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Is it love or lust?
When you've loved someone and have waited for them for seven years straight(continue to)--would this be considered as love or lust?
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(with tongue planted firmly in cheek)...
if you are waiting for 7 years for someone:
to come home from the war, it is love.
to get with the band's drummer, it is lust.
at the terminal, that train has left the station.
to get out of their marriage, that is desparation.
to leave the porn industry, ewww, ick.
to get out of jail, it is dangerous.
who went out for a pack of smokes, they are not coming back.
and calling/texting them every day, that is obsession.
and spying on them, that is stalking.
to come out of a coma, that is dedication.
to get sober, that is naive.
who is plotting with the mice to overthrow the world, that is crazy.
to find themselves, they do not want to find you.
from whom you have been kept apart by the whims of fate, that is a romance novel.
who is being held captive by darth vader, that is delusional.
who is finishing a graduate degree, that is a heartbreak waiting to happen.
who is going through a sex change, that is going to require "his/hers" or "hers/his" towels.
to recover from the bullet wound you inflicted, that is incredibly optimistic.
whose spouse you buried in the backyard, that is a fatal attraction.
because you were in prison on charges of domestic violence, that is unrealistic.
because they moved and did not leave you a forwarding address, that is missing the point.
and finally.....
if you have been waiting for 7 years, and the feelings you have are mutual, honorable, reasonable, and practical, then it may well be love. I hope for your sake that this is the case. Good luck!
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Hi :)
It could be love OR lust. It could be love because over time you've grown emotionally attached to this person, where you feel that they can be your best friend and lover at the same time.
Could be lust because you have WAITED 7 years for this person, and you wish to be with them physically and emotionally, but more physically.
Honestly, even though you've waited for them 7 years, it doesn't mean it's love or meant to be. I remember being in elementary school and liking this kid from grades 1-5! So yes, it could be a crush also as someone said.
Good luck, and hope I helped!
Uniq :)
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Its neither. It is more like a crush. I'd compare it to a teen who is "in love" with a rock star and plasters his posters all over her walls.
Even if this is an actual relationship and you have waited 7 years for this person, its time to move on. For a relationship to work, the love/lust has to be a mutual thing. Its obvious that this is not either to the other person.
My advice is crush on this other person all you want, but look for a real relationship. Either ask the crush out and see how he feels about you, or forget him all together and start looking for a guy who cares about you as much as you care about him.
Time to end the fantasy. :)
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Or insanity?
Time alone doesn't determain love, lust, or bat-shit craziness.
The real questions:
Why are you asking this?
Do you need to do something about the situation you find yourself in?
No matter how you slice it, waiting for someone for seven years, or encouraging someone to wait for you that long, is bad idea. It doesn't leave much hope for a healthy relationship to take place in the future. It's a damn good sign of complete failure ahead.
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Its definitely love, but where is this person? Does he know about you loving him so much and waiting for him, I mean, if its really love, then why are you waiting? why don't you share it with this person and take a move forward, finally let go of these feelings and express them with this person. Why keep them to yourself and express them in fantasies, its a waste to just throw this love away. Its love alright, and you should share it.
Hope i helped, if you want to talk more about this in details, please be free to contact me. Best of luck.
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why wait for someone who doesnt return the favor. to me, its love via fantasy.
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Love
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