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friendship problems..
i have a really close group of friends. and usually i have a lot of fun with them, sometimes i can't stand them. but today was just terrible.
i had the most problems today with one of my better friends lexi. she was just being taking me to seriously and always contradicting herself by what she was telling me. but the thing that really upset me what in social studies. i have that class with lexi, my best friend, and another close friend.
well, sometimes i say stuff and i don't know why like it's weird but i can't control what i say sometimes.. well i started making fun of deaf people and stutters because i was watching a show last night about them. i know what i said was wrong and i wish i could take it back so don't judge me too harshly.
anyways then lexi said 'you know i'm going to laugh hysterically when you go to hell.' and it was just so mean the way she said it like i saw evil in her eyes. but that really bothered me. and it didn't help that my other friend joins in and says 'yeah, me too.' (and she doesn't believe in that stuff) THEN my best friend says stuff too. i can't really recall what she said but she was definately against me.
it didn't feel nice to be ganged up on so i just ignored them and didn't talk to them the rest of the day.
if it bothered me that much that they said that, like i almost started crying and i don't cry at all, does that make me such a bad person.
i just am really upset by that so if you have any advice on what to do please help.
also, i'm sorry this is so long but if you read it all thanks.
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hmmm... what you said was really awkward. and from the way you said it, you say awkward stuff like that alot.
maybe you didnt mean it, but you will come off as being insensitive and mean. i know you dont mean it, but sometimes the pen is mightier than the sword, and what you say cannot be taken back.
anyway, maybe your friends were just really annoyed at what you said, who knows lexi has someone she knows who's deaf too and so she was offended. what you said was politically inappropriate too, so i cant blame your friends for their reaction.
plus, you said first that lexi annoys you because she takes you too seriously. maybe now, its time for you to not take her seriously.
just be patient :)
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Be a better person. Ask for your friends help in being better.
What you saw was your own venom and cruelty mirrored back at you. In this world, we get back what we send out. You sent out cruel jokes and judgement and you got it right back. It's not COMPLETELY your friends fault. You started a nasty conversation, they just took it a step further and turned it back on you.
Maybe, the best thing for you to do would be to talk to your best friends about your problem about saying carelessly cruel things, and ask for their help as you try to be better. Let them know what they said really hurt you and you felt ganged up on, but ALSO, admit that you know you sometimes take things way too far and say inappropriate and unkind things. Promise them to work on that in the future, and ask them to find nicer ways to tell you to stop bad jokes, so that they can help you be better, not just make you feel like shit.
Being the first person to start admiting they were wrong, and asking for help to be better, is really hard and scarry, but you might find once you start it, all your friends try to be better too.
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You need to confront your friends & say you didn't mean what you said everybody says things they don't really mean once in a while you aren't perfect you make mistakes and your human tell your one friend Lexi she could of worded what she said differently
so it wasn't like it sounded so harsh that's a mean thing to say to someone also your other friend too since she agreed with her you need to tell them that
what they said really affected you to the point where you were on the verge of tears & that's rare for you seeing as you never cry say you'd like it if they apologized to you..you deserve a apology if i were in your situation i'd feel the same way & no you aren't a bad person for saying what you did you
didn't mean that & they need to know that(:
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honestly, just by this story, i would say that they aren't true friends. i know this use to happen to me sort of and i dont like confrontation, so i didnt want to go up to my friend and say why i wasnt talking to her. so one day online she IMed me and asked if i was mad, so then i dealt with it that way. but if you feel comfortable saying it to her face, then definitely bring it up. neither of them should say things like that, if anything they shouldve just said, "that was mean, you shouldnt make fun of them."
it sounds like the girl who said "yeah me too" is probably a follower and wants to be like lexi so she probably didnt really mean it. but lexi seems like a bitch (no offense) whos insecure with herself so she says stupid shit to her friends.
its possible she was having a bad day and didnt really mean what she said, but if this is a constant thing where she says hurtful things to you, i'd say try finding some new friends. good luck and sorry this is so long.
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