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Low self-esteem, self-conscious...
I honestly did not start caring so much about certain things until I started high school. I feel like now I'm starting to care more about my looks, what people think about me, fashion, etc... I'm currently a freshman in high school. It's like all the time, I look around me and I see a bunch of gorgeous girls. They just look pretty, and have cute clothes, you know what I mean? I envy that kinda stuff now. It seems that everyone has boobs, and I honestly think I'll be flat-chested forever since my mom is pretty petite, and my sister who is 19 doesn't have big breasts either. I know it shouldn't matter but it really gets to me. A lot of the time, I just feel ugly, and envious of other girls. As it got further into the year in my first semester of high school, I started changing my style. I'm not changing who I am just to fit in or feel more accepted. I feel as though my personality is the same. I wasn't really the 'girlish' type in middle school, but I'm finding certain clothes... cute. o.o... haha. I admit, sometimes I says things about girls who wear clothes like 'booty shorts', tank tops, or have their boobs popping out of their shirts or something, and I'd think they were slutty. Most of the time, I would think they're slutty because of their behavior. Sometimes, I'm just probably jealous and envious deep down inside. Right now, I want to wear shorts and buy cute tank tops because I think it'll be cute, and I'm finding the summer-ish styles to be really cute. I just don't want to seem slutty. :\ Is that so weird? o_o I don't want my friends to think I'm changing in a bad way either. As if I'm "changing who I am", or "turning into a slut" or something. I'm surely not into "that" type of behavior. One other thing is, is that whenever I'm in the mood to look at clothes online, the female models I see on the websites, I just kinda envy them. -.- They're not big busted either, and they look pretty. I don't know, does this seem weird/is it normal? xD Any advice on what I can do about my self-esteem or my teenage girl fashion crisis? haha. -.-
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I know exactly what you mean about how other girls can pull-off things. When I think about wearing something like that, I always feel like I would look...idk weird? haha.
I always had a low self esteem but recently I've started seeing myself differently.
Try getting a new haircut, or just a new style or color. Sometimes a new cut or color can make you feel super confident. As for makeup just try to embrace one thing you like about yourself. If you like your eyes, wear pretty eyeshadows and liners. If you like your lips, wear lipgloss. Stuff like that, just keep it natural :)
If you want to change up your style, I would say first look through magazines and find different things that you like, and then when you go out to the stores try and find things similar to them.
And shorts and tank-tops are not slutty: if you like them, wear them! If your friends start treating you differently just because you're changing up the way you dress, then they really aren't true friends. Tru friends love you no matter what you wear :)
As for the self-esteem part, every day look in the mirror and say five nice things about yourself. Trust me I felt really stupid doing that but it actually really does help and soon enough you'll start feeling really good about yourself. Also, just do nice things for yourself. Give yourself a facial, paint your toenails, take a hot bath. When you're down all these things will make you feel better.
Getting over confidence issues is hard but I know you can do it! Good Luck :)
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I remember when I was a freshmen in high school...I was thinking the same thing. I went to school in sweatpants and sweatshirts I could of cared less and then I would see these girls with cute shirts and cool jeans and I would envy them. Its fine that you feel that way its common to want to change your style of clothing...I use to be girly now I'm a bit more into jeans and a t-shirt. It makes me happy! Do what you feel is best and just because you want to start dressing similar to them doesn't make you a slut. I also remember in high school girls used "slut" a lot and they tend to use it out of context. Just because you dress a certain way doesn't make you a slut and don't worry about your friends if they are your realy friends they'll stick by you no matter what!
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