|
what should i do?
so i met this guy at a party. actually, i didn't even meet him. we didn't really even speak a word to each other hah but he was only there for a little. somehow he ended up getting on my camera, i guess someone took a picture of him so i added him on facebook. he messaged me and then we exchanged numbers and starting texting alot. he's kinda been flirting a little and we're supposed to hang out soon. are there any ways to not make things awkward? we've never talked in person and i'm not a real "meet someone online kinda person" if you know what i mean so i don't really know how to play it lol so i would loovee any help or advice
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
As usual in dating advice, be yourself. Usually first dates are awkward but just be chill, be funny, and keep things low-key. This will avoid any sort of complete awkwardness. You should also be open about your reservations about meeting people online, he might feel the same way and that'll clear up any internet-related awkwardness. My boyfriend of six months and I met on Craigslist when we were both looking for people to jam with so the first time we got together we made pretty chill. It was just as awkward as any other first date, but it all worked out. I hope it works out for you.
]
okay welll, i know all of these people are saying talk on the phone and call him and stuff, and yeah, thats a good idea, but if you dont want to and you just want to hang out then heres some tips for it to not be awkward..
- go someplace thats not totally isolated but pretty low key that way it wont be totally silent.
- no parties, because that can just get awkward right away with either all people you know or he knows or both.
- when you first see him, dont hug him unless he leans in and looks like he wants to hug you. [watch his body language.. arms crossed or in his pockets or behind his back signal that hes still not comfortable with hugging and stuff like that]
- if you hang out anywhere that you have to pay for something, always bring your own money because youll never know if he'll offer to pay for you or not.
- good conversation topics to start off with would be what he likes to do, favorite things like movies and food and such. if hes ever worked for and where.. just stuff like that :] im sure he'll contribute just as much, so dont worry.
- just laugh alot and joke around. it lightnes the mood, like when you first see him break the ice and say something funny.. like, "hey :] youre pretty tall in person ;] hahaa" just something that applies to him and seems funny but corny. guys get a kick out of it.
- dont get too dressed up either. jeans and a nice shirt [not like dressy nice] will do. you want to impress him but not go overboard, yuh know ?
youll be fine :] if you think its awkward, it will be. so just dont think about it and NEVER say "this is awkwardd" or "awkwaaaaard" because if it wasnt already awkward before, it sure will be after you say that haha.
hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] good luck ! dont sweat it or overthink, just go with the flow. xxo.
]
Deffinetly talk on the phone. Look into going to a movie or something where you don't nessisarily have to talk the whole time. With a movie you can have that to talk about after. Maybe go to dinner so it doesn't look like you are totally avoiding conversation. Don't go to a party, make it 1 on 1. Just find out his intrests and what you guys have in common. If it's a good match the conversation will just flow and keep going. Don't worry about it being awkward- have fun!!
-E
]
Talk on the phone and just be your self. I know its hard sometimes in front of a guy you may like alittle bit but if you act all shy it makes it akward. talk about your self ask questions about him etc.
]
Have you spoken on the phone? You should! That way you get the first conversation out of the way and you don't have to be in front of him.
After you've spoken a few times, things will be less awkward when you meeet.
Please remember, you still don't actually know this guy. So meet some place local with lots of people around.
Be safe, and have fun!
]
Honestly, I am usually like that too.
But I would just be yourself, because if you like him, and you want him to like you back, you should show him the real you. I'm sure at first it will be a little awkward, but I think every first hang out with someone new is, don't you think?
I'd just start with the usual conversations, if you know what I mean - the, hows school been? Got any plans next weekend? Any new parties? Maybe with these starters something else has happened with your friends or on the news so you can talk to him about that too, and he might even share his views with you too.
What about talking about music as well? You never know, you might have a lot in common with this new guy.
Good luck chick,
- Fornorina
]
More Questions: |