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my friend and i
well ive been friends with this girl for already a long time! its just that lately i just find her very annoying for no reason! i feel wierd around her and i dont talk to her anymore! what should i do??
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It just sounds like you need a little time apart from one another which isn't bad or wrong. There are times where I need space from my friends but I tell them that I need space and that I'll talk to them when I feel better. Just tell her the situation...don't tell her she is annoying...tell her you just need some space...because ignoring her is going to make the situation worse!
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This happens in romantic relationships too. And in family relationships. When we first become friends with people, both are really trying to please one another. Over time, you get comfortable, and you know a lot about the other person, and you stop trying to please one another. Many relationships break up when this happens. (If they arent family)
However, I would like to suggest to you that this is just a normal part of relationships. Its just a stage. And, it says more about you than it does about her. You could use this stage of the relationship to work on your own feelings of judgment. Instead of judging the way she eats, and being annoyed by it, try to focus on your feeling of judgment, rather than projecting onto her the annoyance.
When we become judgmental about others, we also tend to be more judgmental about ourselves. Have you been more critical of yourself lately too? Thinking you "should" do this or that? Look like this or that? Act like this or that? Accepting people for who they are, has benefits for you too. If you can be less judgmental of her, you may find you are also more accepting of yourself.
Good comfortable friends are hard to find in life. Be patient with her and yourself, and work on accepting both of you for who you are and appreciating that.
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My friend is the same way., she gets so annoying when she eats i wanna hit her when she puts her hair up i want to take it down but just relax count to ten and i promise you you'll be fine. you ont wan tot loose a friend becuase shes annoying she will grow out of it, I promise =]
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like any toy we use to have to last years lipgloss and purse we also outgrow people. although you can't shove her in a closet or sell her at next summers yardsale you can talk with her. you simply just have to sit her down and tell her you think it's time that you both need your space. try and become friends with new people find out new talents figure out who you both are. because telling her "well you make me feel weird and you are starting to really annoy me" may be honest but is probably not going to go over so well..right? if you two do agree on getting space you may miss her but sometimes it's not always the person we miss usually it's the memories from the past. all the great times you two use to have but simply outgrew. try and talk to her because avoiding her will case a fight and end a friendship with hurtful comments. so you can try and do like the little conversation i wrote at the top.. you can let me know how it goes. i know what it's like outgrowing a friend..the other person does get to be annoying at times huh;)
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