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On hold for now
I met this fantastic guy several months ago. He is so honest and up front about things and we've talked about long-term possibilities. I know he likes me, I like him too. I even told him that if by chance he popped the question, I would say "Yes!" in a heartbeat!! This did not freak him out; in fact, he was glad to hear it and has continued to try and call me whenever he had time or a chance to. He's in the process of taking over a family business right now. It is a priority to him, which has a lot involved and has to be focused on this--this is his bread & butter. It however, has left us with very limited to no time to spend together. Sporadically, he would call me to meet at the very moment he is available, and often times, the opportunities pass and I may not get to return the messages until at least a few hours after he calls. By that time, he's busy again. The last time he called, I was sick and couldn't get back to him until 2 days later. At that point, he sounded a little down and asked, "Can we just work on being friends for now?” I asked if he had a change of heart and he responded, Yeah, a little. It’s just that things are a mess and I want to have things 'clean'." I happily accepted the fact that he wants to be friends, I kind of understand what he is going through (business-wise) and I asked if he wanted me to refrain from calling him. He answered, "Just for a little while, if that's okay." I accepted and asked if he will call me. Without hesitation, he said that he will. He needs to get "things" cleaned up and a few things lined out. He didn't like the fact that he had to inform me in the manner he did, but I graciously thanked him for telling me, regardless. He had another call coming in at that time and quickly stated, "We'll talk again later Sweetie." We exchanged our good-byes and that was the last I heard from him. I will wait for him, but at this point, I am holding on faith. How long is "a little while"? Shouldn't we be talking semi-regularly as "friends"? I don't mind giving it as much time needed, but it will almost be 1 month after we've last spoken. Would it be okay to contact him later down the road even after I asked for him to call me? How should I approach this? If I do call, how much time should I wait until I attempt to?
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I'm sorry too, but the other answer is probably right. Your post actually reminded me of last weeks episode of "How I met your Mother." The episode was called "hooked." You should really watch it. It sounds just like this.
But dont stress.... someone better will come along! Might as well start giving someone worthwhile your attention.
(final word of advice... beware of any relationship that makes you want to marry them after just a few months. You definitely dont know someone well enough in that period of time... guys are still in their "only showing the good parts" phase.)
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He's just not that into you.
Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear. You want advice on how to keep him interested, but you can't really keep someone interested when they have gone AWOL on you. I’m sure he said very nice things and all the right things to avoid hurting your feelings (and avoid leading you on, at least, in his own mind), but you are past nice words now. It’s our actions that define us, and his actions define him as someone who isn’t all that interested in you romantically, or even as a friend.
A month is not 'slow down' and a month isn't friendship. A month is 'you are forgettable'. A month is 'I don’t' really care if you met someone else and I lose my shot with you'. A month is 'I'm not into you like that.' A month might even be ‘I hope this problem just goes away.’
Go ahead and call him if you feel you would like too, but don’t kid yourself: This is very, VERY unlikely to lead to anything. At worse, he doesn't like you the way you like him, and at best, he's a silly guy who is waiting for the 'perfect' moment, and will never get around to calling you.
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