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Q: can somebody please tell me what prude means? Somebody called me a prude, and I have no idea what it means but from the way they said it I can only assume I was supposed to be insulted by it.

Thank you

it means that you are a goodie goodie who wont do anything sexual

Q: so i love these kind of hats:
http://fashionmanifesto.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/lumberjack-hat.jpg

my brother used to wear them all the time. i have one ,but does anyone know what they're called? a lumberjack hat or something? please&thankyou

plaid ski hat

Q: Hello, my boyfriend recently told me he loves black roses, and for a date, i wanted to get them for him, then i read that they symbolize the death or farewell of something so would that be giving a bad idea? i was thinking 12 roses-6 purple, 6 black. would that be okay or be sending a bad message? thank you!

well if he said he liked them then why not?? :)

Q: I'm too embarrassed to ask this in any other way but anonymously. I'm 19 and female.

Basically, I've never had an orgasm. I've tried to masturbate and nothing. I have a boyfriend who's gone down on me, nothing. I researched and I know the key to it is stimulating the clitoris, and I know where it should be, but I can't seem to make things work. I'm comfortable with my body, and I am so distraught and confused and upset with the fact that I can't experience what's supposed to be amazing. This isn't to say I don't experience pleasure, I just can't seem to get a big finish.

I'd heard about women who can't have orgasms in the past, and I wondered, solemnly, if I am one of the unfortunate few. Is that really possible?

I just need some solid advice. Thanks

is there something wrong with you? no. there is something called female orgasmic dysfunction. in order to get an orgasism it involves physhcology and emotional well being.and actually it turns out 1/3 of woman have difficulties. here are a few websites .
Women without orgasm: now or not ever

Q: Do guys with biggish penises get dizzy or like feel symptoms of blood loss when they get hard. I would imagine it takes a bit of blood to make it get that big.

its a question! dont be embarassed. well the body compensates for blood loss. when ppl get blood taken some they can get a few pints of blood taken and feel fine. so the answer is no, being dizzy is the last thing on his mind :)

Q: I know everyone's vagina smells, but I'm wondering if there's some time of cream or wipe I could use before having sex so that it doesn't?

there are things called dousches which is liquid that leaves a fresh scent but i do recommend using them for several reasons. (a) they have been linked to increasing amounts of vaginal infections which doesnt sound too nice to me (b) they wash away natural lubricants for sex which cause sex to not be painful. (c) most guys dont mind the smell if its slight. and dont use any creams on your vagina ever!there are great quality wipes called summers eve. they work good. they have a bunch of products for woman.

Q: When you've loved someone and have waited for them for seven years straight(continue to)--would this be considered as love or lust?

why wait for someone who doesnt return the favor. to me, its love via fantasy.

Q: Ok, here's the deal. My boyfriend and I (we're both 17 and juniors) have been dating for 4 months... well, it'll be 5 months by the time prom rolls around. We really love each other and we both think that prom might be fun to go to. However, there are some complications. Firstly, people say that if you go to your junior prom it completely takes away the value of your senior prom. Is that true? Secondly, right around prom is a festival in my hometown that I look forward to attending all year long. I go almost every year and always have a really amazing time. Here's the problem though: I don't have a job and the festival's really pricey (usually $100+) and it takes me most of the year to save up for it. So, as you can probably see, I'd have to choose going to one or the other. The thought of missing either makes me pretty sad. Thirdly, my boyfriend is SUPER shy. Although I know he wants to go, he'd probably not dance... Which is fine. I probably wouldn't dance too much either... But anyways, what else is there to do at prom? Would we just be bored out of our minds? And finally and fourthly, I would say that I would just go to prom next year and go to the festival this year (the festival is always going to be here, prom's not). But, then again, there's no guarantee that my boyfriend and I are going to be together next year (but I hope and believe we are going to be)... And I want to go to prom with HIM. BLAH! I have no idea what to do :( and I have to decide really soon! Please give me your advice/experiences to try to help me with this difficult choice... Thank you so much! You have no idea how much you guys are going to help me.

I think that def go to your prom next year. its wwaayy more important. and if you and your bf last,then even though he doesnt wanna really dance it will be worth the wait. $ wise itll be better to.

Q: Hi,
I am a 30 year old woman and when i was 19 i got scabies. I treated it and managed to get rid of them. I still have small round scars from the scabies. Is that normal to still have these scars after these many years and is there any way that i could get rid of them? I was thinking about laser surgery, but my only ins. is medicade and im not sure if that would be covered. Please help me!!!

I believe that the laser treatment would be considered cosmetic surgery which isn't covered unfortunatly. Now i'll have you know i'm not a medical professional but I am a nurse in training. people are concerned about scars all the time and although some scars will still leave evidence behind, Mederma is an excellent product. You can purchase this at any drug store. Any questions,feel free to ask. good luck:]

Q: Hey all,

I get really horny when I have my periods. I was just wondering if this is normal because of all the hormones in my body or was it something else?

Thanks in advance

hmm for me its the totally the opposite for me. i get all lik grr dont touch me !! ha ha but its different for every woman.Hormones do some crazy things sometimes.

Q: I have regular brown hair and I am kind of bored and want to dye like a strand of my hair blue. So what's best to use, kool aid, food coloring, or cheap hair dye from wal mart? I don't want it to last very long. Like a week or two. So that's why I'm hesitant to use real hair dye. I'm just bored and in the mood to experiment.

you should get the hair-dye from the store. they dont last very long at all. maybe a week and a half

Q: hello. i am 13 and i need to know what the jelly braclets mean. i am wearing brown but i am not at school yet so i dont know what ppl will say. if it is something bad then i wont wear them. please help. these BROWN jelly bracelets are my favorite. they are from the NEW MOON movie.

looking on the web about anything gives such varieties of answers but the most common one i'm finding is that it means anal sex. i wouldnt worry about it though its just another stupid way to make sure people have something to talk about.

Q: Long story short... guy I like asks me to a party at his house. It's a 'housewarming' for his new housemate, who I've never met. This guy and I don't know each other that well.. we were friends through my ex and have been bumping into each other a bit at college recently. Anyway he invited me in person and told me he'd send me the facebook invite after I asked him to, but he hasn't... even though he's been online. I won't see him at college before the party and I'm wondering if I'm actually properly invited or whether he just being nice. Like I said it's technically for his housemate who I don't even really know. This party is like, my chance to actually get with this guy but I don't want to turn up if it's going to look weird. I also forget exactly what day it is. Will I come across as desperate if I send him a facebook message asking for the details? I don't want to come off too strongly, just in case he only invited me as an after thought. Or should I just forget about the whole thing?

thanks.

send him a message saying hey so whats up for the party? or gimme the details. it wont be coming off too strongly itll just make it seem that your interested in party/him in a subtle way because he`ll know you remembered

Q: So, in late December/January, I cut my hair to short length - the back was to the nape of my neck and the front a little past my shoulder, so a longer angled bob. Now, it has grown out to a grown out bob (makes sense, doesn't it? :P) and I am totally clueless on different ways to style it, besides straightening it everyday. Straightening it everyday damages my hair and I want it to grow faster instead of getting split ends and not growing much. My natural hair also makes the ends of my hair flip outward, away from my face, and I hate it. Any tips on how to style it so that I don't have to use a straightener or heat tools and the flipping out of my hair does not occur? Thanks so much!

i have the natural flippy ends too they are a pain in the butt! my hair is a tad past my shoulders. truth is that if you dont want to use heat styling tools then your gonna have to work with the natural way your hair is. i use tresemme and salleys beauty salon halo gel. work through hair when damp and style with a cute clip, put some bobbypins in or put a stylish headband on

Q: Hello i have been looking at tattoos for a while and i havent found one that i've liked. I'm thinking about putting it on my ankle. My names ashley and i want to have something incorporated with that. My friend has a nice design it spells her name upside down as well as the normal. I thought that was a neat idea. I dont really have a certain thing i like the most, anything really.. Another design i want is something for a couple. My husband and I just got married and i dont want to have his name tattooed on me or anything, but if we had like just a little matching tattoo, but i havent found any like that either. I rate :)

Thanks for all the help guys!

chinese symbols are cool. you could get one that means commitment and he could get a matching one. or you can get a ying and he can get a yang? for just you, since your names ashley you should get something that is significant to you, opposed to your actual name itself. perhaps symbols that mean your name or it spell out. if your part indian, chinese italian etc. there are symbols and letters for nearly every culture. good luck let me know what you get.:)

Q: Please dont say anything mean.

18/f

i come here from the phillipines. for those who know the phillipines we are not the richest country. i moved to washington just this last summer. my family comes from proverty so much so that we didnt own a tooth brush. so thats why my teeth are yellow. i was wondering is there anything other than brushing my teeth that will whiten my teeth.

im sorry to hear of ur unfortunes...my heart goes out to people in situations like this. well baking soda can work. other then that...sorry to say it but probably nothing else.

Q: At work today I actually got to TALK with my supervisor about her life. She told me that her husband is very sick with bladder cancer and that he's gone into treatment for awhile now. He was first diagnosed a year ago and they told him he probably wouldn't make it the entire year. They cut tumors from his bladder a few times but they continued to grow back. He's had the chemotherapy treatments but still isn't doing very well.

I thought there might be some natural cures for cancer that I might be able to find online. I knwo there are many homeopathic remedies for plenty of illnesses that are said to be uncurable (or incurable, whichever). I am not sure if there might be a more specific site for questions and information like this but I figured it wouldn't hurt to ask Advicenators :)

Does anybody know any natural or homeopathic cancer cures? Anything they've "heard through the grapevine" about it? Thanks for any help!

im sure this isnt what you are looking for but the greatest help to him is going to be his loved ones by his side

Q: Hi im 18 years old... and im sexual active with my boyfriend for over 5 months... well to get to the point, I always have wet spots on my underwear and i shower twice a day and I clean myself down there very well... I don't know what that is and it has a funny odor to it.... do I have an infection or something? Please help and let me know!
Thanks.

i have the same thing. i worried about it also and i talked to my gyn about it and he told me that the vagina produces daily lubrication to keep everything down there..well moist. and as for the odor....every woman has her scent. if u get any itching,burning,irritation or strong odor then that isn't normal and could be a UTI or a yeast infection. whatever you do, do not do not use a doushe they have been proven to cause more problems opposed to fixing them. slightly scented wipes are good to use though.:)

Q: I got some piercings a few years ago and I just removed them for good. I have a problem now though because the scars are REALLY noticable and not very nice looking. The ones I'm really upset about are the monroe piercing, labret, and the nose piercing. My nose piercing has weird white skin around where the hole is and the other two are just big HOLES in me even though they were small gauges.

Is there anything I can put on the scars to make them go away faster or would I need to see a doctor for some sort of treatment or scar reduction? I know they're techincally "puncture wounds" so they're considered to be deep. I only need the "outside" part of them to heal up and look normal again though. Please help me because I wish I had never done this to my face... :(

gauges can be medically sewn up but will still be noticeable the nose hole can clear up over time

Q: ok, im 18 and female, and about a week ago, me and my bofriend had sex, and it was my first time, not his, well, when i got home i went to the bathroom and it burnt a little and i was bleeding a lot. is it normal for a girl to bleed a lot when they first lose their virginity, it stopped after about 3 days, but we had sex again and i started bleeding a little again, is this normal. the last time i bled from it, wasnt so bad, but im just worrying that we did something wrong and thats why i was bleeding so bad. please help...thanks