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I'm a freak... please don't think differently of me
This is going to be long and u can't believe I'm actually writing about this.
I dated this guy for a really long time and I had a bff for a way long time. Me and my ex broke up and we were friends but still loved eachother and wasn't with other people. But eventually I got over him. I ended up getting locked up for over a year, and when I got out, everything was different. My bff was a virgin and girly and didn't smoke weed, and bow she was completely different except for the virgin part. She hooked up with a good friend of mine the whole time I was gone, and I guess a bunch of shit went down.
She met these two girls named Mariah and Jessica. She became mariahs bestfriend and Mariah moved in with her, saying she comes from a brokeN home. Btw I'm 17 at the time and so is my bff. So is Jessica but Mariah is 14.
Mariah ends up taking my bff boyfriend and it happe overnight and left my bff crushed. Then all our friend started turning on her and me for being her bff and we lost a bunch of friends.
Well they had their drama, and my bff and Jessica fought and my bff won. We thought the drama was over but it just started. After this, Jessica hooks up with my ex and starts callin me names and spreading rumors. The funny thing about it all is I've never Hung out or truly met her or Mariah. So now this Jessica is messig with me and getting on my nerves.
We ended up fighting twice and I beat her up, but of course she says she wins. I've left her alone and tried my hardest to Ignore it but she doesn't stop. She thinks I'm jealous she's with my ex but I'm not. I'm mad she thinks that amd calls me names.
I ended up deleting my myspace because she kept sending me shit n if I blocked her, her friends would. I don't wanna call the cops I'm not like that. And I'm not scared of her at all. But I try to ignore her but she sticks in my head. I don't ever see her, she hassles me on the phone and computer. So I deleted everything and don't answer private calls.
I know I should ignore her but omg I wanna hurt her so bad. I've never hated someone before.
I have a concert next Friday I've been waiting all year to go to and she's going to be there. I don't wanna miss the show, but I'm worried about what might happen.
And btw, I'm no longer friends with my bff so I lost everyone and I have no one on my side anymore. I don't know what to do
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F*ck that dumb bitch.
You need not waste your time on her...
Trust me, I know so many people like this;
You're totally doing the right thing by ignoring
her and she probably doesn't realize if you
weren't ignoring her she'd get the shit beaten
out of her time and time again. Silly slut
doesn't realize how lucky she is that you are a
decent person.
Do not miss this concert because of some cow. If
it's a metal gig, or there's a mosh pit, f*ck her
up somethin' bad... trust me, other will join
you. xD
Haha.
But seriously, don't let her stop you from doing the stuff you want to.
Good luck.
xxx
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wow u did write a lot but no matter because your doing the right thing by ignoring her shes full of shit a little pussy if i might say you dont need none of that BS and for you bff that is not a true friend because you stood up for her and was there through good times and bad times so in my opinion she isnt a very good friend but well my advice to you is "fuck it, it is what it is" and what i mean by that is life is pretty short and you have to live it up as much as you can and dont let anything or anyone get in your way
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You need to bring an authority figure into this situation if you don't something may happen. Its good that you haven't hurt her...don't its not the right thing to do and it will make you look bad. Her friends and her are harrassing you which is something you shouldn't stand for...maybe don't call the cops but maybe notify your parents. Or even if you attend school with her then tell the guidance counselor or a teacher someone you trust. Point is you need to take action to stop her from continuing to bother you. She won't stop unless you take serious ation and when you do if she knows better then she'll stop bothering you. As for the concert...its up to you...whether I tell you, you should go or shouldn't...you're going to do what you want. If you don't want any trouble or don't want her to bother you maybe you shouldn't go. Is the concert worth it?
Please tell someone though before this situation gets anymore out of hand its the right thing to do!
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Unfortunatley things aren't as easy as the person below me made it sound. More than likely this girl isn't going to talk to you in person.
I hate that you felt the need to delete all of your online accounts just because this girl is hassling you. It means she is getting to you, and she won't stop because she knows she is. Don't ever let someone have control over you like that.
Restore your accounts and send this girl a message saying something like this,
"You really need to get off my back. I don't have feelings for my ex, and I don't care that you are with him. I am not jealous of you, and I don't want to fight with you. I am sick of all of this. I have grown up from this situation, and I think you should too. I am going to go on about my business and I suggest you do the same. I am no longer going to open, read, or reply to anything you send to me, so waste your time if you want. I really don't care anymore."
And then drop it. If she is really harrassing you to the point where you can't stand it anymore, you may have to get the police involved. It's sometimes neccessary. That's what they are there for. Consider a restraining order if things get really bad.
Good luck! If you need further advice let me know.
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Often times what we think is "hate" is actually just really deep hurt.
I know this is going to sound weird, but what I would do is find a way to speak to her, in private, and tell her some of the things you have told us.
That you arent mad because she is dating your ex, and that you are hurt and angry that she is calling you names.
I would tell her that if she really doesnt want to be friends with you anymore, then thats fine. But I would tell her calmly that none of this drama was what you wanted, and that you hoped she could at least just let it go. Tell her it is too bad that your friendship is over, that that isnt really what you wanted, but tell her there really isnt any reason to be enemies just because you arent friends.
It may not work, she may still be as petty and mean as she is now. But, there is a small possibility it will make her think twice. And there is a big possibility that your being very honest and open about your feelings instead of lashing back will make you feel better about yourself.
Good luck. I know thats a rough position to be in.
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