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Hello, my name is Jessica, but I go by the name Fornorina online :)
I have had loads of experiences lately, so I figured I could lend some more people a hand with what I have to say.
I am going to try and answer a few questions every day via the Random Question link as I think it's a really good way to see questions.
I hope I can answer a lot of questions and give you some good advice.
My friends have always told me I give good advice, because I say everything from my heart and my previous experiences.
I think I can help a lot of people on Adivenators, because I know a lot about my favourite catorgories which you will see below.
My friend commit suicide last year, so I am still not over that because it's been my first death.
Please don't hesitate to contact me with any questions you have via email or straight into my inbox on advicenators.
Thanks :) X

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does it hurt when they put them on and off because it is going to be my first time

When you get braces it doesn't hurt when they put the blocks on, but when the wires are put on and changed it can hurt quite a bit, but it's bearable (you may find painkillers help) it's more of an ache really because the braces are moving your teeth slowly and the wires have just got tighter.
When you get them taken off, they use a special sorts of pliers to pull them off. It doesn't really hurt, just just feels a bit weird!
Good luck :)

No he isn't breaking up with me just leaving to go on tour. It just really will hurt me. What do I do?

That's good - positive!
If it's going to really hurt you then is he worth it?
I'm guessing this will depend on how long he's on tour for. A few months - that will be tough but you will get through it because it's only a few months.
A year - a lot harder to cope with I'll give you that. But you have to stay positive and think about all of the ways you will be able to keep in contact. The technology these days is absolutely immense! So use it :)
Also, I think you should definitely speak to him about it because he might be thinking the same but just scared of what you might say. Tell him how you feel about it all and let him know what your afraid of during your time apart.
I'm sure it'll be okay in the end! Stick with it :)

Hi my name is Kat. I am an 18 year old and i have a couple questions.. my boyfreind and i have been dating for almost a year and his band is going on tour soon. How do i cope with the fact that he will be leaving me??

Like Jasmine23 said, is he breaking up with you completely of JUST going on tour?
Because they are two very different things.
For me, I wouldn't worry about him going on tour because he's going to be playing his music with his band/friends. Of course it's going to be hard for you because he'll be far away, but there is texting, phone calls and skype so I wouldn't worry too much.
Definitely talk to him about it. Communication is key. If you don't speak to him about how you feel and what you are nervous about, then you will be just left hanging on the edge when he leaves.
Be careful and good luck!
Any more question, you know where to come :)

I asked this guy from my work to go out with me and other friends, and we had a real good time. My friends left and it was just me and this guy for hours, I stayed forever at his house, we made out and other things..

He said he liked me.
I went out of town for a while. When I got back he totally just acted like we were strictly friends. I asked him bout it and he said he didn't want a girlfriend. He promised me though that he really did like me and thinks I'm cool.

So we are friends, we dint kiss, or have any sexual content, but he still asks me to hang with him just to hang out.
and i always catch him looking at me, or just touching me casually, all flirty like.

I dont get him. SO many times I have wanted to kiss him, but I'm scared to bc he made it clear...
I want to be more than friends. What should I do now?

From what I gather, you two have rushed into things way too fast.
If he has completely told you that he doesn't want a relationship, then he means it. But there could rightly be someone else.
I think he could be afraid of what would come next if he actually committed to you.
Hang out, by all means, but you know what he said.
If you want a relationship with him, tell him when the time is right and you've hung out more (as friends...) so you can get to know him a little better. Also, you should tell him that you don't want to rush into a relationship (if/when you tell him you want something more).
Good luck! :)

my boyfriend.. lies bad. just about everything,and he lies about uu

I always think that you shouldn't be with someone you cannot trust.
As he's lying, confront him about it - ask him what is going on, and if not then you're out.

There's this guy. He's basically my best friend, and though he's told me before: "I see you as a sister, not a girl I'd ever date... but we can fuck sometime:)" (Ok, I know what you're thinking, but he's not a douche! haha, the whole "screwing thing", that's just how we joke around with eachother). we still text/call every single day and flirt and hang out and what not... I can't help but to fall for the guy that's always there for me, supporting me, making me laugh, protecting me... And I know he doesn't like any other girls. Except for this one girl... We were playing the "questions game" and he asked me if I had to date someone, who would it be. But I said "I don't wanna answer that. what would you say?" and he goes "(girl in his grade's name). Not cause I like her... but she's nice and we talk every so often". He wants to ask her to prom... This girl. She IS nice. And she's not ugly or anything like that. She's just kind of... plain? That's not a nice thing to say but... She's just so... UGH. Hahaha I'm sorry, I can't explain it. There's just something about her that bugs me. Maybe it's his interest in her?? I just can't help but think that him and I are so RIGHT for eachother. But I don't think he sees it that way. He says he loves me like his sister. Which I don't know... I guess I love him like that too. He's really protective of me. He doesn't like guys taking me out, hitting on me, touching me, basically even talking to me... He says no ones good enough for me. Whatever. I don't know what to do. It's like a punch in the gut when I think about him with any other girl. But it's weird to think about me with him like that too... I can't sort out the feelings of brotherly love from the feelings of what might be something different. How can he want to talk to me and see me everysingle day and not care about me the way I do for him...? Or think I do...? I just don't know what to do because I don't want to ruin our friendship. I don't know if I could live without him... haha, not literally of course, but you know what I mean. Can anyone PLEASE just help me sort all of this out...??? (Oh, we HAVE both admitted there is... uh, physical attraction, but we've never kissed anywhere but the cheek. We kinda cuddle sometimes...) I'm 15, girl. He's 16, almost 17)

If you cannot bare to see him with any other girl, cannot go a day without thinking or speaking to him, then you have a LOT of feelings for him, but I think that came across quite well when I read your question.
What I am trying to say is that, you need to tell him how you feel. I know it might sound crazy at first and you're thinking "I could never tell him that!", well you can! and it will be so much better for you and him if you did.
I know you are worried about breaking your friendship, I quite understand that, but you need to tell him how you feel otherwise he will never know and you will never know whether he likes you back, and whether you indeed like him.
I think the only way to know whether it's right with someone is to actually TRY.
I mean, what is the harm in that? Because if you both like each other in that way then you could try it on a trial basis to see whether it works out.
As you have said, there is some physical attraction which you both have expressed, therefore to me, that would suggest trying it out.
If you don't feel ready to tell him how you feel, I always think it's best just to stick to where you are and continue having fun with eachother, laughing, joking, hang out etc, and then see where that takes you.
You may end up together in the end. But remember - everything happens for a reason!
Good luck, let me know if I can do anything else for you! :)

20/F

I met this guy, Sean, at a party around October of last year. We have a lot of mutual friends and one day, ended up sitting by each other at a basketball game. It was a lot of fun and we talked and danced the whole time. All of our friends kept saying we looked cute together and that we should date. Of course, I hardly knew the kid so I just rolled my eyes. We didn't talk much again, only when we saw each other at basketball games we would say hello.

Randomly this semester, I ran into him at another party. He was really drunk and I had been drinking as well, so we talked and I flirted with him--a lot. The next weekend, I saw him again and we figured out we had a class together so we decided to sit next to each other. At this point, I hardly talked to Sean, but at this party, he left with another girl, and I, having had some drinks in me, was devastated. However, everything was fine and I ended up sitting with him in class and it was honestly the most fun I ever had in a class whilst paying attention, lol.

Flash forward to now. We talk everyday. Literally, every day. He texted me almost everyday I was gone on spring break. He IMs me as soon as I'm online. Once in a while he'll drunk dial me just to talk. As far as I know, he has not hooked up with any other girls since that one day I mentioned above. EVERYONE asks me about "us", including some of his best friends. I feel weird when we don't talk. Basically, I'm falling for him...hard.

Here's where I'm confused: last night we were IMing each other on facebook, and randomly he told me he was upset so I asked him to tell me about it. And from what I gathered, he was just thinking about his ex-girlfriend that broke up with him months ago, and it really bothered me. He told me he was over her but he's mad because she's not making an effort to be friends with him and purposely ignores him...already I can tell that he's so hung up on her. He also told me he thinks if they tried to communicate more through the long distance (skype calls, visits, etc), that he would still be dating her.

Now I'm all confused because I was SURE he liked me and then he drops this bomb...I've not told him I liked him yet but I'm not the type of girl with the confidence to do that. PLUS, I'm not ready for rejection right now...Any ideas? I'm just lost...we never talk about boys or girls in front of each other, we always made it point to not talk about cute guys or girls or exes to each other....it's just weird.

I totally agree with the first answer here, he DOES like you.
From everything you've said, he definitely likes you but I think you need to make that clear to him otherwise he will only see you as a good friend.
Hopefully there's a party soon for you both and you can properly tell him and maybe make the first move.
But between then and now, continue to have a good time with him in class - there's no harm in that! - and when he brings up his ex-girlfriend, you could tell him that she's not worth the time, everything happens for a reason and that he deserves better - someone like you!
good luck :)

Ok so i had sex with my boyfriend and im scared that i might be pregnant and i can not tell by if i miss my period because i dont have mine. do to my birth controll. so im afraid that i might be and my parents wont give me any money so i dont have any way to buy a test... im also 18 and still in high school.. I DONT KNOW WHAT IM GOING TO DO IF I AM MY PARENTS WOULD LIKE KILL ME IF I AM PREGO..

You need to chill out for a second, and realise that you might not actually be pregnant.
Of course, there is always a chance, and that's why you should check.
If I were you, I would speak to your boyfriend about how you are worried about it and see whether he could lend you the money to buy a test (and obviously reassure him that you will pay him back when you have some money).
I don't think you have any reason to freak out about this yet, so don't worry about it - after all, you don't actually know whether you're pregnant...)
Good luck and let me know if you'd like some more help! x

I have a good life...a great family, amazing boyfriend; no money troubles; no overbearing problems besides my weight and body image. I'm not morbidly obese, but I am overweight (150 lbs at 5'2"). I was reading the symptoms of depression and I pretty much have all of them..the worthlessness feelings, insomnia, not so far as suicidal thoughts, but I just haven't felt good in over a year. I've tried losing weight, but I haven't.
Could I still be depressed?
And I think I might try to join weight watchers, does that work? Maybe that will help...

I'm thinking that your overweight might be due to depression. I know you say that you have a good life (which you do by the way!!) but sometimes that is enough to cover up some inner feelings. Like, your past, childhood, deaths, anything that has happened might be showing through gaining weight and therefore not losing any.
I don't think signing up to Weight watchers would do you any harm -- mainly just to see if it works for you, and see if you see any results.
I think you should try going to your local gym 2-3 times a week. You should NOT give up. You need to at least try that and weight watchers to see what happens.
Also, I think maybe seeing your doctor about your depression -- or at least, that you seem to have those symptoms of it, just to see what your doctor thinks. Then, I think that will give you more of an indication of what to do about that. In addition, I think you would benefit from seeing a counsellor.
I wish you the best of luck, and don't hesitate to ask me anything further.
Keep smiling :) x

So I like this guy, but I'm not sure if he likes me! I think he likes this really pretty popular girl in my class but I'm not sure. He's really cute and I just want to go up to him and say I like you alot but I can't say it!! What should I do to get him to like me or what I should say to him! We both are athletic and play baseball for the same team! :D

Talking to a guy you really like is always tricky business. But I've heard guys say that they prefer confident girls to any other.
You day you are both on the same baseball team! That's awesome!! Because you can just talk to him about that. Seriously, the best way to get to know a guy is by just having a normal conversation, like, "how are you?", "what have you been up to lately?" "got any plans for this weekend?" or try talking about something that's happening that next weekend that might be fun to go to, and ask if he's going (like a party or something like that). Or perhaps you have seen something on the news or read in a magazine something that's quite interesting? You could share that too.
Don't worry about being flirty or anything like that, just try to have a good conversation about baseball for starters!
Good luck,
- Fornorina

A few years ago at worship in the wilderness I won an awsome bible! I just love it, it breaks everything down, and its just great! It is a paper back though, and i have sort of worn it out. I would like a new one in hard cover. But I think they have quit making them!

My bible is the extreme teen bible NKJV
Thomas Nelson Publishers. In the back it has a list of all the bibles in that version. And then it gives the website: www.extremeforjesus.com only the link doesn't work, and i've checked ebay. Any help would be great!

Thanks!

Have you tried Amazon? I just googled what you were after, and it came up straight away on amazon! Although, I am not sure it's intirely what you are after. But you should check it out nevertheless!!

In the last few years it has become apparent that my mother has signs of depression. I'm in college now, I don't live at home, but it still affects me. Nobody in the family seems to want to admit it. My mother has no real friends and no real hobbies and I was the last kid to leave. When I talk to her on the phone she always seems sad that I will not be coming home for the summer, etc. Things like that. It hurts me that I can't be there for her but it also depresses me when I have to worry about maybe making matters worse by doing things I want to do with my life. It's a tough spot to be in when it's your mother who is depressed and it has been really hard on me. I don't know how to deal with it.

My friend's father suffers from bad depression, and now so does my friend - but I am always there for her - so that helps her out a little bit.
You should talk to your mother about it, and suggests getting some antidepressants and seeing whether her doctor knows of any groups where she can go to get her feelings out in the open and off her chest. That way, she will meet new people whilst sorting it out.
Also, a good way to get past depression is to try something new. A new hobby I mean. It could be anything relaxing like, painting to something more active like rock climbing. See what she says :)
- Fornorina

So on my campus I recently have just started cooking in the campu kitchen, when I cooked my first meal a guy that lives there asked what I has cooked nad then came back out and asked for some. The next friday I came in with the groceries and he asked what I was cooking that night and I told him and he asked would I give him some. I know that there are speculations of him using me for a good meal but no, it is not like he has never talked to me before I am justa person that is very reservedsome "avoidnace personality disorder" symptoms so I know I am not the most lively and approachable person. I feel as though he wants to come into the kitchen and talk to me but it may be a little awkward because everytime I cook my gay male friend is in the kitchen with me so it is alittle hard to hit on some one like that. Do you think that he is into me alittle bit or is it just all about the meal in your opinion?

From what you have said, I think your gay friend is just jealous because I am thinking this new guy might like you...
I think the only way to properly see is by having-(sorry-my-space-bar-has-decided-not-to-work-
is-by-having-a-proper-conversation-with-him,-if-you-know-what-I-mean,-like,-what-course-are-you-taking?-and-where-are-you-from?-I-would-just-try-your-best-with-the-conversation-and-if-it-doesn't-go-anywhere-then-i-don't-think-he-likes-you-likes-you.
Good-Luck!
-Fornorina

Do they like being called baby, sweetie, sweetheart ect.?

Just curious.
Haha

I would start with babe and baby, and maybe darling as well.
But maybe you would like nickname kind of things? You should just discuss that with him yourself.

Hey I love your advice so I thought I'd give this a shot!:)

Last summer, my friend and I met up with this guy peter and his friend. Initially, my friend was meeting up with peter and I was suppose to talk to his friend. Keep in mind this was the first time any of us were meeting each other. Well peter ended up liking me and his friend was trying to get with my friend, but didn't work out as well. Peter and I would text each other and try to hang out but one of us would be busy when we would try .. but he would be really sweet about it. I remember I said something like I wont be able to see you for a couple weeks because I'm going on vacation!! And he was like oh babe, that is going to suck!! Just sweet little things like that, the little things couunt for me. Well then we just sort of stopped talking and my friend had texted him recently asking if he wanted to hang out with me and her. Well things didn't work out (I don't know the reason) but I feel like messaging him on facebook saying something like..

"Hey Peter I heard syd (my friend) was trying to get you to hang out with us .. I haven't talked to you in a while .. too bad you couldnt."

I don't know what to say. He lost all his numbers I guess because when my syd texted him he didnt know her number so I don't really want to text him first. I'd rather like message him on facebook, see what he says, and then start texting and stuff. I don't want it to be all random, but if I texted him saying it was me I don't know if he would remember who it was at first .. becauase the last time we talked was last summer so if I messaged him on facebook first, he would see my picture and remember.

Anyways, do you think thats a good idea? What do you think I could say to him that would not make me look dumb? Thanks for taking the time to read, I'll return the favor :)

Hey there, I'm glad you asked me for some advice, I will try to answer the best I can for you :)
It seems like you four have this friendship that's like, friendly friends and then sometimes more... If you get what I mean.
I think it would totally be a good idea. I mean you two don't have to be like boyfriend/girlfriend and going on dates to hang out as friends. I always guy friends that I can hang out with whilst shopping in town or something and never get too close to each other to be put into a situation like becoming more.
I think you should just Facebook chat or wall post him asking like the usual stuff, and say how you were bummed when he couldn't go to meet with you guys as well. Just try to make the conversation kind of flow and use the usual questions to get going.
I don't think anything would make you look dumb to be honest. I think sticking to the usual conversational starters, you will be fine.
Because, put it this way, you probably know those guys better than I do, so I can only speak from previous experiences.
When I used to start talking to a guy, it would just be like, how are you? been up to much lately? hows school? got any plans this/next weekend? you know, the usual things and maybe once you start talking, I always find that there is something else that you've like heard on the news of read in a magazine that you can include and start to progress the conversation further.
I think the Facebook chat/wall post thing is a great idea, because I know that like everyone goes on there everyday to just generally see what's going on with they're friends.
I think over time, and with a little effort of course, you will start texting again and becoming more close as friends. Maybe even ask him when he's free as well? That way you can hang out with him (if you want to of course).
Good luck! And I hope I've helped you out.
- Fornorina

hey i'm looking for new bindings. i'm 5'4" 135 lbs. i really don't know what to look for, does anyone know? thanks

www.summits.co.uk
www.bargainboards.co.uk
www.boardwise.com
www.sputniksnowboardshop.com
These are purely from searching on Google. I'm sure there will be a lot or articles on the web you could read as well.

so i met this guy at a party. actually, i didn't even meet him. we didn't really even speak a word to each other hah but he was only there for a little. somehow he ended up getting on my camera, i guess someone took a picture of him so i added him on facebook. he messaged me and then we exchanged numbers and starting texting alot. he's kinda been flirting a little and we're supposed to hang out soon. are there any ways to not make things awkward? we've never talked in person and i'm not a real "meet someone online kinda person" if you know what i mean so i don't really know how to play it lol so i would loovee any help or advice

Honestly, I am usually like that too.
But I would just be yourself, because if you like him, and you want him to like you back, you should show him the real you. I'm sure at first it will be a little awkward, but I think every first hang out with someone new is, don't you think?
I'd just start with the usual conversations, if you know what I mean - the, hows school been? Got any plans next weekend? Any new parties? Maybe with these starters something else has happened with your friends or on the news so you can talk to him about that too, and he might even share his views with you too.
What about talking about music as well? You never know, you might have a lot in common with this new guy.
Good luck chick,
- Fornorina

i don't know many places to get domain names. one i know is godaddy, but i'm not going to spend extra money to get godaddy's ads off my website. i bought a website last year and i never used the elusive features i paid extra for. i dont remember that account information anymore. back on subject, however, i just want a domain .com or .net or whatever... .org. something common. but i dont want my host website in my url address. websites please?

Have you tried searching on wiki or google?
Sometimes www.wordpress.com do domains as well, you should check it out.

15/f sophomore

Okay. Well there is this guy I like (lets say he is M). I really like him. He is sweet, funny and cute. Almost perfect. I think he likes me too, but I'm not sure..

He hangs out with the "popular" group, if you can call it that. It's not like I'm not popular because I'm friends with almost everyone in that group, I just don't sit with them during lunch or classes.

Sometimes I think he may like me because he always finds a way to make us be touching.. like if we are sitting next to each other and my arm is on the table he will make our elbows touch, or he will "accidently" bump our knees.. several times.

Some days, like today, he will be really cute. Today we sat together in class and he forgot his book so we had to share. Through out the whole class our hands were touching and when ever our faces were literally inches from each others he would whisper something funny or cute and make me laugh.

So some days we will talk to each other and hang out, but others its like we dont even know each other. He will walk by me with out saying hi, smiling or even looking my way! Like I don't even exist. It's like he is giving me all of these mixed signals and I'm going crazy!

I try not to be one of those guy crazed girls, but I really like M and I am just so confused as to what is going on! On the days we dont talk, sometimes we will make faces at each other across study hall, or I'll catch him looking at me but other than that--pthh!

What should I do? Do you think he likes me, or is just trying to be nice? Please be honest, I really want to know so I can do something about it!

From what you have said... I think he likes you, but he is more interested in his status in his "popular" group.
The popular guys at my school are all jerks. But I guess the ones at yours could be different.
The guy you described seemed to be on and off with you... To me, I think you're wasting your time. But you should still hang out with him every so often.
Guys with mixed signals like this equals a heart broken somewhere. Be careful, and don't go too far down the road to properly falling for him until there's only one signal saying - I LIKE YOU, LIKE YOU.
Good luck, and remember, not everyone makes out to be what they seem...
- Fornorina

Last Saturday my friend and I went to the mall, I met up with my boyfriend of a year there, well we were sitting on these couches and a bunch of straight edge kids came up and yelled at us, saying we were stupid and disgusting and needed to get the eff out of the mall. My boyfriend got mad but I said to be mature and let's meet up with his friends then leave.

So his friend met up with us ones 15 ones 16 my boyfriend is seventeen i'm sixteen and my friend is sixteen. We're all relatively young and these guys that kept coming by and yelling at us seemed to be 17 and 18.

Well we decided to leave and we left the mall, all of the sudden they came around the corner and started beating up my boyfriend. Two of them pulled out knives on his friends and the rest just started stomping his face and kicking him.

It was almost eleven and really dark. I tried to pull them off my boyfriend and they pushed me down and kicked me a few times and now I have bruises, my boyfriend has a black eye and a scraped up face along with a few sprained fingers.

Well after they beat us up they all booked it. Everyone keeps talking about it and I want everyone to drop it and just forget about it. It really stresses me out for some reason, because one of them goes to my school, and He talked to my friend today and it really made me nervous, I wanted to cry because I was scared, he was the one that kicked me.

I don't want to confront him and I don't want to tell my boyfriend because I know he'd go after this kid, and I know that another fight would start. I know they have knives so I'm afraid they'd hurt him.

It's been almost a week but I can't stop thinking of it and it gives me terrible anxiety, I feel like crying, I'm afraid I feel overwhelmed. I don't know what to do. I want to leave the situation how it is but I don't want to feel this way.

I kind of went through the same thing - got beaten up for no reason. I didn't even know who the people were and they were accusing me of something I hadn't done.
I didn't go to the police, but I should have. I was so scared - just like how you must be feeling right now.
You need to tell your parents right away, because they can help you the most and make you feel more welcome at home and advise you further.
Tell them everything, and then tell them you think you should go to the police and see what they say.
I know you said that you really don't want to tell your boyfriend, but he needs you, and you need him, so you both need to be there for each other when either one of you is scared.
Good luck,
- Fornorina

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