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So I have this friend...
My best friend is in some sort of a self-esteem rut or something. He and I are both 17/M. He used to be a 24/7 cheery and funny guy, but ever since he started thinking about getting a girlfriend, he's gotten to be more and more depressing. I tried to help him out, you, know, pushed him to ask out girls he likes, but he would always just say something like "She'll say no. Even if she says yes, I'd be a terrible boyfriend."
Now, I'm seeing less and less of him because he's spending more and more time locked up in his room, being depressed. It sucks! I want my friend back and I want the guy to be happy. What do I do?
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i think you need to sit down and talk to him about it more. there's gotta be another reason why he's feeling depressed. did he just get out of a bad relationship? since youre best friends, you have to let him know that you care about him and that him not acting like himself really bothers you. try going somewhere together, like to the mall or the movies with a group of friends. also try setting him up with another girl. when he knows he has your support, then he'll be more likely to get out of this rut he's been in.
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The whole girlfriend thing probably isn't the only reason why he's feeling depressed. I would ask him what's bothering him and talk to him about how he's been more depressed lately and try to help him out by supporting him. It seems like he has a low self esteem, so try to point out to him why a girl would be stupid enough not to go out with him. If he makes excuses to not asking a girl out, then don't push it. Tell him that if he says those things like "She'll say no." or whatever, then he'll soon be right. He needs to be confident in himself and he won't get a girlfriend that fast if he isn't.
Hope that helps... (:
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If i were in your situation i would find a girl who likes him that he likes also and ask her if she would go out with him if he asked. then get him to ask her out. tell him you will help him be a good bf and be there if he needs help. that's one way. i would also maybe try to get him out of his room and do things that he and you like and used to do together this could get him out of his depression and really strengthen your friendship. Hope it helps.
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