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mom troubles.
okay i'm 14/f and i already have my ear lobes pierced. today i asked my mom if i could get my cartilage pierced and she went off and said no. i was like wtf? the only reason she had was that ears aren't meant to be pierce their ears there. i even offered to pay to get it done but she still wont budge.. how can i get her to let me get it done? im about to just do it myself..
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im 14 aswell ((:
well basically i was in the peircing place and i called my mum and asked her and she said no
so when i got home i told her all my friends had it done, that the peircing place was really clean, and that its not a big deal because its only my ears.
she let me get it done ..duno if it will help with ur mum tho
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These other people have given good advice. However, if your mom is anything like my mom, she's not concerned about the risks of it and nothing will change her mind. My mother is insanely conservative and got pissed when I pierced my belly when I was 18.
I do agree that you shouldnt bother going behind her back. She will find out and then that's just one more battle youre going to have to fight, and since youre a minor, youre going to lose it.
Worst case scenario, wait until youre 18.
Something else you could try, though, is to have her actually see what it looks like. Beware though, that could make her be more against it. If you have any friends that she really likes and thinks are so good, see if they will get one, and then either ask to go with that friend to get them together, or show it to your mom after that friend has it done.
My mother is all about appearances and judging people from the outside. Anyone who has any kind of piercings or tattoos outside the ordinary is automatically trashy. Your mother is probably just worried that one piercing will lead to another, and then another, and then a tattoo, and then a biker boyfriend, and then an unwanted pregnancy, and then and then and then.....
So if you really want one, even if not now, but in the future, show her that you are a good kid with your head on straight and that you can make good decisions and this isnt going to change you or ruin your life. Point out that it's not a permanent body change and can be reversed (essentially) at any time. It's hardly different than getting a new hairstyle. Seriously.
If that doesnt work, though, dont flip out on her. Just walk away maturely and re-approach some other way later. Just being honest, though..... there's nothing I would have been able to do to convince my mother.
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One of my daughters came to me at around the same age and I felt she too was too young. Being a teenager, she was going to find a way make a way. She decided to prove to me that she was responsible in many ways that I didn't know about. She made a list with examples of good decisions she had made in potentially bad situations, she convinced me that piercings are a privilege (certain ones are okay for teenagers). Find out what your mom's "hot button" is, what is really bothering her about the piercing. Then give her lots of love and respect, and a little patience. You will get your piercing when you can make her feel good about it. Good luck and let me know what happenes... Dear Susie
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well why doesn't she want you to get it pierced? is it because she doesn't like the way it looks or because she thinks you're gonna get an infection? remind her that you'll take good care of it and explain and prove to her that you know how to do it. and if she doesn't like the way it looks try finding a friend, family member or celebrity that she likes who has it done and say that a lot of good people have it (worked with my mom ;) haha
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Hey, if you can pinch it, you can pierce it!
If you really want it done, I would advise you to do some RESEARCH (aftercare, risks, etc) and show your mum. Sometimes, if you prove you know what you're getting yourself in to, they will trust you to do it. Also research on piercing parlours. Make it known it's not just a piercing you're going to get on a whim, and that it's something you've thought carefully about and have wanted it for a while. Also, try to negotiate - perhaps if you get good grades, it could be a treat?
If she still says no, don't go behind her back and do it anyway - you're trying to show her you are a maturing young adult here - and anyway, don't forget you won't be 14 forever, so as you get older, you're free to do what you want!
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I would say to your mom that you can always leave it to close up... I tried that once and it kind of worked with a little more reassurance.
I'd try asking some people that you know who've had it done (if you know of some people that have - or I guess you could google it for info) and ask them questions that your mom might want to know.
Just try to find as much information as you possibly can and I think your mom might come around to letting you get it done.
- Fornorina
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try and find facts on how often little it goes wrong or if you know someone with it ask them, if she sees that there's little risk then she's got no leg to stand on. but can i just say, my friend got it done and she said it really hurt - still hurts actually, especially when she puts and earing in it - and that it so wasn't worth the money, so just think about whether you really do want it or not first. good luck =] x
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