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my boyfriend is acting weird...
My boyfriend quit smoking weed about 3 weeks ago and he started hanging out with me more and we were so happy for two of the three weeks. This week,he seems not as happy with me and he told me he needed some "space" ,so we didn't hangout for a day. He told me he didn't "want us to get sick of each other" ... so we got in a few fights and tried hanging out today but he just wasn't the same.He just hasn't seemed interested lately and if he does,its usually only for sex or stuff similar.He said he misses smoking weed but idk! I just want him to want me and appreciate me again. What should i do? by the way,we've only been together for like 2-3 months
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Okay I am someone who used to smoke a few times a week and my boyfriend used to smoke multiple times a day. We both decided to quit after new years. First few weeks for great, we were happy, had more energy blah blah blah. Then I had a day where I was feeling the withdrawal and I was pretty bitchy. Then about a week later my boyfriend wanted to have sex but we were in the middle of watching a movie that I had really wanted to say, so he rolled over and went to sleep and we pretty much didn't speak for the rest of the day but then a few days later he apologized for getting mad over stupid things and said it was from not smoking. Weed isn't addictive, its the idea that its a quick release of tension and good feeling. So when you take away pot you look for other outlets that give you the same release so your boyfriend along with mine looked to sex. Don't take it personally or think that he's not interested anymore. And honestly if I had never smoked I'd probably be telling you that he was a scumbag or something but I'm more understanding with his case because I've been there. So what should you do about it. Well if you've never smoked just explain to him that you can see that he's going through a bit of a rough patch and if he wants some space just give it to him. Don't bombard him with texts or calls either. Take a day to hang with the girls and then maybe the two of you can make a date and do something together that you did when you first started dating. Me and my boyfriend played pool a lot when we first started dating so now when we play it brings back the same little feelings and memories of when we were first dating. We've now been dating for over a year and we've made it through him "quitting" smoking 3 times. Don't let it get between you.
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Do you trust your boyfriend? Really think about that one for a minute.
If your boyfriend seems to want to have sex more and that is all it seems to be, Then that is what it probably is. I can understand wanting some space, Everyone needs their time apart from time to time. However, There is a big difference between wanting some time apart and loosing interest. It sounds to me that your boyfriend IS loosing interest in the relationship and just wants to have sex. I don't know exactly how the relationship is as you only gave little detail but I would talk to him ask him if he wants to spend a day with you. Put him up for the test, If he turns it down..Then I would start to back off a little bit. If he does decide to spend the day with you and wants nothing but sex...There is your answer and it might be time to move on.
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