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hello :)my name is amanda.
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19/f
So yesterday, my boyfriend of a year and a half went to a college that is an hour and a half away. He is a freshman and i am a sophomore that is commuting to a community college. The problem is, the college he is at always has horrible traffic that would make visits really difficult. Both of us have been preparing for this for a while now, and we know that we are going to do whatever it takes to make it work because we love each other more than anything. It's just, yesterday made me really nervous because i barely heard from him at all. And when he finally called me, he was all frustrated because he couldn't find a private corner to talk to me in. I had to rush through the details of my day and so did he, and it left me with a really uneasy feeling. I know it was his first day and he had a lot going on, and things will probably straighten out in a week or two... But for the time being i am absolutely miserable. I am going to try and stay busy this week until school starts, and we even have visits planned soon. I guess I just need advice on how I can start coping with these difficult changes. I am so sick of websites telling me to deal with the fact that it might not work, i know in my heart that it will. I just need a little guidance on how not to lose my mind for these first couple of days haha.
Any advice would be much appreciated!
I'm in a long-distance relationship as well and, like you, I have had a hard time adjusting. My boyfriend went to college six hours away about a week and a half ago and since then it has been very difficult for me not to feel really sad about it.
I'm going to be honest, sometimes communication is hard. My boyfriend has already started his classes, whereas mine don't start until tomorrow. Sometimes it will feel like he's too busy for you, but don't let that plant a seed in your head. The first few weeks are a time of adjustment, and in the beginning it will be rough and hectic, but you'll get into a good routine and things will start to slow down.
For daily communication, my boyfriend and I like to send quick little texts throughout the day. Just something little to let the other know you're thinking of them. Sometimes in between classes he'll give me a call, but we usually have a 30 minute to hour long conversation over the phone at night once a day or so. Skype is AMAZING and it helps a ton. It's nice to see the other person's face. A couple times a week is great. It's also really good for anniversaries/birthdays. It feels like a treat as compared to texts and phonecalls.
Keeping yourself busy is a great idea. I haven't been very busy lately and it just makes it worse when you sit around with nothing to do and think about how much you miss the other person.
The fact that you already have visits planned is great! Instead of thinking about the long term (the fact that you'll be apart the whole school year), try breaking the time up. When I measure the time in between visits as opposed to the time we're apart overall, things are much, much easier to deal with. Breaking it up into intervals of a few weeks makes it feel much more attainable :)
Keep in mind that people (and websites) are not going to be supportive. Stats on long-distance relationships show that many of them do fail. But if you work hard to sustain your relationship and really want to make it work, I believe that you can do it. It's good to remain realistic about it, but that doesn't mean you have to be negative about it either! Keep an open mind and try not to listen to the naysayers.
It does get easier! :)
Hi there. 15-F.
Alright. I think I sing DECENTLY? But not toooo well. And I'd like to try and change that.
Does anyone know any free online things I could try that could help me shape my voice so I sound nice when I try and sing?
If you've tried it, please give reveiws. Thanks!
I've read online about this program called Singing Success. It's a bit pricey but there's a money back guarantee if you don't like it. I know that the guy who developed it, Brett Manning, is the vocal coach for Hayley Williams, which is awesome. And I think he's coached Keith Urban and Taylor Swift too. I haven't tried it yet but I am saving up for it! I suggest you try it, I think it would help. Here's the link to the website, check out the videos and stuff.
http://www.singingsuccess.com/
Hope it helps! And let me know if you try it!
I really need to find out whats wrong with me. Im almost 17 and ive never had a bf or my first kiss. Not to sound conceited, but TONS of people talk about how "gorgeous" and "nice" I am. Some people WONT even beleive me when i tell them ive never had a bf. I always see these nasty, uglier, RUDE girls get ALL these guys. But ive never even had one. I guess maybe its cuz im shy around people i dont know, but if you talk to me im NOT. Ive became more outgoing and flirted with guys.. but i cant seem to find anyone im actually interested in. I just wanna know what it feels like to have a bf. (I dont just want one to have one.) I feel almost like im missing out on my teen years. Sometimes i even get depressed thinking im doing something wrong. Any advice?
Don't worry, there is nothing wrong with you at all.
I'm sixteen and I've only had a few boyfriends who turned out to be disappointing anyway. I wish that I wouldn't have gone out with them anyway because they were such a waste of time. A lot of boys around are age are only in a relationship for sex, whereas girls want an actual relationship and not just a sex buddy.
Those girls who are rude, nasty, and ugly are thei girls who put out, right? And the only reason why they have boyfriends is because they do so. The guys they're dating probably aren't nice either, are they? And usually after a few weeks or so they break up.
You ARE gorgeous and nice, and somewhere out there is an equaly gorgeous and nice boy waiting for you. So what if you're shy? There are probably lots of boys who go to your school who think you're very pretty and nice, but they're shy just like you are. It's good that you're trying to be more outgoing and flirting with guys more, but look around and find that cute shy boy who always sits in the back of class and try talking to him. Try to build up friendships with a lot of guys, because sometimes a friendship between a guy and a girl can turn into a relationship.
Don't worry about missing out on your teen years, because you aren't. A lot of girls start dating in college. Wait until you find someone who really interests you and then go for it! Don't get discouraged and good luck :)
I'm thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend of 5 months. I don't want to break up with him I just think I need a change it sounds really horrible saying that. I don't know what to do. :(
Can anyone help?
Maybe now you should take some time to think about the reasons why you want to break up with him. Are you happy in the relationship anymore? Is the relationship too stressful? I was in a relationship for six months and I just honestly needed to take a break and be single for a little bit. Maybe that's what you need. Sometimes being in the same relationship for a long time makes you realize what you're missing when you don't have a boyfriend.
Just sit him down and talk to him for a good bit about why you want to break up. You can always be friends after you break up, and who knows? Maybe you'll end up getting back together. Don't worry about staying in the relationship just to keep him happy, because if you're not feeling the same, then what's the point? You'd only be hurting him by prolonging it if you're seriously considering breaking it off.
Breaking up is always hard but I hope it works out! I hope I helped a little, and good luck. It'll all work out. :)
Has anyone ever tried MAC [liquid] foundation? If so, does it work pretty good & is it worth buying? And what kind?
I'm not a huge fan of liquid foundation, but I really do like MAC foundations. I tried the Studio Fix LIquid Foundation and I just loved it. I have oily skin too and it worked just fine.
Definitely worth the buy. It's SPF 15 too. Abound 25 dollars; so it's pricey, but I think it's worth it :)
I'm 15 and I really want to know how girls know when they are horny! I have been wondering for a while.
Haha well it's a little difficult to describe. If you feel yourself wanting to touch yourself that's probably a big clue haha.
You might feel "urges", or get kindof squirmy and not be able to sit still. Or if you notice you're wet.
Pretty much: If you are you'll know.
Hope I helped!
okay so here's the deal all my family and friends are going on a cruise in July and I am in no shape to go. I need advice on how I can go from a size 13 to an 8 in less then 4 months. like diet tips and workout routines all that. Please help me! THANK YOU
Trust me I am no expert but I am going to try :)
Start walking around your neighborhood for a week or so, everyday for about 30 minutes-1 hour. After this try running everyday or every other day for 20-25 minutes. Walking and then running will help build up your endurance.
Try lifting weights daily or every other day. You can go to the gym or lift at home. You could also do plain push-ups, sit-ups, lunges, squats, leg lifts, etc.
You can approach your diet a couple of ways. I've heard that eating five small meals a day instead of three larger meals a day is very effective for some people. This way you aren't starving by your next meal and you won't overeat or snack inbetween because you have already eaten. Eat more veggies and fruits, lean meats and fish. Try to have five servings of fruits and veggies a day (it's tough but you could always try 100% fruit juice with no sugar added or V8 juices which contain a full serving of fruit and veggies) Drink eight glasses of water a day, and you could drink green tea which is so good for you and yummy :)
Like I said I'm really no expert but those are just some little things that you could try. I hope it works for you and good luck!
I honestly did not start caring so much about certain things until I started high school. I feel like now I'm starting to care more about my looks, what people think about me, fashion, etc... I'm currently a freshman in high school. It's like all the time, I look around me and I see a bunch of gorgeous girls. They just look pretty, and have cute clothes, you know what I mean? I envy that kinda stuff now. It seems that everyone has boobs, and I honestly think I'll be flat-chested forever since my mom is pretty petite, and my sister who is 19 doesn't have big breasts either. I know it shouldn't matter but it really gets to me. A lot of the time, I just feel ugly, and envious of other girls. As it got further into the year in my first semester of high school, I started changing my style. I'm not changing who I am just to fit in or feel more accepted. I feel as though my personality is the same. I wasn't really the 'girlish' type in middle school, but I'm finding certain clothes... cute. o.o... haha. I admit, sometimes I says things about girls who wear clothes like 'booty shorts', tank tops, or have their boobs popping out of their shirts or something, and I'd think they were slutty. Most of the time, I would think they're slutty because of their behavior. Sometimes, I'm just probably jealous and envious deep down inside. Right now, I want to wear shorts and buy cute tank tops because I think it'll be cute, and I'm finding the summer-ish styles to be really cute. I just don't want to seem slutty. :\ Is that so weird? o_o I don't want my friends to think I'm changing in a bad way either. As if I'm "changing who I am", or "turning into a slut" or something. I'm surely not into "that" type of behavior. One other thing is, is that whenever I'm in the mood to look at clothes online, the female models I see on the websites, I just kinda envy them. -.- They're not big busted either, and they look pretty. I don't know, does this seem weird/is it normal? xD Any advice on what I can do about my self-esteem or my teenage girl fashion crisis? haha. -.-
I know exactly what you mean about how other girls can pull-off things. When I think about wearing something like that, I always feel like I would look...idk weird? haha.
I always had a low self esteem but recently I've started seeing myself differently.
Try getting a new haircut, or just a new style or color. Sometimes a new cut or color can make you feel super confident. As for makeup just try to embrace one thing you like about yourself. If you like your eyes, wear pretty eyeshadows and liners. If you like your lips, wear lipgloss. Stuff like that, just keep it natural :)
If you want to change up your style, I would say first look through magazines and find different things that you like, and then when you go out to the stores try and find things similar to them.
And shorts and tank-tops are not slutty: if you like them, wear them! If your friends start treating you differently just because you're changing up the way you dress, then they really aren't true friends. Tru friends love you no matter what you wear :)
As for the self-esteem part, every day look in the mirror and say five nice things about yourself. Trust me I felt really stupid doing that but it actually really does help and soon enough you'll start feeling really good about yourself. Also, just do nice things for yourself. Give yourself a facial, paint your toenails, take a hot bath. When you're down all these things will make you feel better.
Getting over confidence issues is hard but I know you can do it! Good Luck :)
Hi, I'm fifteen and female. Like most girls, I have a guy best friend, he has been my friend since 3rd grade, I am now in 10th grade as is he. He's my everything, I got to him with every single problem and he helps me and everything is fine if I handle it the way he tells me. I think I can honestly say he knows everything about me. I cried in front of him, I talk to him on the phone, I text him practically every night, but we don't hang out outside of school, I know you're probably thinking "if your best friends, why are you only together in school?" I don't really know the answer I just know we don't hang out. He is in three of my periods in school, one being band, the other lunch and the last, history. In band we really don't talk to each other because it's the morning and every one is still tired. In lunch, I bring him his favorite pack of crackers because he loves them, he always smiles and is happy when I have them for him. Then, there's history, I suck in that class and he always helps me, I could text him at 11.3o on a school night to ask for help on the homework and he will answer me. He's just the best. He makes me happy. Umm, he used to like a girl that did not treat him right and I did not like her one bit, after things cooled down between them I told him I didn't like her and he said "I really appreciate you looking out for me. We're only friends now, I'm over her." and for some reason it made me extremely happy. Next is his friend, he told me that my guy friend went to a concert and met a girl, I was cool with it because my friend really started diggin her but it was only a night. Next thing I know, my friend's dousche friend started a rumor that I got "jealous" when he told me about him meeting this girl now everyone thinks I like him. People don't make fun of him though, everyone in my high school says he likes me. My closest friends they can tell just in the way he looks at me, you can see in the eyes when they're looking at someone they really care about. We joke around together a lot, he normally never starts conversations but in the last few we've had, he started them. Umm, what else, he plays songs on his guitar for me when I'm sad because he knows I like that. He also writes songs on his guitar, he sent me one and it's about being together, no more lies no more distances, no nothing. I asked him who it was about and he said he writes his songs about his friends because nothing ever happens in his life. He always used to tell me who he likes and I've been asking him who he likes now and he just answers "eh, nobody, really" and he tells me some things he doesn't even tell his guy best friend about his brother. He also is wearing one of my fun bandz rubber band animals, he said he wears it all the time, even though the night before he was going on and on about how much he hates bracelets. I also got him to go to a dance, after about 20 texts of me saying I really want him there, he came and sat at my table with me and his friends. Lastly, he kinda suffers with low confidence and such so he can get kind of depressed, he has this girl who likes him a lot but he didn't have the heart to tell her that he doesn't feel the same so he had me do it. So, do you think he likes me? Thanks!
Honestly, it's relly hard to tell since you two are such great friends. It looks like you two have such a great friendship :)
I think that there is definitely a possibility that he likes you, but I think he's scared to say something. Since he has low confidence, he probably thinks that if he told you and you rejected him it would ruin your friendship.
If other people are able to tell by the way he looks at you, then I would say that he probably does like you. It wouldn't be surprising since people who are friends for so long end up getting into really great long-term relationships since they have known eachother so long.
I also think that it's adorable that he sings song to you on the guitar when you're sad. That's definitely a big hint :)
It is hard to be sure though, so I wouldn't come right out and say it just incase he doesn't. Try dropping little hints just like he is, and maybe try to find out who he likes. Ask questions like, "What color hair does she have? Do I know her?" Stuff like that.
Other than that, good luck and I hope it all turns out :D
Does anybody know any good songs that help them get through hard times in relationships? Or just songs that are empowering to women and talk about respecting yourself and confidence......my bf cheated on me and music really helps alleviate my stress and make me feel better...i would appreciate your suggestions thank you
Rite of Spring by Angels & Airwaves
Everything's Magic by Angels & Airwaves
(Those two aren't really about breakups but I find them very inspiring)
You Won't Find This by Carrie Underwood
Lessons Learned by Carrie Underwood
Where Were You? by Every Avenue
Go Your Own Way by Fleetwood Mac
Without You by Hinder
Body Bag by Hit the Lights
Details in the Fabric by Jason Mraz
The Middle by Jimmy Eat World
(Again that one isn't really a breakup song but it's a feel-good song)
You'll Think of Me by Keith Urban
Goodbye by Kristinia DeBarge
Extraordinary by Liz Phair
Makes Me Wonder by Maroon 5
Haven't Met You Yet by Michael Buble
(another one of those feel-good songs)
According to You by Orianthi
U + Ur Hand by P!nk
So What by P!nk
Ignorance by Paramore
For A Pessimist I'm Pretty Optimistic by Paramore
I'm Movin' On by Rascal Flatts
When I'm Gone by Simple Plan
White Horse by Taylor Swift
Tell Me Why by Taylor Swift
Should've Said No by Taylor Swift
So basically I just scrolled through my iTunes and picked some favorites. I really hope it helps you and hang in there girl! :)
hey! ok i have a friend and i guess she was just using me to get next to a guy she likes . the guy she likes is my friend and everytime i used to tell her he called me and things like that she would be calling me everyday. now that they aint together anymore she doesnt even bothers calling me..is not only that, is that a big problem happened...so i guess she hardly talks to me because of that big problem..but what bothers me is that in school she is all nice to me and is always looking for me but once she is out of school "pufff" she dissaperas..not even thru myspace she talks to me..it just pisses me off..and her cusin died and i was the one that was mostly there for her and she says am the only one that gives her good advices but now i dont even feel like talking to her..i think she is so fake towards me :( can you please help me. am sorry if this is too long . i just need some help on how to act with her.
It's hard when you feel like you've been being a great friend and the other person doesn't seem to appreciate it. If she was just using you to get to a guy then she really isn't worth it anyway.
Maybe she has been going through some things and has withdrawn from talking to you because she just doesn't want to deal with it (since she went to you after her cousin died). And maybe she is just mad because of "the big problem" and so that's why she isn't talking to you.
You could try to just keep being a good friend towards her; talking to her about her problems, being there for her etc. If she doesn't want to accept it, then you could simply stop talking to her, just as she is doing to you. She might eventually come back to you and start talking to you again.
You could also tell her how she's making you feel and try to help solve "the big problem". You could explain to her how she is making you angry since she never talks to you anymore.
Hope I helped :)
well theres this guy at my school and i dont know if he likes me it seems like he does but he used to like my friend and i dont want to get my heart broken again and he knows what ive been through with these other guys and i know some stuff about him i seriously dont know what to do what should i do anybody please answer my question i dont want to get my heart broken anymore =*(****
Well don't rush into anything just yet. Try flirting with him more and talking to him more during and outside of school. In the halls and between classes and at lunch at school, and then on IM or over myspace/facebook, texting at outside of school. If he starts dropping hints like majorly flirting or texting you back right away, he might be into you. Try to build up a good friendship with him and see what happens from there. And if it ends up that he doesn't like you, don't get discouraged. There are plenty of guys out there and you WILL the guy for you :)
hey i was just wondering how can u tell for sure that you are ready for sex?
It's really hard to tell. If you really, really love the person, you might be ready. Make sure you're comfortable talking about it, because if talking about it makes you uncomfortable, you sure won't be comfortable doing it. And talk about it a lot with your boyfriend or girlfriend, to make sure that they are comfortable with it too. If you're not completely ready, then don't rush into it because you feel you should or because everyone else is. Have sex when you are fully comfortable and prepared. Use protection to be safe too. :)
Hi, fifteen, female. There's a boy in my English class who is quite cute and I think he's been flirting with me but I thought he had a girlfriend, but turns out he broke up with her. They were going out for a year and a half, we started the second semester of English and he's been talking to me a lot and then all of a sudden, he broke up with her, I don't know if it was because of me but I just know he's single now. I'm not close enough to him to ask him what happened between them nor am I close enough to him to flirt with him yet with words. He does dumb little kid things like steal my pencil or him and the other two guys I sit with will all stare at me because they know I get creeped when people watch me do things. Yes, I sit with all guys, so when we get a paper to do, the cute boy will say "All you, I'll lend you my pencil to use and I did my part!" then he'll smile at me. He'll crack small jokes like ask our teacher if we have homework, then when she doesn't hear him he'll be like "wow thanks slut" and it makes me laugh, every time I laugh, he looks at me. He flips the pages in my book, like we'll be on page 385 and he'll flip it to page 6 and I'll slap his hand and tell him to stop and giggle (I know, giggling is lame!) I don't know, maybe it's just me thinking he's flirting. Do you think he is? If you think so what can I do to flirt back so he talks to me more? Thanks!
Well by the way he's flirting, I would say that he likes you a little bit. I dont really think that he broke up with his girlfriend just because you two are flirting, since you said that you two aren't really close enough that you could ask why they broke up. I think you should try and get closer to him just by continuing to flirt a little, and try to become friends. Talk to him more often in the halls, etc. Eventually when you two are closer you can talk on IM and text.
good luck!:)
My best friend is in some sort of a self-esteem rut or something. He and I are both 17/M. He used to be a 24/7 cheery and funny guy, but ever since he started thinking about getting a girlfriend, he's gotten to be more and more depressing. I tried to help him out, you, know, pushed him to ask out girls he likes, but he would always just say something like "She'll say no. Even if she says yes, I'd be a terrible boyfriend."
Now, I'm seeing less and less of him because he's spending more and more time locked up in his room, being depressed. It sucks! I want my friend back and I want the guy to be happy. What do I do?
i think you need to sit down and talk to him about it more. there's gotta be another reason why he's feeling depressed. did he just get out of a bad relationship? since youre best friends, you have to let him know that you care about him and that him not acting like himself really bothers you. try going somewhere together, like to the mall or the movies with a group of friends. also try setting him up with another girl. when he knows he has your support, then he'll be more likely to get out of this rut he's been in.
hope i helped :]
Hello, I'm 17 yrs old, female
there was this guy i liked from my last year english class and i kinda got over him, i mean i liked other ppl after that but i still had feelings for him..but now i’m starting to like him again and it hit me tonight that it’s our last year together..he’s going to uni, i’m going to college. I’m just scared becuz what if i don’t get over him by the time highschool is over? i don’t know what to do:(…I told him that i liked him on msn on day in late May and he didn’t take me seriously then he told me that he had a g/f…but the thing is that i noticed that he would always stare at me even before i started liking him…sometimes he would look away when i caught him. He would still stare at me even after he told me that he had a g/f, we don’t really talk much, we just spoke like 2 or 3 times on msn.
well, heres a few options.
you could start talking to him more, and build up a friendship first. and then, later on, it might develop into a relationship.
you could also just stop talking to him. i find its alot easier to get over someone if you cut off all contact. its hard, and sometimes its painful, but its a good way to get over somebody. start talking to other guys more, flirting more, just put yourself out there. slowly, you'll start to realize that there are so many other great guys for you. guys that are going to treat you right, a guy who realizes how lucky he is to have you.
you dont deserve to be unhappy because of one boy. do whatever you think is right.
I have the sims life stories and I was wondering if I can download clothes and hair and put it in the game instead of the usual stuff that's already there. Thanks!
i think that if you go to thesims.com and register your game you can sign up an account and download new clothes, houses, hair, accesories, etc.
hope i helped [:
i'm 15 and i was just wondering i really think that the male penis is disgusting, i felt my boyfriends through his jeans and cringed in repulsion. i really thought it was gross ya know, is that normal?
i dont really think its abnormal. and it definitely doesnt neccisarily mean you are gay. i myself dont think that a penis is attractive.
however, if you feel as if youre developing feelings for other girls, finding yourself curious of the female body, or finding yourself having feelings for both men and women, you may be gay or bisexual.
you could try talking to someone about it if you feel the need to. i'll also be here for advice if you ever need it [:
My eyebrows are JET black, where as my natural hair color is medium brown,
http://i24.ebayimg.com/01/i/000/b4/9e/1380_1_sbl.JPG
^ kind of like that, only it has more NATURAL blonde highlights (very few though).
But I want to get blonde highlights in my hair. I want my hair to be different! It's been the same color for so long..my whole life actually! (and I like the way it's cut so I don't really want to change that)
My question is.. how light can I go? My eyebrows are so dark, and my mom won't let me dye them.. So i don't know what to do!?
well i mean i have seen plenty of girls who have dark eyebrows and real light hair, but it really all depends on if you can PULL IT OFF. asking a stylist what color would be best would be a good idea.
also, maybe going darker would be better for you. if you have dark eyebrows, why not dye your hair darker? and again, ask a hair stylist at the salon what colors would be best for your skin tone and eyebrows. hope i helped!
How would I achive this hairstyle:
http://www.greatestlook.com/veryshorthair/veryshorthairstyle1.html
(my hair is already that length)
a hair wax or pomade should do the trick. get a little between your fingers and mess your hair up a bit. then spike and get your hair the way you want it. :)