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Something wrong with me?
I'm too embarrassed to ask this in any other way but anonymously. I'm 19 and female.
Basically, I've never had an orgasm. I've tried to masturbate and nothing. I have a boyfriend who's gone down on me, nothing. I researched and I know the key to it is stimulating the clitoris, and I know where it should be, but I can't seem to make things work. I'm comfortable with my body, and I am so distraught and confused and upset with the fact that I can't experience what's supposed to be amazing. This isn't to say I don't experience pleasure, I just can't seem to get a big finish.
I'd heard about women who can't have orgasms in the past, and I wondered, solemnly, if I am one of the unfortunate few. Is that really possible?
I just need some solid advice. Thanks
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Don't worry! I have a friend who is 24 years old, and just had her first one thanks to my suggestion.
It's hard for a guy to make you orgasm when you're not even sure yourself how to do it. I would suggest doing this on your own.
First things first - relax. It won't come if you are worried about it. Just think of it as exploring, rather than setting a goal at the end of it!
Do you own any toys? Don't get anything complicated... just a little multi-speed vibe will do the trick. Ask the people at the store what's best for beginners.
Don't directly stimulate the clitoris, because it's super sensitive and you'll probably either hurt yourself or numb yourself. Always make sure the hood is covering the clitoris to protect it. Explore, and if something feels really good, keep doing it! If it's not making you see stars, change it up. Set aside a good chunk of time for this. It may take a few tries on different days.
Your goal is to find out what makes you tick. You'll find your hot spots and be able to share them with your boyfriend.
If you're still having trouble, try going to a doctor. Explain that you've tried a few things, and can't seem to orgasm. They may be able to help you.
One more thing - some medications can have an adverse effect, especially anti-depressants.
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Maybe your not doing it right ? That sounds abit blunt but you could be doing it to hard or not hard enough (Masturbating) and your boyfriend may not be stimulating the right place to give you an orgasm.
Lots of women dont have a vaginal orgasm for ages but some do.
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It's possible to have an orgasm as soon as you r sexually mature however some girls don't have their first orgasms for years. There's nothing wrong with you if you've never had an orgasm Having an orgasm depends on stimulation of your genitals (most girls and women find that the clitoris is more sensitive than thier vagina).... Your partner may not know what he is doing when going down on you. try relaxing, imagening, and stimulating your clit..
hope i'ved helped.
SincerelyLyzzie
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is there something wrong with you? no. there is something called female orgasmic dysfunction. in order to get an orgasism it involves physhcology and emotional well being.and actually it turns out 1/3 of woman have difficulties. here are a few websites .
Women without orgasm: now or not ever
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