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PLEASE help me sort through all of these feelings!
There's this guy. He's basically my best friend, and though he's told me before: "I see you as a sister, not a girl I'd ever date... but we can fuck sometime:)" (Ok, I know what you're thinking, but he's not a douche! haha, the whole "screwing thing", that's just how we joke around with eachother). we still text/call every single day and flirt and hang out and what not... I can't help but to fall for the guy that's always there for me, supporting me, making me laugh, protecting me... And I know he doesn't like any other girls. Except for this one girl... We were playing the "questions game" and he asked me if I had to date someone, who would it be. But I said "I don't wanna answer that. what would you say?" and he goes "(girl in his grade's name). Not cause I like her... but she's nice and we talk every so often". He wants to ask her to prom... This girl. She IS nice. And she's not ugly or anything like that. She's just kind of... plain? That's not a nice thing to say but... She's just so... UGH. Hahaha I'm sorry, I can't explain it. There's just something about her that bugs me. Maybe it's his interest in her?? I just can't help but think that him and I are so RIGHT for eachother. But I don't think he sees it that way. He says he loves me like his sister. Which I don't know... I guess I love him like that too. He's really protective of me. He doesn't like guys taking me out, hitting on me, touching me, basically even talking to me... He says no ones good enough for me. Whatever. I don't know what to do. It's like a punch in the gut when I think about him with any other girl. But it's weird to think about me with him like that too... I can't sort out the feelings of brotherly love from the feelings of what might be something different. How can he want to talk to me and see me everysingle day and not care about me the way I do for him...? Or think I do...? I just don't know what to do because I don't want to ruin our friendship. I don't know if I could live without him... haha, not literally of course, but you know what I mean. Can anyone PLEASE just help me sort all of this out...??? (Oh, we HAVE both admitted there is... uh, physical attraction, but we've never kissed anywhere but the cheek. We kinda cuddle sometimes...) I'm 15, girl. He's 16, almost 17)
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if i were in your postion i might tell him how i really feel about him maybe you should play the question game with him and ask him how he really feels about you. i think that you to oviously like each other if you cuddle and talk a lot maybe there is something there between you to but you just dont know it yet. maybe he feels the same way that you feel about him if he always defends you and cant see you with another guys just like you cant bare to see him with another girl. i think maybe you should talk to him about how you feel.
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If you cannot bare to see him with any other girl, cannot go a day without thinking or speaking to him, then you have a LOT of feelings for him, but I think that came across quite well when I read your question.
What I am trying to say is that, you need to tell him how you feel. I know it might sound crazy at first and you're thinking "I could never tell him that!", well you can! and it will be so much better for you and him if you did.
I know you are worried about breaking your friendship, I quite understand that, but you need to tell him how you feel otherwise he will never know and you will never know whether he likes you back, and whether you indeed like him.
I think the only way to know whether it's right with someone is to actually TRY.
I mean, what is the harm in that? Because if you both like each other in that way then you could try it on a trial basis to see whether it works out.
As you have said, there is some physical attraction which you both have expressed, therefore to me, that would suggest trying it out.
If you don't feel ready to tell him how you feel, I always think it's best just to stick to where you are and continue having fun with eachother, laughing, joking, hang out etc, and then see where that takes you.
You may end up together in the end. But remember - everything happens for a reason!
Good luck, let me know if I can do anything else for you! :)
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