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Loosing my virginity
My boyfriend is ready for sex and I'm really scared about loosing my virginity what should I do about this? And what does it feel like to loose your virginity?
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If you are worried and nervous about it. Then your not ready. Losing your virginity is special and should be done with someone you love and you are comfortable with. It is painful and good.
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If you're not ready, you're not ready and if he's the right guy then he should understand and respect you for that and he'll wait for you.
Never have sex unless you really want to and think it's right for you. Sex is one thing you should be selfish about because it's your body and it'll effect you mentally aswell.
Virginity is one thing that'll always be brought up, your friends will want to know who you lost it to, your family, your future kids and boyfriends will most likely ask about it too so it's a story you won't want to regret and will want to be able to happily be able to talk about. And the guy is a big part of that, you will not want to regret who it is as you'll be emotionally attached for life.
To loose your virginity, admittedly, is an odd feeling. Obviously you'll only experience it once. Physically it's a little painful, depending on you and the guy. But emotionally it's confusing and very different for everyone.
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Im also going to agree with the last person. its not all its cracked up to be and "beautiful" and "precious" i gonna be honest. the first time (even if its with a guy you really love and you know he loves you back) its alittle awkward and weird, and really doesnt feel that good because his penis is going to feel like a large tampon going inside you for the first time. Now if you guys are PREPARED, youll have some lube on hand to make sure that in the process of him moving in and out of you having lots of lube will make things a whole lot easier and you can just lay there, let him do the work, and try to just enjoy it alittle more.
Really what it comes down to is making sure that the person you gonna do it with is someone that your TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY comfortable with, emotionally and physically. Ideally, the first time at least for me was in my mans room, in his bed, under the covers, and he had condoms and lube already there for the just in case moment. Well that moment happened and i didnt regret it because i thought to myself, even if things dont work out with him in the future, at least my first time was with someone i really felt deeply for and i could tell had the same feelings for me. ((and was hott!) hehee
good luck and just try to make sure your both prepared. lube will be your best friend for the first time around as well as condoms.
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If you're scared-don't do it. Scared implies a fear that you're not ready. Its natural to be a little nervous-the fear of the unknown-but scared especially with you're boyfriend rings alarm bells.
I'm going to be really honest with you and say that I only lost mine recently too.
Most people drone on about how its precious-how its a one of and once its gone its gone-and do is wisely. They also may say things like you lose your innocence etc.
For me-it was not what I expected. If you're ready (and only you will know) then it just feels like the most natural thing in the world. So its not as big a hurdle as you probably think.
Physically it may hurt a little. If you reckon you've torn your hymen before then it wont bleed at all-or maybe slightly. You'll most probably wonder if how you feel is how everyone else normally feels. If your partner is enjoying it. If you're doing things right. For me it hurt less than I thought it would. The guy in question knew I was inexperienced so not knowing where to put things and where this leg should be now blah blah blah was less of a worry. As long as your bf knows its your first time then he'll be gentle. Physically expect to feel more 'open' down there for the first days after. But don't expect to be mind blown.
Emotionally-now this is interesting. People cope with it in different ways. For me-I felt a sense of relief-and then a sense of being used-because it was with a one night stand.
Others may feel abit tingly inside-like that awkward feeling when your mom tells you its time to start wearing a bra-kinda sexualized-ya know?
I'd say emotionally expect to feel a range of emotions. Happy. Dissapointed it wasn't like the movies. Relieved you've done it. Teary you've entered a new chapter in your life even. A sense of trust with your partner (a tighter bond)
Take it in your stride-I mean its a totally natural thing.
One things to add-don't feel pressured if you're not ready that that's it. Period. It aint going to happen yet.
I'm curious to know what you're scared of? Doing it wrong (only natural first time)
That your not ready? (Your boyfriend will understand if not dump him)
On a final note. For me, I lost my V card the very first time I ever went clubbing. Sure-it was not how I expected it to happen. But losing your virginity IS NOT such a big life decision as most people make out. If things don't go to plan. Who cares? You can only learn from your mistakes. Think of it as a learning curve.
Sorry my answer was so long-I just wanted to help you as this was me a year ago! Anymore help just inbox me. Good luck!
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