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Im I to blame. (cause I don't think so )
I have this friend she's a very good friend till know we were hanging out then out. Of nowhere she said that she has problems. Because of that she doesn't get what she wants cause of me and that she hates how I talk to every one I just don't get it what's wronge with her not to be mad i'm just saying she can't go blaming. People for her problems were no longer talking should I be the one to say something first even if I think I had all the right to get mad right I don't know what to do I'm lost
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Its sounds like to me that she is very jealous person and that she only has you as a friend. She sounds loike she depends on only you which is not very healthy. I have in the past had problems with friends and I've walked away from them and ignored them figuring that they would coming running after me because I thought they would know what they did wrong. In that case I was the one that was wrong...I should have as a friend told them what was going on. Its great that she is expressing to you that she has problems but is she giving you any solutions or have you two talked it out with one another? Has she just been completely unreasonable for being mad at you? Maybe talk to her and as her why she's so mad you should be able to do that if she is your good friend. If these problems keep up though and nothing get fixed...then I would say you should maybe stop being friends. Being friends is just as hard as a relationship you go through your bad and good times but you need to be able to come to some sort of agreement and if you can't then its time to move on and hang out with other people. Hope it works out! :)
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Hey, first of all, please try to use full stops next time loool, I had trouble reading that. Mmm Well it seems to me that your friend is jealous, maybe not jealous in the bad meaning of the word, but just upset and she feels left out, cause you know more people, or you have a better social life, and that is not your fault, you're probably the outgoing social type of person, and she probably is not so good in socializing.
No one should be mad here, she has probably been upset about it for a long time now, and when she finally opened up to tell you about it ,she expressed it in this way,so sudden and out of the blue, but she didn't mean to hurt you i'm sure. I think that you should try to involve her more with the people you know, try to introduce her to the people you meet, make her be friends with your friends and the people you know, so she would feel like she's a part of this, not left on the sidelines and totally ignored while you talk to everyone else.
You didn't do anything wrong and you don't have bad intentions i know, but its just that sometimes one person's personality shadows over another person, so taking the spotlight and being the center of attention, unconsciously and then she'd be left alone, no one caring about her or directing any interest in her, and that's exactly how she feels, cause i've been there and done that, and it doesn't feel good. And the problem is that she's not the type to start a conversation or socialize easily, she needs someone to talk to her first, ask her something, introduce her, and that's where you come in. Give her a bit of your spotlight, share it with her, but this is nothing to fight about at all.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me :D Best of luck!
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I'm kinda in the same situation. :( I hadn't talked to my bff since July 2009 and about 2 wks ago, I went out on a limb and she never called me back. :(
normally I would just say, speak up even if you were tge wronged one. But that's what I did amd I got rejected and it hurts. But I'm also happier I took a chance and now I now and can try to heal and move on.
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