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Igniting the flame again?
Hey I love your advice so I thought I'd give this a shot!:)
Last summer, my friend and I met up with this guy peter and his friend. Initially, my friend was meeting up with peter and I was suppose to talk to his friend. Keep in mind this was the first time any of us were meeting each other. Well peter ended up liking me and his friend was trying to get with my friend, but didn't work out as well. Peter and I would text each other and try to hang out but one of us would be busy when we would try .. but he would be really sweet about it. I remember I said something like I wont be able to see you for a couple weeks because I'm going on vacation!! And he was like oh babe, that is going to suck!! Just sweet little things like that, the little things couunt for me. Well then we just sort of stopped talking and my friend had texted him recently asking if he wanted to hang out with me and her. Well things didn't work out (I don't know the reason) but I feel like messaging him on facebook saying something like..
"Hey Peter I heard syd (my friend) was trying to get you to hang out with us .. I haven't talked to you in a while .. too bad you couldnt."
I don't know what to say. He lost all his numbers I guess because when my syd texted him he didnt know her number so I don't really want to text him first. I'd rather like message him on facebook, see what he says, and then start texting and stuff. I don't want it to be all random, but if I texted him saying it was me I don't know if he would remember who it was at first .. becauase the last time we talked was last summer so if I messaged him on facebook first, he would see my picture and remember.
Anyways, do you think thats a good idea? What do you think I could say to him that would not make me look dumb? Thanks for taking the time to read, I'll return the favor :)
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Hey there, I'm glad you asked me for some advice, I will try to answer the best I can for you :)
It seems like you four have this friendship that's like, friendly friends and then sometimes more... If you get what I mean.
I think it would totally be a good idea. I mean you two don't have to be like boyfriend/girlfriend and going on dates to hang out as friends. I always guy friends that I can hang out with whilst shopping in town or something and never get too close to each other to be put into a situation like becoming more.
I think you should just Facebook chat or wall post him asking like the usual stuff, and say how you were bummed when he couldn't go to meet with you guys as well. Just try to make the conversation kind of flow and use the usual questions to get going.
I don't think anything would make you look dumb to be honest. I think sticking to the usual conversational starters, you will be fine.
Because, put it this way, you probably know those guys better than I do, so I can only speak from previous experiences.
When I used to start talking to a guy, it would just be like, how are you? been up to much lately? hows school? got any plans this/next weekend? you know, the usual things and maybe once you start talking, I always find that there is something else that you've like heard on the news of read in a magazine that you can include and start to progress the conversation further.
I think the Facebook chat/wall post thing is a great idea, because I know that like everyone goes on there everyday to just generally see what's going on with they're friends.
I think over time, and with a little effort of course, you will start texting again and becoming more close as friends. Maybe even ask him when he's free as well? That way you can hang out with him (if you want to of course).
Good luck! And I hope I've helped you out.
- Fornorina
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thanks, im glad you think so :] hahaa.
but id just like to let you know that this pretty much same exact scenario happened to me last summer. freaky.
ill tell you what i did ... and what you should do, since i went through it and know how you feel.
okay so, i totally agree, messaging him would be better than texting him. i mean, i texted the guy first.. and he didnt know who i was because he didnt recognize my number.. and let me tell you, THAAAT was embarassing hahaa. so then i messaged him and he recognized me by my picture.. much less awkward. he apologized for not knowing who i was and all of that, but because the texting thing might lower your self esteem for a few moments, the safe bet would be messaging him. so good choice; good idea.
i said to him on the message, "heyy i dont know if you remember me or not, but me and [my friends name] were talking about last summer.. do you remember when ..... hahaa that was so fun. we should all catch up again sometime :] !"
.. its always good if you try to make it not random by saying that they came up in conversation and you were thinking about them. it makes the guy feel good and NOT creeped out at all then just being like, HEYYY REMEMBER ME ?! yuh know ? and what you said was good.. but i would put like a past memory in there along with it. like.. "Hey Peter, its been sucha long time haha! me and syd were talking about that one time we all met up with you and [his friends name here]. haha good times :] she also told me that she invited you to hang out with us again; so we could all catch up, its too bad that you couldnt though :/ i wouldve liked to chill again, yuh know? :]"
thats like a little, i wanna catch up message. alot of people do it. and im telling you whatever you say he wont be turned off or creeped out. facebook is for connecting with people you havent seen in a while. and i promise he'll answer you back :] you can keep it short and sweet or long and sassy, whatever you wanna say will be fine, but those were just my suggestions. and i know it doesnt seem like it, but adding ... [dot dot dots] can sometimes make it awkward [yeah even over the internet, its like an awkward silence] so just try to avoid those.
good luck ! have fun, and if you need anything else, you know how to reach me :] hope i helped, xxo.
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