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Friend had miscarriage
What can I say to my friend who had a miscarriage last week? It's just now hitting her and I dont know what to do. She has one child already but wants another one. I have 2, and feel bad bringing my baby around her because I dont want to rub it in that mine was ok.
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If she's really your friend, she would never feel jealous of you or envy you or wish that she had a baby too like yours, and if you usually do bring your baby around, then its cool, its not like your doing something intentionally unusual that could make her think that your rubbing it in her face ,you know.
Other than that, its a really tough situation and a very hard time for her, so all you can do is be there and tell her how there is still a chance for her to have another one, and a third one, and that everything is gonna be okay, and that a couple of years from now, you'll be together and you'll bring your kids to each others' houses, and you'll think back at all this ,and you'll see how things changed,and how there is always hope and a chance to make things different,and yes we fall down and go through horrible things, but we have to move on, and we should always try, and who knows, maybe somehow god (if you believe in him, i'm saying this with all do respect) did this for a reason, maybe he knows better, i mean, maybe the baby could have come but turned out to have problems that would affect him and would hurt his mother all throughout her life instead of hurting just once for losing him, and i know its probably not called 'once' cause i'm sure she's gonna remember him all her life, but she just has to believe that somehow this might have been for the best, and no one knows the future, or what might have happened or was yet to come. So the only thing you can do, is to be there for her, nothing else is gonna make the pain go away,and make her hopeful and make her see the bright side, and there is always another chance.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me.Best of luck!
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Having a miscarriage is one of the most devistating things, I know since I have gone through two in the past 6 months. It's hard to make someone feel better but the beat thing you can do is just be there to listen. It will take awhile for her to move on, as it should, but don't feel bad for bringing your baby around her. Just be there for her. Good luck
Jordyn
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