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Hello There!Erm where do I start?Well, my name is Vikki-Kimberly =)Im a good person. I dont bite =)I give people thousands of chances.I like to eat healthy... and... I have advice on practicly anything.I am in acting/signing/dancing groups.Yeah... Im just... easy to talk to. =)

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Ok so 13/f and I was pushing back the cuticles on my toe nails and on my left foot, big toe, its chipped. I've had my toe nail fall off before but this hasnt fallen off and I dont want it to. The chip is half way across the nail and reached the middle of the nail (starting at the side of the nail) so if it did fall off it would look pretty ugly because I would only have half a nail. Is it possible to mend the nail back together? What I have done until I can get an accurate response is I've put multiple coats of nail pollish (different colours, looks bad but if it works then its worth it) on my nail and put a very thick coat of nail strengthener and top coat mixed on the bad nail. Would the mending work? Any suggestions what to do? I want to keep my nail and its almost flip flop season and I dont want to have to wear running shoes all the time. I rather have someone who has been in a similar situation give me advice... What works? I dont care how ugly it looks, as long as it works. All answers will be greatly appreciated.

Dear Questioner
From what I can tell, your toenail wont fall off.
You nails grow from the point where it is attatched to the skin.
My best advice is to pop off to a doctor, as first of all this could give opppurtinity for infection to take place.

My advice rregarding flip flops is that if the worst comes to the worst, invest in some cute like pump/ballet/dolly type shoes that wont be overly hot to wear but cover up your toes.

Best of luck
vikkikimberly

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If a college requires you to live on campus and you dont get a dorm room in time does that mean I cant attend the school? If you dont get a dorm in time?

Dear Questioner,
As the previous user said before me, its different on each school.
Some schools can only guareentee accomodation if you have applied by a certain date etc or are dependant on how close by you live beforehand.
either way, I would threaten to tell the school that (if they are messing you about ofcourse) that you will book into a hotel till you have a dorm allocated to you and you will be sending the bill to the school.
vikkikimberly

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Is there any suggestions on getting a high toetouch?

Dear Questioner,
I just answered a very similar question to this, click on my coloum and read the detailed advice I have given.
Just remember to be confident with yourself.
Jumps are not the easiest thing, try and try again!
vikkikimberly

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How can I get a good toetouch?

Dear Questioner,
-Push ups, this will help your core strength and give you really strong arms. If you do 2 sets of 10 every day or every other day. Increase the number of set if this is too easy for you.
-Splits stretches, the wider you can get your legs the higher you can get and the more power you will have. So sit in a straddle position (google this) and work on your box splits.
-High kicks to the side and the front, these will get you used to flicking your legs up really quickly and back down, remember to point your toes in the kick so hopefully you will do the same whist jumping. Doing high kicks to the front will not only make your TT better but also other jumps like a herkie and pike jumps.
-sit ups and similar, these will just generall give you strength in your tummy to help you hold your weight and help you go higher (and make it feel easier!) do about 3 sets of 10, more sets if your capable.
-squats, these will help you look like your in control when you land your jump (as I will explain later)
-dorsal raises (google these) these are not essentail but will help strengthen your back and therefore hopefully encourage you to have a straighter back in the jump.

Now, they are a good couple of things that can help you improve your jump. Now as a cheer coach, I want to tell you what i look for in jumps. SO you know what makes a good toe touch.
-Power and precision, I REALLY like to see a sharp clasp or high V (variates between squads) before a jump. So it looks like "BAM" i havent even started to jump yet but its going to be amazing.
-When in your motion before jumping as (previous point) go onto your tip toes, this will help you give the power you need to jump high.
-Ususally you wil circulate your arms before you jump, really use this as your tool for jumping, we dont put it there to make it look pretty, we put it in because it gives you control and power.
-Think tall, look at something higher than you, your body will look as if its going higher.
-Think Tall and keep your back straight. looking at something taller than you will encourage you to kepe a striaghter back. Its bad for your back to lean too far forward and I for one hate seeing a toe touch where the athlete is leaning forward, it just looks sloopy.
-Point your toes, if your new to the sport, then this is a tricky one, it takes practice to learn this with trainers on. But if youve been cheering a few years get into this habit if you are not already.
-Land clean with your knees bend to take the landing, also remmber to come "up" on the right count, the same everyone else is going on.
Good luck with your toe touches.
vikkikimberly

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I'm 22 female my boyfriend adked me to marry him we've only been together 5 months and he's in tje air force he's away at basic now in his first letter he asked me to marry him iim just afraid he is only doing it cuz he thinks he should I've had a rough past and he wants to take me aeay from it all I really love him and do wanna marry him but for the right reasons

Dear Questioner,
You need to tell him this.
You need to say you love him but your just not ready.
Regarding your past, you need to let him know you love him and as long as he treats you good then thats all you need.
goodluck
vikkikimberly

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Sunday I discovered bug bites all over my legs. I assume they are flea bites by the looks but my cats don't have fleas. Anyway prom is on Saturday. I have a royal purple dress that goes down a bit below my knees. I am insecure about the bug bites that cover my legs. Any way I can get rid of them fast?

Dear Questioner,
Okay so you have about half a week to go till prom.

I would recommend getting some bite spray that you can spray on yourself before you go to bed, bug repellant spray. much like you would get before you go on holiday somewhere warm.
you could also get some treatment cream for the bites, like witch hazel or similar.
moisturising will help loads. It will help revitalise your skin. drink lots of water, and eat fruit veg where you can. vitamins help healing!
just dont pick these bites, it will definately make them worse.
Im sure there are some herbal remedies, for some reason lemon juice is sticking out in my mind but I would research that for yourself before you cover yourself in lemon juice!
If they are still there for prom you could try a tiny bit of foundation? or maybe some tights?
Enjoy your prom ma'am
vikkikimberly

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Dating older men was not zomethibg i planned on in life, however once i started dating i seemed to only find older men attractive.

My boyfriend Jorge and i have been dating since October 2010. We met exercising around our neigborhood. He waz a recent dicorced father of a 2 (now 3) year old. I was a university student who just moved to Florida.

When i moved to Miami we still saw each other 4x a month. Recently he asked me to move back to central Florida to advance our relationship. After much debate, i decided to leave Miami. Now ive been back for 4-5 months and if anything i see him less or the same as i did when i lived ib Miami. Thjngs have not even attempted to advance. I questioned him about it and he acted like i was speaking another language! I told him i am fed up and we need to go our separate ways, but thats not what i really want.

My question is this:
Why do you think he did not want to advance the relationship?
Do you think he just wanted me closer and more convienent for gim (possibly even control)?
Do you think my responce to this event was appropriate?
If we speak again what should i say to get my point across?


* he is also a cardiologist with his own pratice, ill be il school for 2 more years. Our families know about each other, i have met his son, etc.

Dear Questioner,
Just want to point out your are not alone. Me and my boyfriend have the exact same age gap (yes i did the math ;)) However my situation is diferent to yours.
But regarding your questions,
I think that he may have been having doubts with you being so far away. So it is possible he wanted to control you, or just simply know your close.
You need to make it clear to him you moved back because of him. And to be with him, because he means something to you and he cant be messing you around like this.
You need to ask him clearly where he stands. Whislt also saying very clearly where you stand. Because you dont really want to split up.
I can understand your response but if it was not true then it was not fair. you need to tell him yu want to be together, but only if he is willing to be clear with you.
I wish your relationship the best of happiness
vikkikimberly

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Is tape only intercourse? I told my boyfriend I didn't want to give him a blowjob. But he stuck his dick in my face and demanded. I resisted so he just hacked off in my face until he came. Is this considered rape? 15/f

Dear Questioner,
This may not be considered rape, Im not quite sure there.
But at the VERY LEAST it is DEFINATELY sexual assault. Which is just as bad as rape.
This is an offence.
Leave him before he becomes more aggressive, because he'll go further next time!
vikkikimberly

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-3x+5y=3
3x+4y=24


I have to solve for X and Y.
X= ?
Y= ?

what are the steps and what is x and y? thanks!

1st step, as there are two symbols involved, you add them together.
so,
-3x + 5y = 3
3x + 4y = 24 add each "coloumn" together,
0x + 9y = 27

2nd step, clear up the equation
9y = 27

3rd step, divide.
y = 27/9
so y = 3

4th step, as you have now worked out Y, put it back into the equation. the more straight forward one is 3x+4y=24.
3x + 4 (3) = 24
3x + 12 = 24

5th step, work out x.
3x = 24 - 12
3x = 12
x = 12/3
x = 4

y=3
x=4

now you double check it by putting the values back into the original equation. Ill let you do that bit, just to make sure I've got it right.

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Ok so I recently started using chalk pastels because my friends recommended it to me because Im a "Artist in the making" as they call me. I tried it a couple times for the past week and I have fallen in love with doing it. They different shades are amazing! I personally like using my hands and fingers to shade though. Anyways, I have become extremely good at using them and I was wondering if you could give me websites of already finished chalk pastel drawings and stuff so that I can do some more with the pastels. Oh and how do you sharpen a chalk pastel because mine are in kinda brick form so its harder to get good thin lines. 13/f Thanx :)

Dear Questioner (or potentially the a up and coming artist!),
for my art GCSE i used chalk pastels to draw:
-pictures of sculptures (Andy Moore sculptures i think i drew with them)
-leaves and flowers, close ups of them
-people
-things with shading the only thing i can think of is like an alleyway but that has the potential to be much too difficult for chalk pastels.
I used to also draw people sleeping with acrylic paint or similar texture (this was part of my module i wasn't a creep!) and then i used to smudge some pastel over to get a dream-like effect.

Sorry I cant give any webistes of already done work peices but there are some ideas to get some inspiration from your head.

and regarding "sharpening them" i dont think you can, try getting a bit of scrap paper and making a point for yourself :)

I used to have 2 sets, one witth a pointed bit and one i would use on its side for shading. expensive but not a bad idea if you use them alot.
vikkikimberly

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What are good questions or comments a waitress should make?

Dear Questioner,
personally i prefer to know my waiter(ess) name. So for example I would go up to the table and say "hello my name is, i will be tending to you today how are you" or something to that affect :)
look smart, everyone loves a professional
smile!
Vikki

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exercise with air conditioner vs exercise without air conditioner

air conditioning can somethings help the air move around, so the air does not become stale, but moving the air around is easily obtained by simply opening a window or if excersizing at home, by simply opening the door. Air condition is a luxury to keep an athlete cooler.

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Over spring break I am going to Washington DC with a couple friends and the one thats bringing us said her dad is premium with the hotel were staying in and we get nice breakfasts and stuff. What does this mean though? Thanks!

Its like having a loyalty card to Sainsburys or a store.

Premium members ship can include but are not limited to:
late checkout, no que when having to check in, a bigger room, better breakfasts, better complimentary items like soap etc.

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Like homes that have ppl check up on elderly people. Cause my great grandmother fractured her neck and fell on her face today. This is not the first time she has fell. She broke her hip before. And she lives in a different town from most of her relatives. We live 30-45 minutes away from her city and she lives by herself. I think nurisng homes are bad and I've seen some people in there. My great grandma is 95 yrs old and she has problems with remembering things too. Is there homes that can have people check up on her?

Dear Questioner.

When looking at homes for elderly you need to keep some things in mind.

Firstly,
your great grandmothers wishes, she may not want to leave her house in which she grew up in. Its her natural environment. Alot of problems can arise from people actually being removed from there ordinary environment (their home) and into hospital or a home.
So an easy midway point for this issue could be carers visiting her once a day, maybe three times a week to check she is eating, that she hasnt fallen over and so on.
Im guessing your grandmother will be in hospital at this current point so maybe the hospital can sort out a package of care to acheive this.
Also does your great grandmother have any friends or neighbours who can just pop in occcaisionally just to see how she is?

Secondly, there are all sorts of nursing homes.
You say you have had expirience with some of these. I must truely enphisise the importance of researching the good and the bad. Some nursing homes have excellent care, you just need to research them right. Although generally speaking the better care homes are the smaller ones with only a few residents or ones with higher fees. A thing to ask is what is the routine for someone in (nursing home A), how many residents are there to one nurse and so on.

There are also resisdential homes, again you will have to do your research.

Feel free to message me for any more Qs but I must disclose that I like in the UK and not the US so I may not be able to help in detail.
vikkikimberly

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I am a female, in my 20's, married, and work in a male-dominated profession. My job requires quite a bit of travel, and sometimes the jobs have long hours and are physically intense. This often leads to the crew having a few drinks at the end of the day. My husband has an extreme jealousy streak, and recently told me of all the men I work with, he is most jealous of my immediate supervisor. He (hunbby) knows I love him, and he trusts me, but he doesn't trust the guys I work with. The last job, just myself and my supervisor were on the crew. After a few beers, we were calling it a night and heading to our respective rooms. My supervisor then asked me if he could kiss me! Shocked - I said NO and went straight to my room. I called my husband to tell him goodnight (like I always do), but I did not tell him what happened. The next morning my supervisor apologized, and we finished up the job, over the next few days, without any afterwork beers. I don't want to do jobs alone with my supervisor again. I don't want to go above his head and tell someone higher up what happened for fear they might make me file a sexual harassment claim.

How do I go about making sure we don't get scheduled alone together on a job again? Should I tell my husband what happened, and risk him wanting me to quit my job (or worse, alter my carrer plans in this very hard worked for and difficult to break into profession to something less male-dominated)?

Please Adivse!

Dear Questioner,

A couple of things I have come to conclude:
-You are deeply loyal to your husband
-You value your husbands advise
-You think that what your boss did was bad

And with that last one, you are right. But what you need to remember is is that firstly, when you said no, he ceesed to harrass you any further AND he apologised. Like a respectable man. Some men like to "shark" this is where he stakes out somebody elses girl to have for himself temporaily or permanantly. Most dont take No for an answer and persist (so I would be aware of him in future and remmeber to always say no!) However it seems he has taken a hint.

However if you get a chance to speak with him I would mention that you now feel uncomfortable around him and vunerable and suggest that you work with other people, or perhaps with you him aswell as somebody else. And only you know how to arrange this as I know not your profession nor the body of the company you work for.

If your profession is male dominated then you need to stand up for yourself and prove your serious (and i say that in the kindest possible way) Myself, being both a cheerleader and a nurse I strive to make sure I mean business and i think that it would serve you well to do the same. And if any flirting it directed towards you i would respond with something alon the lines of " (name), I am happily married and serious about my job i have no incling to miess either of those things up"

I can clearly see you value your job. However I can also see that your husband means alot to you and if he asks you to leave your job you will at least consider it. However you have worked hard for your job, its your life you should be able to live it.
And for those reasons I recommend you dont tell your husband. As you did nothing wrong. You, did everything right! But as you say he is a jealous man, so therefore i advise that you dont give him anything more to be jealous of.

And regarding your husbands jealousy, having a very jealous boyfriend myself. I recommend proving to him that you love him.

Hope I helped a little,
Inbox me if you want to dig any deeper
vikkikimberly

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Okay well I'm 14 and not in a sexual relationship (why would I I'm 14). So I don't know if I should shave or just trim. Right now I trim but I'm half Italian and my hair grows fast down there. I've googled this to see more info and there's a huge controversy on the subject. You need hair down there because it helps keep out infections or something. Plus when you shave you look like a 7-year-old. Yet guys seem to like it shaved more. But, why is it the boyfriends or even some random guys' decisions on the matter. Shouldn't it be the women who choose. Also, from shaving the women get razor bumps and ingrown hairs. As you can see I really don't know what to do, so any ideas? Thank you.

Dear Questioner
seems like you have a sensible head there!
for now, if i were you would trim it a little bit, just so you dont sweat too much down theree as that can be a bit uncomfortable.
when you get older and maybe into a relationship, expiriment a bit with what you personally like. see if you like to trim shave or eunaturalle best. you obviously have researched it well.
another nice alternative could be shaving the outer parts but leaving some hair nearer to your more intimate areas.
but again your preferences on this subject will probally changes on your menstrual cycle, weather, your exercise routine, your sexual activity etc.
dont feel to stressed about it youhave years to figure it all out!
vikkikimberly

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My school will be having cheer workshops april 10-13 tryout day is april 16th this is a new school that im attending they are very school spirited and im scared out of my mind to try out. I believe i have the possibility of making it i used to dance so i pick up choreo quickly i have decent kicks already working on making them better. But my toe touches arent that high and they just don't seem to improve. because of that im a bit discouraged. what would help me be prepared for tryouts?

Dear Questioner,
Im previously a cheer coach so I hope my anser is of use to you.
It will take some hard work, some elbow grease as I like to say. ESPECAILLY as you only have two weeks left. You may want to start stretching etc a bit beforehand say a month or too. It will keep you in good stead if you condition regularly.

But back to matters,

to get your toe toueches higher I recommend V sits, dorsal raises, scissor kicks, and leg raises/kicks should be on your list. Also if you have ankle weights i would recommend doing about 5 leg raises and V sits with them on, but not too many or your'll seriously hurt yourself.

Apart from that its box splits and normal cardio im afriad.

Also to put your mind at rest, as a cheer coach with regards to jumps, I wouldnt just look at your end result, I would be looking at your demonstation on flexibility in warm up etc. so dont worry! just go there and wear your biggest smile! the worst they can do is say try next year.

jusy turn up to the workshops and be confident :)

Good luck future cheerleader, feel free to inbox me any other cheer Qs
vikkikimberly

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Hi my name is Sarah. I am really clever at school but now i have just started high school and i failed one of my tests so i took 20 ttablets but it did nothing and it created more problems for me. So i am thinking of taking tablets again shoud i.

Dear Sarah,
Im really concerned about this question.
Your obviously in a new place and its feeling a bit daughnting. This is normal. High school can be scary when its all new. But it gets better.
Regarding your tests, its okay to fail them every now and again. In some ways it keeps us on our toes to strive to be better. Don't give up on life just because of a test. I fear there may be more to it than simply failing a test like a bad home situation or bullying.
But please, Sarah, dont end your life on a bad grade result. Get up and go prove yourself you can go and do better next time.
Also, remember we all have bad days, AND we all have weaknesses, we all have things we dont understand.
MY word I finished high school a few years ago and i STILL dont understand simutaeous equations (algabra/math)
Please, Sarah, dont take tablets again, self harm is not the answer. Go and find a school councillor or your parents or a friend to talk to when you feel down like this.
Please dont try to kill yourself again, Im sure you have lots of other amazing prospects in your life.
feel free to private question me if you need to talk about this.
vikkikimberly

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Beautiful people I am a 17 year old South African girl and my boyfriend is 18,we've been dating for about a month and a half now.I am not a virgin and i'm afriad that my boyfriend might be a virgin,i never asked him,neither did he,we talk about every other than sex.Yesterday i asked him what tone does he use when he's reaching an orgasm,hell yeah he got mad and told me to change the subject i don't know why.We do make up and get him horny but we never go that far and that's stressing me,we love each other i don't wanna loose him :s People do i have to asks him or what?

Dear Questioner,
YES! Ask him, your dating him there is no need to be shy. Some people like ot save themselves others like to "get it over with".
I would just ask him... nicely as he is obviously shy aboutthe situation in some way.
But remember if he doesnt want to talk about it its his choice, he could have some emotional pain -tie to that subject.
Good luck
vikkikimberly

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I've had sex with my boyfriend, and we didn't use a condom, he doesn't know weither he came or nota he said he doesnt think he did. However, I have come on my period, but could I be pregnant?

Dear Questioner,
if you have had your period your probably not pregnant sweetheart.
If in doubt, buy a pregnancy terst together and check, I would personally buy two to double check.

Condoms and birth control stopp these little whoopsies happening.
vikkikimberly

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