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I am so upset right now! I am tired of feeling like I am never good enough for him. I never do anything right and he always has to tell me. It hurts so bad, why can't fathers just love their children, and not have to make them feel like no matter how hard they try I fail.

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so. yesterday my boyfriend (of 1 1/2 years) grandfather died yesterday in his sleep. he never woke up.

so he asked me to come along to the wakes this weekend. (yes, i have met his grandfather multiple times, he was a wonderful man!) of course ill go if he wants me to, but its not in my best interest to...you know?

well, any suggestions with what i should say to his family members that i have not met yet? this is a very sad time for his family. i feel like they wouldnt want me there, i dont know. ryan asked me to come. im going to have him ask his father first. i don't want his family to be angry that im there...like invading their privacy.

and, i heard the first wake of the day is for family and the second wake of the day is more for friends...

i just need help! i haven't been to a wake in forever.

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My husband and I have been married for a little over 2yrs. He is 36 and I am 28. He is Israeli and I am originally from Canada though I now live in Israel and we speak mostly Hebrew. I mention this b/c it could be a contributing factor to our communication problems and difficulty connecting on deeper levels. My Hebrew is good but it doesn't compare to mother tongue.
We have a 1.5 year old daughter who we both love very much and neither one of us wants to get a divorce. We are both good people with good intentions but we are constantly getting into fights and arguments on a daily basis sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. Its like we really don't along. One of the main causes of conflict is that I am super sensitive to critism. I suppose I have some healing work to do because inside I sometimes feel like I'm not ok. I need a lot of love and acceptance from my partner. He is very critical and he admits this. When he comes home and says even the smallest critism I get defensive and upset. I can't hear any criticism. For example, today I made a special lunch for us. He came home and asked me if I had made the avocado salad and I said no b/c I wasn't sure if they were ripe enough. He said, oh I thought you were going to make it. I could feel the disappointment in his voice and quickly felt the stab of criticism- that I wasn't good enough b/c I didn't make him what he wanted. I know I have my issue but it seems he always aggrivating it with his comments- like the food being ready on time, enough salt, hot enough, chicken undercooked for his taste (not really undercooked). Every time I feel defensive and that I'm trying to please him and its never good enough. I always feel a bit nervous about what he will say about the food, and then when he criticizes (and there is always some kind of comment) I defend. My ex-boyfriend used to always praise everything I did- I wish my husband was like that. We don't go to regular counselling but we have a Rabbi who gives us advice. He told me to just try to ignore my husbands comments and not take them personally b/c its his own vomit. It sounds good in theory but in practice I'm on the defensive like a war zone.
Examples of other issues: today when he came home he said he was really hungry and wanted to eat right away. I started getting the salads into serving bowls (they were already ready)and put them out one by one. He wanted to be respectful and said he wouldn't start eating until I sat down at the table. I told him that wasn't necessary and to please start eating and I would join soon. He refused. I said please, please start eating its less stressful for me if I know that you have started to eat. He refused. I started to feel very stressed about the situation and begged him to please start eating that it would make me feel better. He could see I was getting stressed but he wouldn't eat. Then he kept saying 'watch how you're talking in front of the baby, don't talk like that and took her to the other room. I told him I would relax if he would just please sit down and start eating, feeling a lot of pressure to be a 'good wife' etc. He wouldn't. Finally I sat down at the table though was very upset by this point and could hardly eat. Perhaps I was being a bit stubborn and need to change this. on the other hand so was he. I really felt stressed and wanted him to start eating. This all led to a lot of very unpleasant feelings, unhappiness, anger and frustration. This is just one example. We are always getting into conflict- trying not to, and then it happens anyways. I don't know what to do- this is no way to live or to raise a child. Can this marriage be saved? Our marriage has been like this since day 1. Any feedback is appreciated- thank you.

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okay, so i don't know how to start this off but im 18 and a female. I'm very close with my mom and not so close with my dad. Growing up he was always like into politics, and always not home and out and about doing whatever he wants. He couldnt drink because he had diabetes and he was overweight and what not. i have an older brother and sister who are in their 30s and my dad was really close with my brother. but now that the both of them have moved out and have families hes never home to be wiht me. So as you can see like i never really have had a bond with my dad..like i dont talk to him about anything, fill him in with my life because hes never home. So recently maybe 4 months ago? he got the bipass suergy i think thats what its called to make him skinny or whatever? so since this he doesnt have diabetes anymore. the first like two months were good and for the past two months hes been drinking alllll the time. like its getting annoying because how could it not? my mom has been getting into fihgts with him and tells him that she thinks hes drinking too much but he just thinks shes wrong and says that "we don't understand him" he comes home around 3 or 4 all the time. he works, comes home at 6 eats goes out at maybe 7 and then comes home at 3 or 3. but anyway this week it just got so bad that he comes home and wakes us up during a school night and i was up till 3 ro 5 in the morning listening to him. last night sussobly he got a flat tire, and he kept calling and calling and calling the phone at 2 in the morning, like obviously we are not going to pick it up because its him probably being drunk. anyway i dont know like how anyone could help me? im too afraid to talk to my dad because weve never had a bond or anything and my mom tires sometimes but he always flips out at her. my brother needs to have like have a few drinks in him to even say anything like that to my dad and my sister just doesnt think anything of it. i dont know how to like help it because i want him to stop drinking and like be a real dad to me, i also dont want my parents to split up because my mom said to me earlier today that shes really close on saying "either you choose your family or your alochol" and she said something for him not coming back. and i dont want that. idk if anyone could help? maybe if anyone has been in this position before? or knows someone or anything. thanks sorry that this is so long too

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I recently met a girl at the bar about 3 months ago. We really hit it off and had ALOT in common and we got along BETTER than GREAT! There is a bit of an age difference between us... she is 11 years older than me to be exact. I am so mature for my age however, that it's not uncommon for me to have friends that much older. I am 19 years old and I had my own house, car, job ect. and I hated living alone! About a month after we met and talked everyday and hung out quiet often, she told me she was in a really abusive relationship with her boyfriend that she was living with in a town about 3 hours away. I asked her why she wouldn't leave and she told me over & over it was because she had no place to go. I offered her and her 6 year old son the spare bedroom in my house and even offered to come all the wat up there and move them down here and she thanked me but politely refused. when I asked her why she said "bacause I love him with all of my heart and could never leave him" About a week later I was really stressing over her and her sons well-being in the situation she was in because of some of the stories she was telling me about things he did to her in front of her son (slap, choke, hinch, ect.) and was determined to get them out of that house and away from that man. I introduced her to my Uncle because I figured that if I couldn't convince her to leave, maybe he could if she knew there was something good waiting for her here. 2 days later she moved in with me and we agreed to SPLIT the bills. Shes been living with me for two months now and has not paid a single bill. Everytime I confront her about the money she always has a new excuse of why she didn't have any and even told me one time that her wallet got stolen but I realized that somehow it magically appeared in her hands 3 days later!(I guess after she had forgotten she ever even told me that lie) I recently caught her sneaking out and leaving her son asleep in her bed alone! She didn't know I had caught her so I waited up and she didn't get home until 6am when I was supposed to be up for work. When she came walking in the door i would ask her where she was coming home from and she would say something like..I went to the store real quick...or I went for a walk...or I had to run out to my car for a second. Come to find out she'd been seeing a number of different guys behind my Uncles and my back and getting money from them! She is AWAYS lying about money and even tho I KNOW I should just kick her out, I really do love her and her son and do not want to put them out on the street with nowhere to go. I'm at the point where i've given her so many dead lines to get a job and come up with rent money that honestly even tho I do love her i'm beginning to harbor bad feelings against her. It's a sad thing considering if she would just get her act together we would be GREAT roommates because I do love her just like my sister and besides the money situation, we get along flawlessly. Recently i've found out something that leads me to believe that she even lied about her abusive ex...as a matter of fact I don't think he was abusive at all. Since I am starting to harbor bad feelings about her because of the lies she tells and the financial bind this situation has put me in because I am having to sopport 3 people, i'm afraid if she dosen't get out soon there will be no chance of us being friends in the future. Even if she does get out, I am afraid that there is still no chance of us being friends. After she has lied to me, screwed me over and put my in the financial bind of a life time, my feelings are hurt more than anything. Why do I still love her after all she has done and what do I do? I've always herd that saying "Don't let money come between you and those that you love." So honestly I have no idea what to do.

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Hey all.. very long but a bit confused.

I'm 18/f and my boyfriend is 21.

We started dating in high school. I was 15 and he was 17. We broke up in june bc he was being mean to me, so i wanted a break, got back together, but broke up again. Lately I have been feeling like I want to be an 18 year old girl. We never had any other serious relationships, so how do we truly know if we want each other for ever? I dont want to hear I am too young to be thinking about this, but I want to know now so i didnt waste my teens years of just having fun, or if he is it, hes my "one"

At times I feel like im married and I mean, I have the rest of my life to be married. I talked to him about this and he even said he isnt sure if i'm "the one" and Im thinking if he thinks that too, then why dont we take a break to really find this out?

What is hard is we work together, 5 days a week at the time same, bc we work for my mom. I WILL see him.

My questions are, what do you guys think? Am I too young to be in such a long relationship, and if I do want to take a break/break up how will I do this?

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Well me(32) and my boyfriend(34) have been together for a little over a year and the last I'd say... 2 not quite 3 months he hasn't been as "in to me" like he was. Ok, this is the situation. We lived almost 100 miles apart, he lives in austin, I live in San Antonio, Tx. Well, I would go to austin every weekend and sometimes stay until tuesday and we wouldn't be able to keep out hands off each other. Well here recently I moved to Austin pretty much with him. He's got alot going on that I know are important to him and he's got to get done. What I dont understand is nothing has changed except my moving here. so why is he not showing me the same attention? How do I get his attention back just a little bit? Should I move back to S.A and give him his space back?

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I don't want to go to school tomorrow, because, of personal reasons. So, I'm going to try & make my self throw up - any tips??

haha, don't even start with calling me stupid, because with the situation I'm in, I CAN'T go to school. Thanks a lot [♥]

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i've been told told by my boyfriend and his causin that my friend some lies about me she says she didnt but they keep telling me she did i dont want to put them before her but i cant really trust her since she slept with my ex so what should i do who to believe

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i use dream matt mouse and its great i love it, but after a few hours of it being on my face it goes blotchy and doest look very nice, how can i stop this happening ?

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I went out with my friends, and one guy was dancing with my friend. I didn't know that she was into him- i just thought she was having fun dancing. The same guy approached me later in the night to dance (mostly salsa music, so everyone was dancing), and then, without thinking, I made out with him. Now, I'm concerned my friend is upset at me...well, we don't know each other well, but we did go out. I made some comment about how I couldn't drink the shot that some guys bought all of us, and she said "it's okay, my LOVER drank it for me," she was referring to the same guy. Later in the night as we were saying bye, she seemed nice with me, but I am still concerned that our friendship is at stake, and that she doesn't trust me. What should i do??

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Well um not stressing about anything if i,am dat gud if im not thats gud to but my period is now 4 days late n i stressin to yu..its never been n the past even i thought i was ..i understand wat yu are sayin. I think i need,a professional opinion.thankx anyway.

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I really dnt believe your period can be late because you think you r preqnant...irs been plenty of times i thought i was pregnant n my period showed up right on time. I have NEVER been late so me thinkin i am has only jus bequn since i a coupke day before my missed period. So whether i think i am or not my period should have already come because it had its mind made up that it was qonna come almost two weeks ago.

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I am 20 yrs old..i hve had my period since i was twelve...i was on the depo shot since i was 16 and got off at 17 i didnt hve periods then but they came back like 6 mos later...i hve been srxually activity since i was 13 n i never got preqnant before or after i stoppd takinq birth control...my period are normal. I get one every month. On feb.23 i startd my period and ended feb 28.. my ovulation day was,march 9 and i had sex marc 8...a couple days later my breast beqan to hurt n my nipples were very sensitive...my next period isnt due until march 23...since then i have been quite tired..sum lower abdominal pain as if im about to start my period...and the occasional back pain hea and there..today is march 24 i am a day late and i still havesnt seen any siqns of my period..no spottin or and anythin..my nipples r still sensitive. My period always cums..EVERY MONTH!!! My breast have never hurt this lonq and i have nevr been even a day late..i took a hpt yesterday maech 23 which was my expected period date and it was neqative..either i took it too early n i am indeed preqnant or my period is late for no reason and im not preqnant..i am confused...any suqqestions or opinions?

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Okay so I know this is going to sound like an odd relationship, but my bf and i dont keep secrets from eachother. At all. Well at least thats how he wanted it to be. He told me he never minds if i look at his phone, or if i ask him anything he will always tell me, and he wants me to do the same...and i have been doing that, i always let him look at my texts or sometimes he will on his own nd i dont mind.
Now, last Saturday we got into a fight, and on Sunday we were together becuz we went to lunch with his family. He was texting his friend, and I asked him what about? and he didnt answer so I looked at his phone but he had deleted the convo. So I asked him, hey soo what did you talk about and he said some bs answer that was random.

Later that evening, him, me and his friend and friends brother were all hanging out and my bf and his friends brother went to see his new apartment, while me and his friend stayed back to watch this show we both love. Now during this time, his friend says to me "heyy so how come you said that yesterday?" (referring to the fight i had with my bf) and I was like "What? He told you that?" and he says "Yeah look" and he shows me the whole convo he had deleted off his phone. My instincts were right, my bf had lied to me, because the text was saying all this stuff about me, not really bad stuff, but still it wasnt nice either. He was telling his friend how I was "bitching" and I "ruined his night" etc. If i had seen that earlier on his phone I wouldnt have gotten mad because its just how he feels about our fight and he was telling his friend, its fine. But what made me mad was that he LIED to me about it, something that hes always had this thing with honesty saying how oh, if you ever take your confidence away from me its going to be over because I never once gave you a reason to doubt me blah blah, and truth is he only did once, until now. (i found out about that too) so honestly i felt kinda like well you've lied twice already so i feel kinda betrayed u know?
So even tho i promised his friend i wouldnt say he showed me, I did bring it up to him. I said that why is it that you deleted the text today? What didnt you want me to see? and he says why are you so paranoid it wasnt even about u? thats when i got mad i was like hey i have reason to ask ok I saw the conversation. And i pretty much caught him in a lie, but in order to save his friend since i promised i said that he had shown me something on his phone and I accidentally saw the conversation. Now my bf has been "out of it" as he puts it, this whole week because he says he feels weird about sunday, like he cant believe i did that and looked thru his friends phone, etc etc and hes trying to make me feel guilty. Am I wrong here? And what can I say to him to make him realize hes the one that messed up without giving away the fact that his friend showed me their conversation?

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Hi. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. He is 18/m, and i am 17/f. He recently went on vacation with his friends, and when he came back he had made a lot of friends on the resort. One of the friends name is Bridget. Now, let me say something. I know for a FACT that my boyfriend would NEVER physically cheat on me, due to past experiences. Its just, he talks to bridget, a lot. A longgg wall to wall, always texting her, he calls her at night sometimes (and yes, i did snoop one night when he was in the shower, btw we dont live together, i just am always at his house). I feel like he's emotionally cheating on me, and has strong feelings for her.

Another thing...she is the complete oposite of me. i have brown hair, brown eyes. I am 5'4", i am a runner and a swimmer and naturally pale. She is blond hair, blue eyes, close to 5'10" ( my bf is 6') and she is a volleyball player and insanely tan...all the time. From what ive heard, she doesnt want kids, and hates pets. I want to be a mother and i love animals and work in training animals. She is really into scary movies and gore, while i cant bare to even see them without throwing up, and he loves scary movies. She lives 5 hours away from us, but...im scared. Shes going to take the train here in april to hang out with all of the people she met and with her firends. I really dont want her to. My boyfriend wants me to meet her, but im not sure i want to. Do you think he has feelings for her? how should i deal with her coming to visit? Thank you all

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ok well i have these huge bags under my eyes! they make me look horrible! i tried getting rid of them by sleeping well but they wont go away!! i want to get rid of them!! please help me get rid of them!! thanks! :)

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Alright guys, this question can be answered by anyone, but I would people with experience (like marriage or serious relationships) to answer. My fiance and I have been together for 2 and a half years. We love each other to death, have been through so much, and currently live together. I've talked to him about how him watching porn makes me feel uncomfortable, disrespected, and a little insecure. He PROMISES me he won't watch, but I end up finding out he's broken his promise. He tries to hide it, but that just makes me angrier, as if he's taking me for someone stupid. It upsets me so much, I just don't know what to do anymore. Can anyone give me some advice? Has anyone ever gone through this? What are your opinions on this matter? Thanks in advance.

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What are some good shampoos/conditioners/etc. that will help restore health to hair? Currently, my hair is like .. a nest of split ends.

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I'm 17/f. My boyfriend of 2 years and I are going to a concert this summer and I really want to lose my virginity to him soon, so I figured why not that night? After the concert, I was wondering how I could somehow initiate it or give him a sign that I want to have sex with him THEN? I dont want to kill the moment by discussing it beforehand because I know it'd make him AND me feel uncomfortable knowing. I want to let it happen on it's own without making it seem awkward. How do I initiate the moment?

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