Hello! I'm Sammy, I'm 18 and live in the Scottish Highlands. I haven't been on here in 2 years, but I'm now back!
I've finished school and currently working at a co-op convenience store. I'm dyslexic, bisexual and unsure what to do with my life currently.
I love helping out my friends and thought doing something like this would be a great, to just help out more people!
I hope my advice helps y'all!
I may be young, but that just means it's fresh advice. (;
I've gone through basically all the classic teenage problems and more, so hopefully my experiences can help you out.
Feel free to ask me anything:
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and general day to day stuff.
- Though, of course I will attempt all that is asked. (:
E-mail: samieeeey@hotmail.com
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Location: Highlands, Scotland
Occupation: Co-op worker
Age: 18
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Someone is blackmailing on kik. I sent him nude photo of mine, he want me to send again if I will not he said that he will post it online website wherein all country can see it. I dont know what to do. He said that he will spread it and all my friends can see it. Im afraid Im fron Hungary. Need help (link)
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Report them immediately through Kik and any other app/site you have him on. Do not send him any more photos.
There's not alot else you can do unless you maybe tease him into sending you one so that you have leverage too but that's not going to help if you end up needing to get a higher authority involved.
Really hope all goes well for you.
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i have been confused about what i should be, i am a female that is more comfortable dressing in male clothes, i act more masculine then i do feminine however i do have certain female traits that keeping coming out (maternal - from when i was a step mum). i have been reading up and considering going through with a sex change operation. the only thing that is holding me back is i want kids and want to be able to conceive naturally. (link)
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There's not alot I can say to help you here as it's all down to what makes you feel comfortable and only you know that.
Since you're wanting kids yourself and naturally, you could wait until after you've had kids to have the sex change. And in the mean time just continue doing what you can to be your true self.
I wish I could be of more help and really hope all goes well for you.
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So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I honestly can't cope with the way my parents tell me to live, I feel like I am trapped in my home and I can't do anything!
They have these rules that I cannot go on my iPad/phone until 8pm every night, even at weekends I'm not aloud to use them. They say I'm to antisocial and I need to get out more, I go almost everywhere with them! I do go to town with friends aswell. They won't let me out of my town, I live in Barnstaple, devon and I'm not even aloud to Exeter or Bristol to go on a shopping trip with friends which is only about 2 hours away. Also I'm not aloud to be friends with a few people I know, one of them because there is a rumour going around that her mum is a prostitute and the other one who is my best friend and I still hang out with her secretly because she said something rude on Facebook like 2 years ago! It annoys me how I can't be friends with who I want to be friends with. My parents won't let me go out after school and I always have to be back home at 4pm if I go anywhere, which means I can't go out in the evening or at night and have a laugh :(
They also won't let me use social networks other than Facebook and Twitter, I want to be able to use snapchat, Instagram and tumblr but I'm not aloud to have it on my phone, another thing is that my dad still reads my texts and my messages with friends online!!! I'm 14 and I literally have no privacy! It's really annoying I want to just tell him "no, I won't give you my phone" or just not tell him the lock to my phone but he always makes me! :(
This is really annoying me now how I feel like I am stuck with nothing to do and no privacy at all :(
Anyone know what I could do? (link)
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That is very unfair I must admit!
The best way to sort it is to sit them down or maybe talk over dinner when they are relaxed and tell them exactly how you feel.
You seem like a sensible girl so I feel it should go down well.
Start small and say you don\'t like that they\'re reading your texts as you are 14 now, same with Snapchat and Instagram. Tumblr can be quite an explicit site though.
I can understand with them not being comfortable with you going as far as Exeter and Brisol as you are young. My parents only started being comfortable with me going that far with friends when I was 16 and even then they weren\'t keen!
Show how you\'ve matured and be sure not to raise your voice or complain, simply tell them you need a little more space and that you respect their concern for you but you should be allowed to choose your friends and should be able to use your phone and ipad when you wish as they are yours.
Hope this helps! Feel free to ask me more questions if I haven\'t answered all your concerns on this!
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I have registered for my 5th year for college and it seems as though I am not getting any financial aid money this year. What is going on? I filed my fafsa a month ahead of time. There was a verfication worksheet I had to do (which is suppose to be random, but I have done this for the 3rd time in a row) and I did it late, but that was after I found out that I can print my IRS transcript online, so I had to wait four weeks. 2 weeks because I accidently ordered the wrong one and another 2 weeks because I had them mail it to me. Still, that is not a good reason for me to NOT get financial aid because most of them are student loans. (link)
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All I can advise is that you call them directly and sort it out over the phone or make an appointment if possible.
If your financial income has not changed you should be able to sort it out and receive what you\'ve previously gotten.
Hope all works out, apologies for not being able to help more.
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Is it possible to get a rental car with 100$ in NYC? (link)
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Unfortunately I couldn\'t tell you as I\'m from the UK. Sorry!
I\'m sure you could find something online or ask a citizen advice line.
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My boyfriend is ready for sex and I'm really scared about loosing my virginity what should I do about this? And what does it feel like to loose your virginity? (link)
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If you\'re not ready, you\'re not ready and if he\'s the right guy then he should understand and respect you for that and he\'ll wait for you.
Never have sex unless you really want to and think it\'s right for you. Sex is one thing you should be selfish about because it\'s your body and it\'ll effect you mentally aswell.
Virginity is one thing that\'ll always be brought up, your friends will want to know who you lost it to, your family, your future kids and boyfriends will most likely ask about it too so it\'s a story you won\'t want to regret and will want to be able to happily be able to talk about. And the guy is a big part of that, you will not want to regret who it is as you\'ll be emotionally attached for life.
To loose your virginity, admittedly, is an odd feeling. Obviously you\'ll only experience it once. Physically it\'s a little painful, depending on you and the guy. But emotionally it\'s confusing and very different for everyone.
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Which thing is best as a birthday gift for my daughter (5 years old)? (link)
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Apologies for the late reply. I\'ve been away.
As I don\'t know your daughter it\'s hard for me to say.
As she\'s at the age of starting school you could get her a pack of coloring pencils/felt tips and a cool pencil case for it? As it\'s still educational!
But for something bigger possibly an electric kids car (I know you can get barbie ones and such).
If you watch the kids channels there will be alot of ideas in the adverts :)
Hope this helps and happy birthday to her!
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So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I'm pretty sure this isn't normal. It's usually every morning I wake up with soaked underwear, it doesn't smell that nice either. During the day it's nit so bad but it's still happening, it's very uncomftable. I find that whenever I need to pee I all of a sudden become very desperate to go and I can't hold it in for that long and if I don't go I can't hold it in. I don't want to have to wear a panty liner or something like that, any ideas on what this could be?
I'm too scared to tell my parents about it as I would be embarrassed and I really don't want to have to go and see a doctor unless I really have to.
Thanks. (link)
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Alot of girls get problems like this so you\'re deffinatly not alone.
Personally there isn\'t alot of advice that I can give you for this particular problem.
Going to the doctors would probably be your best move as you may have some sort of bladder problem. Possibly a small bladder or something may be putting pressure on your bowels when they fill or muscle problems (as you said when you sleep you awake to being soaked, and as your body relaxes when you sleep your bladder empties)
I know it\'ll be difficult at your age to go to the doctors alone as I use to go with my mom when I was your age. So you may need to tell your parents but you could possibly make an appointment yourself to go after school?
I hope this helps a bit, and sorry that I couldn\'t give you an answer where you wouldn\'t have to go to the doctors. Good luck and I hope you\'re problem gets sorted :)
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now my girlfriend is going through this and she is in the hospital uncouncius she had thrown up blood and passed out now she has been out since 1130 last night but doctors stabled her but they dont know if any of her organs failed they need to wait till she wakes up i guess is that true and how does this work like the whole anerxia thing and how would i go about getting her help? where should she go for help and if she doesnt want it what should i do to convinse her? and what are her chances of surviving? i am a 15 year old boy and im really hoping you will answer. (link)
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Hiya,
Very sorry to hear about this.
Eating problems are very common with young girls - I myself had them at your age.
If she's stable there should be a chance of her surviving if she stays in the hospital. The hospital will give her the help she needs.
Anorexia is a very serious problem and she will need professional help to strengthen her body and get healthy again.
I hope this has helped a bit. Keep calm and stay by her side through it all.
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so im 14/f i had sex for the first time like a month or two ago, it has been my only time. but me and my boyfriend mess around ALOT. he fingers me and it gets really intense, but anyways he did that one really hard and i bled again! and my pariod has been like 2 weeks late! ( i have had a period since having sex) sould i be worried??
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This is fairly normal, it's happened to me.
Don't be worried it will just be spottings.
Not much more I can say really, don't worry.
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OKay well there is this guy that may be coming over this weeekend and he is 1 grade older than me and he is going to be in my room and i hvae some childish stuff in there but want to know what guys think is acceptable in a girls room? BTW 8 grade/f (link)
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I'd say hide the things that would be fairly embarrassing.
But keep things that reflect your personality, as you don't want to hide yourself if yous are going to have a relationship of a sort.
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hi so i dont normally use these sites or anything but i am desporate for your advice i am meant to be going away on friday night for onenight with my partner its our first night away alone since we met nearly 3 years ago - every weekend he has his daughter and during th week we work. i just notices when i got out of the shower i have got my period which normally last 5 days they are very irregular and i dont take birth control pills they are heavey and painful is there any way i can stop it before firday?? i wouldreally appreciateyou help (link)
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Unfortunately, no, there isn't - I know, periods are such a bummer!
Also, as it has already started, there's no way you can really stop it now.
Sorry.
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20 years old, female. I love my bf so much and we've been together for 2 years now.
so Ive always been attractedt to boys and never been attracted girls, never even noticed them sexually at all. I have recently watched the first season of 'pretty little liars' and the lesbian character caught my eye, i stated to get excited to see her kiss other girls on the show and since watching this 2 weeks ago, lately Ive been feeling an attraction to girls and have not been able to stop checking girls out when i go out to place...
how can this been happening? ive never felt this attraction to girl before in my life and arent you meant to grow up feeling this attraction through your teen years, not just magically start feeling it out of the blue?
Help!! im sooo confused right now and I love my bf so much and we've been through so much together, i dont want to hurt him :( but at the same time im so confused and lost and its outta control. What does this all mean? :(
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A lot of people have been in your place.
You're only just out your teens and people don't tend to be able to make every life decision by 20 - you're not completely grown up yet!
Have a chat to your boyfriend first, you don't know your sexuality until you've actually tried it. Most people experiment and many don't end up actually liking it - it may just be lust.
See what he says.
Yous have been together a long time and should be fully comfortable with eachother - he should understand.
You could possibly have a threesome with another girl to try it out.
Be sure he's comfortable with that first though.
Hope this helps.
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i am 21
My past boyfriend fingerin me but i have no bleeding next month i will marry so i want to know that can he know it in any process? (link)
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You are a virgin as the penis did not enter.
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18/f I FRICKIN' HATE FRIZZ. I've had to deal with it all my life. It's what I'm known for, unfortunately. I have medium-length brown, thick, frizzy hair. But beneath all the ugggggllllllllyyyy frizz is some beautiful natural curl I have! So, I wanna know... Are there any natural tricks or solutions to tackling frizz without straightening or curling it, etc.? Like for example, I've heard of rinsing it in cold water, or whatever? I never have time or skill/knowledge to actually do my hair in the morning. But I'll tell you what I do, just so maybe you can tell me if I need to do something, or am doing anything wrong?
I shower at night. When I'm done, I towel dry a ton, then wrap it up in a towel while I brush my teeth, and all that other junk. Then after a while I take it out and brush it. Then I put in some mousse, but only a little. Then I go to bed. I wake up and it has this natural curl to it that I love. But it's over-shadowed by this layer of frizz floating on top of it. It's sooooo freaking annoying, I hate it so much!!!! Out of desperation, I'll try to put more mousse on it, even though my hair's dry. But then when I look in a mirror at school the frizz has popped up again, like I had never put any mousse in it in the first place. I don't know how to do my hair, or braid it, nor do I have the time in the morning. I love having my hair down, but sometimes the frizz is so bad I just have to put it up in a pony tail, which looks so plain and eeeyeuck.
I hate to be picky, but I cannot use hairspray. My friends for some reason love to play with my hair, and if it was all stiff, it would be weird and awkward, lolol. But anyway, yeah. Caan someone help me~??? (link)
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I sometimes have the same problem!
I sorted mine my blow drying so it isn't curly.
If I want my nice curls I use a normal amount of shampoo and conditioner, towel dry a wee bit, not too much as that causes frizz, also try not to use mouse, then sort your parting and scrunch your hair. I can take some practise.
There are many creams you can use when you've gotten out the shower. Make sure it's conditioning and leaves no residue - you don't want greasey looking hair!
My friend has MEGA curly hair, I'll ask today what creams etc she uses and add the info for you. (:
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Hi I'm a 12 year old girl. I don't wear make up but i really want to because I think it's pretty and a fun way to be crazy. All my friends have make up they get from people. But they don't really wear it. My one friend though does a ton too! How do I tell my Mom I want to wear make upwith out being awkward because she thinks idont cause im kinda a tomb boy. Please get back to me, thanks :)
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Hey Kirra,
All girls have that problem when they're growing up.
In my case, I was quite tom boy too, but I was in an emo phase and asked my mom for some eyeliner. From then on, I just wore more and more. Bought some foundation, then mascara, now I have a drawer full!
I reckon the best way would to be asking your mom. Even if she says no at first, she will appriciate that you asked her. You could even just ask if she could give you a mini make over with hers, then slyly ask if you could have some make up?
I hope this has helped a bit, good luck! x
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Best friend is breaking my heart
I had a seven plus year gay relationship with my best friend in secret until recently as we have just broke up. What we had was 'friends w/benefits' which went exclusive. He is an extremely selfish person and gets tunnel vision with what he wants but he never used that side of him with me...yet. He didn't keep to the 'exclusive' bit and cheated, he then wanted to end the benefits with me and go be with a girl he was sleeping with. I wasn't too bothered about ending the benefits side but it was killing me just how much he had damaged our close relationship (as in the friends side of it) to get what he wanted. He said he really wants to be with her, but I know that that would be super arkward and painful for me at this point so I told him he would have to choose to either be with her knowing that it would be too much for me due to how they got together or to stop slowly destroying our friendship which spans 8 years of being really close best friends and try and rebuild the trust, respect, loyalty etc, which he broke. He has since choose to fix our friendship but he seems really distant, like he has no feelings of any kind towards me and doesn't seem eager to get back our friendship. It has devastated me watching as he stands by doing very little, when our friendship is hanging on by a thread and all he has to do is be himself, my best friend, not acting like we don't know each other. He thinks he can be with her and sort it with me at the same time but to me that's fair on me as due to his selfishness he will not sort us out he will just focus on her and that would make me feel really betrayed and things toward him, after he has sorted us out he can please himself. I love him and would never hurt him or see him hurting but he doesn't seem as though he cares about me or how bad I'm hurting or what's happening to our friendship, he just seems to care about the girl he wanted, when he could get whoever at a later date when we are sorted.
I just want my best friend back, I miss him so so much but he doesn't seem to care, I'm so depressed and can't stop the tears from flowing when I think of how close he was to how distant he acts with me now.
Please any advice for me or my friend would help thanks for listening. (link)
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Ask him to meet up with you so you can talk about it when he isn't too busy - if he does his selfish thing and doesn't want to get him there and then - to talk about it. Explain exactly what you've posted; that you miss him (both as a friend and more?), that you want to sort your friendship out, to move past the awkwardness, that you are happy for him to move on if he is (only say that if you are happy with it).
Just get him to proper listen to you, show emotion, but avoid neediness!
Have a good hug aswell, they always help! Brings people closer and more comfortable with one another.
Hope this has helped a bit! Good luck. x
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I5/f. I'm a virgin and my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him but i have no idea. (link)
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As a teenager myself, I know what it's like with the pressure atm, as people younger and younger are trying to have sex as soon as they can.
I'll admit I lost it at a stupidly young age, 14, but I honestly don't regret it as I really did like the guy and he liked me too. It was his first time aswell, it was Valentines Day and yeah, it was special.
I also didn't really know what to do either and anyone on their first few times having sex wont know, so I think the "if you don't know how, you aren't ready" theory doesn't count.
To sum up, my advice is to make sure it's special and that you both do honestly like eachother. Do make sure there is contraception involved as you can get pregnant on your first time - if you thought you couldn't then you're deffinatly too young! :L
Just be sure YOU are ready, don't be afraid to say no - putting this question shows you are unsure.
If he doesn't want you if you do say no, you know why.
Good luck, x
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I have a boyfriend, but I'm starting to have doubts on him.he might not be the right guy for me. A: he's not popular. B: sadly he smells. C: he's started to call me his girlfriend i don't really care about that part... so anyway, should i break up with him? (link)
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Break up with him. You don't seem to like him and seem embarressed too. You'll be doing both yourselves a favor by doing it soon.
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Okay so. There's this guy, he's a year older than me. I'm only 13 so my feelings are just a crappy pile of stuff. I haven't seen him yet but he texts me, a lot. He calls me darling and those stuff and loves saying the words "Will you go out with me?" over and over again. I'm confused of what he wants from me because he always compliments me as "beautiful" and begs me not to leave him. I tried asking him what point he's explaining but all he said was to go "bonding" and stuff. He's a guy, i'm a girl. He's got an ex and i'm afraid i'll be one of them soon. WHAT DO I DOO?
P.s. I rate according to what you deserve. (link)
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I'm assuming by not seeing him you mean you've never met him.
I agree it's a confusing situation, I was in a similar one when I was your age.
It seems he's toying with you and your emotions - he may just like the power he gets from it, or maybe he really likes you but is afraid to show himself in person from low self-esteem. It's hard to tell.
I advise to ask again what it is he wants from you. Or to meet up at school once you find out who he is and more about him.
I hope this helps to some affect.
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