know and I keep refering to him in a lot of my advice but he had a poem about risk. It was called "ONLY A PERSON WHO RISKS IS FREE" by Author Unknown.
In the poem it says:
"To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach for another is to risk involvement.
To expose your ideas, your dreams,
before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To believe is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken, because the
greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The people who risk nothing, do nothing,
have nothing, are nothing.
They may avoid suffering and sorrow,
but they cannot learn, feel, change,
grow, love, live.
Chained by their attitudes they are slaves;
they have forfeited their freedom.
Only a person who risks is free."
The poem is one of my favorites...it definitely makes you think, doesn't it? So if you want to know if he likes you then the best thing you can do is ask. If he says "yes" thats great...but if he happens to say no...its not the end of the world...there are more boys in the world. Good luck! :)
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I am going to be very honest with you.
No matter how much you dont want to get your heart broken again, I can promise you that it will. No love story has a happy ending. Even if you meet the man of your dreams, marry, have tons of wonderful children and grow old together, odds are, one of you will die first and the other will have their heart broken.
Love is a wonderful thing. But love and heartbreak go hand in hand. Instead of worrying about your heart breaking, just enjoy what you have while you have it. Instead of focusing on what might happen tomorrow, (which can ruin today) just enjoy today.
Also, a lot of times the very things we do to try NOT to get our hearts broken are the very things that drive the other person off.
Take it day by day, enjoy every moment, and try not to worry about the heartbreaks to come. They will get here when they do, but dont let future heartbreaks ruin your present.
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If you dont want to get your heart broken anymore, stop putting it in situations where it's going to get broken!
Learn to be independent and live for yourself. Add a guy in later if you choose to, but get to know yourself and what you really want first. Dont define yourself by your relationship status. Be friends with people to learn what you do and dont like in another person.
You know what the chances of a relationship working out that started in school? Even less than the chances of someone's first marriage working out. So dont bother putting your whole heart and soul into this relationship that would last at most a couple years (but really probably the most would be a few months) and then end with you hurting even more!
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dont rush for love, try to be friend with him, and he will comme to you
just because he break your friend heart doesnt mean that he is going to break your heart too, maybe him and your friend didnt have something in common, but you never know , maybe you and him have something in commons
be patient my dear
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Well don't rush into anything just yet. Try flirting with him more and talking to him more during and outside of school. In the halls and between classes and at lunch at school, and then on IM or over myspace/facebook, texting at outside of school. If he starts dropping hints like majorly flirting or texting you back right away, he might be into you. Try to build up a good friendship with him and see what happens from there. And if it ends up that he doesn't like you, don't get discouraged. There are plenty of guys out there and you WILL the guy for you :)
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