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How can I keep myself quiet?
Recently, I have come to the conclusion that being quiet is the best thing that I can do to ease my social probems. Socially, I am tolerated at my small highschool, and at home, I have to deal the luxury of having a non understanding mother to deal with not to mention my pest of a brother (age 9). My freshman year I tried everything to try to be liked and accepted by my peers. Mainly because I felt if I was being tolerated at school maybe its due to a problem that I have. By everything I mean everything ex: Carrying peoples bookbags, as well as mine to each class going out of my way to be kind despite their nasty demeaning attitudes. That failed. Now I am approaching my sophmore year and I see the same delima knocking on my door trying to make my situation work has only resulted in getting spit in my face. So my pivotal question would be how do I fly under the radar unnoticed? How can I approach my situation in the most quiet way possible. I am willing to do whatever it takes. It has taken me a very long time to see that some people just arent liked, and socially something in my character is the funk to any social success that I could get at school and at home. At this point all of my interest in making friends at my school has vanished I give up this has been going on for over 3 years now.(I am not completley friendless but many of my friends are outside of school) I just know that the transition from being sociable to suddenly nonsociable is a drastic one. I need step by step help on how to approach this goal.
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I suppose you could do that. How ever some people just have trouble fitting in in large crowds my so being one of them. He has Aspergers. He gets nervous isnt sure how to act to in public. Be your self. it sounds dumb but dont try and be someone who you are not. If you want to make long term friends with someone you need to be your self. keep your head held high and if your not confident do what it takes for your self to be confident. think positive all the time. good luck
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Hey there!
You realize you're giving these people power over you? You need to have some YOU time. Stop trying to talk to people, or being nice. Get ready in the morning, have breakfast, go to school, get to class, talk only when talked to, eat, be silent, go home, do your chores and homework and try not to cause any problems. That's basically my routine.
Somewhere along the way, people noticed how quiet i was and approached me. I made friends, and now my routine includes talking to my friends once in awhile.
So, don't go all depressed on me but being quiet isn't something you can force upon yourself. You can force yourself to focus on your classes and your health. Make sure you're feeling good, physically and mentally. Forget about other people, just worry about you. Do your thing and let people approach you for once.
I hope someone realizes the potential in you.
Best of luck!
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