Yesterday me and my boy friend (of two months)were walking holding hands when my friend who was in a fight with another friend goes "We should kill every one named mary" What does he say? "NO because with out the M its Amy"Is my name Amy? NO! Amy is his ex he was greiving about until i asked him out! Did he like me or did he do it cause he couldn't say no or did he feel sorry for me? please i need help
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He's not that bright is he, Mary take away the M is Ary not Amy!
So he really mustve been thinking of her!
I'm sure he likes you and only you can really tell. Confront him, see how he acts, you'll know I promise!
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Wednesday I have an appointment to get a physical at the doctor's for high school.
The problem is I smoked weed on July 4th for the first time and last. And am planning on drinking tonight. So, uhm, is it safe? Will they know something is up? My brother said I won't pass the drug test and I never had to take one in my past. So, help?
I've never heard of a high school physical taking drug test.
If it's true that you've never smoked pot before and only took a couple hits I doubt it would show up if they did. And as far as the alcohol, no that wont neither.
However, if you are a pot smoker, it builds up in the body and takes 30 days to get out. However, again I doubt a drug test will be included. If it is and you don't pass nothing will happen anyway! You tell them what you told me and you're hand will get slapped!
I promise! Relax you'll be fine
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okay, so i am 15 years old and my whole life i have been a daddy's girl and stuff. But we'd always go through rough patches where he'd pull me by my hair, jump on my stomach, or smack me with wooden spoons whn i was in my childhood state. Now that i am a teenager, he has gotten worse and he tries slamming our heads to the ground. He also still punches and yells really loud if i say something bad. If i stick up for myself now that im older i punch back and then he goes insane and throws things and punches and sometimes even strangles. But i don't know if he has a bad temper but i love my daddy cause when we get along, we really do get along. But we had a child abuse class in school because all i wanted to do was cry. Because all of the symptoms, warnings, and signs of child abuse were my dad. He also had a little wine glass by his bed and he drinks sometimes before bed. That's when most family fights happen, at night. I am so scared that he is really going to hurt me. I have an egg on the back of my head because right now he just punched me for sticking up fr myself. He is a successful dentist and i don't wanna ruin his career for having him get arrested and we need his money for our home and to support us, and i love him when we get along.. and i'd cry if he went away but it's those outbursts that i am deathly scared of. is there a place where he can get help? and still have his career? His psychologist doesn't work. please help me, please ):
Yes yes yes!!
Stop him! Get help!
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Why do people talk bad about people?
why do people talk sh*t about other people? how come some people doesnt talk bad abou people and theres people that gossips all day?
The people who talk shit about others do it because by saying horrible things about another makes them feel better about themselves. These people have extremely low self esteem and actually think very low of themselves. Putting others down somehow puts themselves up! It's like physics, as you push down you raise yourself.
People who feel good about themselves, people who like themselves have no reason to gossip do they?
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i have a hard time admitting that im wrong i always blame the person and get mad instead of saying sorry, because when i say it i feel weak,mad,sad and defeated and i dont know why. I know its bad but i dont know why i feel this way. Is it pride?
First of all the fact that you can even admit this means you are one step closer to being able to do it. You at least know this about yourself! Congratulations.
Blaming it on another gives you the feeling of being right.
As to why: by admitting to another You did something wrong means You are admitting You are weak, sad, defeated, which makes you a lesser person. Which of course you're not. Yes it's pride, but it's a little more deeper than that.
You don't want to tell people you're these things because you're not.
Once you can realize that making a mistake doesn't mean you are bad, and that it's just a thoughtless mistake, you'll be able to apologize easily.
However because you are already aware, you are almost
there.
Find another way to apologize. You can trick yourself sometimes. Ex: " what I said was inconsiderate. I don't know why I said that" acknowledge the actual behavior and not
you, as a person.
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My mom is very controlling and easily jealous. My freshman year of highschool I did very bad in school. Ever since then I have worked very hard. My cummalitive gps is now a 3.6 I worked really hard and pretty much gave up a big portion of my social life. I've always wanted to go to college away and live there. I'm a junior now and I was talking to my mom about colleges I'd like to attend. Her response was "what you can't leave me, if you go away I'm not giving
you any money for college" so I later said to her "me and Hillary are going to get an aparment and go to a college close by and it will be cheaper anyway." my mom says "what no I don't think so, your not living with her. If you two want to live at our house then that's fine and you should just go to the college down the street." it's literally right down the street, I could walk there. That was how the conversation was
pretty left. But then one time we were talking about where i'd like to live after college and I move out. I was like "when I'm older and married I'd like to move to south Carolina, or somewhere like that" my mom had a very similar response
to the one about college. I can't tell her when I have boyfriends or anything because she gets crazy jealous. She also tells me way too much and wants too much from me. This one time my friend and I were going to this concert we were excited about for months. The day before my mom goes "I don't really want you going there I'll buy you a new coach purse and matching wallet if you don't"..how could I pass an offer like that up? She does this all the time and I just don't
know what to say or do anymore...help!?
First you need to try to communicate with her. Sit down and have a real heart to heart. Offer family therapy even. Open up and let her SEE the pain she causes without anger. If this still doesn't work and she is stubbornly unreasonable you have to cut the ties and when you're 18 do what you need to do for yourself.
If she refuses to pay your college ( I doubt she actually will, I believe it's just a ploy) you will be able to apply for finacial aid as an "independant". You may have to start at a JC and work part time, but many kids do it this way and there is nothing wrong with that. You'll become a wiser woman.
Father? Aunt? Grandparents?
In the mean time try showing her the pain she causes and how she makes you feel. She sounds scared to death and fears being alone and losing you. Approach her letting her know how much you love her and you'll always be there. It's sad you have to be the adult one here.
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So i went to a friends relatives house and her cousin had said he wanted her to hook him up with me before he even saw me. So, i get there and he is there and acts very uninterested but so did i and when a dog ran out i walked out of the house and told my cousin to get the baby seat out of the car because i was leaving. He then later told her I am not his type now is it most likely because of the way I look are my demenaor/personality?
This is typical non communication and guess work! You said you acted un- interested too. so what is the problem.?
You can't possibly know what he thought by such a quick encounter.
Maybe he was just nervous. You read it wrong, then You snuck out and didn't even give the meeting a chance. He may be sitting right now thinking the exact same thing you are.
Now, the you not being his type. It could be he said that cause you bolted out of the room and he wants someone who would at least give it a chance.
Unless he took your breath away, let this go. Next time wait and get all the information before you come up with a conclusion.
Two people come together by chemistry not looks. I've met gorgeous men who were quite nice, but there was no connection. Not being someones type has nothing to do with looks or demeanor. Don't take it personal dear!!
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i used to be really good at it and i act like i dont really get hurt or care but one day i let everything out in my class and now it is hard for me to hide my sadness and it seems to show in my face. Because my friend keep asking me whats wrong Also it is easier for me to get hurt nowdays and sensitive about things, why is it hard for me to hide my emotions in face and easily get hurt?
You are what I call a "sensitive". People like you and like me and many others who are like this are usually quite intuitive, compassionate people even pyscic. You can help so many people.
It's one of those things that's called a "gift, or a curse"
You need to find a way to channel it. Write every morning. Get it out of your body and mind and onto paper. Not computerize Word, but write with a pen and onto paper ALL your feelings. It'll help you cope better in the world..
If it is just too much and you are depressed, find a good therapist or a spiritual group of some kind..
I promise this will help!
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me: 20.f.asian, him: 21.m.white. in short: i'm falling for my bf, but lately i've been feeling things like: wanting to date someone w/ my race/him having a daughter is starting to bother me. half of me thinks i want to be w/ him for a long time, the other half says i want to be single/date around. advice?
I agree with "ohmylucydarling"
If there reservations of any kind, he IS not the man for you. End it now. It's not fair to him or the little girl for that matter. You are young and it is healthy to be single. You have a chance to get to know yourself. Have fun, flirt, date. Trust me when the right guy comes along whether your race or not, girl you will know, because it will fit perfectly. You won't be able to imagine your life WITHOUT him
As hard as it is to leave the relationship, it'll be harder in a year....
Take a deep breath, say a prayer to the gods and jump in
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i have a crush in school, and at one point he liked. me. then i made the stupid mistake by not liking him. i really really really like him now, and his birthday is next week, and i dont know what to do. what do i get him?!?!? do i tell him i like him again? he knows i really like him, and he acted annoyed by me, but im not annoying :( help. what do i do for his birthday?!
If you really really like him, take the time to research and find out the perfect gift for him. Buy a card and in it say something like,," what an ass I was. You were there the whole time and I didn't notice you. Or, I had my head up my butt, I can't believe I didn't notice you then. I think you are awesome and if you give me a chance, I won't let you down" of course in your own words, I am old.... Hahahah
Straight, blunt honesty goes along way. Admitting that you were an idiot (not literally) takes the awkwardness away. Leave the gift and card somewhere you're certain he'll find it. If you are the courageous type, tell him in person, making sure you look hot and act cute... Use any humor you can think of. People really respect someone who can admit things about themselves.
Now, there is always the risk of rejection. You have to ask
yourself if he's worth that risk. If not, then you can leave it to fate!
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we became best friends last year but we don't talk at ALL anymore. We both had a same interest and we would always have a blast talking to each other, but sadly, things change and other people got in the way of our friendship and we have zero communication,and its very AWKWARD between us and i don't know why but i don't wanna fix it, since she got her friends and i got my friends.
But the question is i don't know why i don't want to fix our friendship even though i think its sad, i would like to reconnect but its awkward what should i do?
You're right it is sad but it is the way we humans are. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to fix it. You've moved on and you are ok with it . The confusion is because you think you "should" want to cause that's what you hear is the right thing to do. It's not! Trust your self. You've seemed to find peace in it! There are no "should" in life.
There is nothing wrong with being kind to her when you see her. You can have memories and laugh without reconnecting as a BEST FRIEND...you don't owe her anything but kindness and respect!
Give her a hug when you see her, smile, let HER know you are totally cool with the way things are now!!
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me and my ex had a ruff ending the last time we dated but since then i forgave him and we are quite good friends... My feelings for him never left and recently hes been flirting with me and dropping hints that he wants somthing more than a friendship.
At the same time i have a slight crush on this boy in my grade hes never dated b4 and this worries me.
Whilst i like both these guys i talk to a mate of mine on fb. He goes to my school although we never talk there... we talk on fb for hours on end i im developing a slight crush on him also.... im not sure what to do i cannot have them all.
I say, flirt with em all. You have not made a commitment to any of them nor are you dating anyone exclusively. After some time flirting and having fun you'll know which one you really like... You are young and this is the time for flirting, socializing and having fun. If you Don't cross lines, there is no harm. Crossing lines meaning making anyone of them believe they are THE ONE!! Keep it light! Trust me, you'll know when the right one comes along!!!
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17/f
okai so i've gotten a bit suicidal recently. i've lost all my friends & now it seems to me that there isnt really a reason for me to live anymore cause there is noone who really cares about me & i dont know .. if i die noone would really bother you know?
i just feel like i'm worthless & i'm always alone & just sit in my room. i mean it wouldnt really make a difference if i sit in my room or 'rest in peace' cause either way noone cares.
everyone just walks by me & ignores me & i seem to lose every person who i was ever important to. i fail at everything.
i dont want you to tell me how to make new friends or whatever.. i just wanna believe that even without having friends life is still worth living & that i'm worth something. and telling me that im still young & can still have a great future doesnt help either cause i've tried telling myself that loads of times. help? i just hate this feeling.. i always cry & honestly just wanna kill myself... & the feeling that noone would care if i DID is just horrible.
You are so absolutely right! All those things are cliches people say to make themselves feel better.
The real issue is how YOU feel about yourself. And the sad truth may be you AREN'T loved like you should be. And I don't blame you at all for feeling that way. It really sucks being alone. I really have been there. I turned to drugs and tried numerous attempts at suicide. I felt like a fn cock roach... I wouldn't die!! lol
But what I can tell you is that YOU deserve a good, joyous life. F*#k the people around you who are too stupid to see you!
The ONLY reason to want to live is for YOU!!! Look at the
miracles in life. How a baby is born, how a tree is made and find some greater power, cause there is one. You were born, you are still alive, that means there is a purpose for you. Maybe it's helping people just like you. Reaching out to a lost soul. Find some reason girl, any reason to live.
If I found out you died, I WOULD CARE! I WOULD CRY! I would be heartbroken... Truley I would. I don't know you, but by god I feel you!
Meaning of life? Different for everyone, For me it's been about overcoming what I thought people wanted of me and to find and live with joy!!
It's out there!
Please please please email me anytime for any reason! You just found someone who cares and I'm NOT just saying that!
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my bfs little girl has been with us for the last month. her mother dropped her off one week and said she will see her when she can. the little girl says her mom doesnt love her, that she wont see her, and her mom rather hang out with her bf then her. what do i tell her, its all true but of course i am not saying it is. i tell her that her mom still loves her but what else can i say to make her feel better without getting her hopes up that she will see her again. cause right now she isnt going to for awhile
my bf is getting full custody because this is stupid her getting child support and not seeing her child at all.
Bless your heart. How horrible. Have you considered adopting her?
I really think it's best to be as honest as you can, without hurting her.
I would say something to the effect like, " your mommy loves you very much, but she is having a very hard time. Your mommy doesn't like herself much right now and is trying to figure out what she wants in life," which is true or she'd be with her child. Then give that little girl as much love and attention that is humanly possible. Love heals and your love along with some honesty will and a long way
But don't ever lie to a child! They know, in their intuitive little selves, what's up. Talk to her openly and honestly but in 5 year old terms. And by all means, get full custody! Mom
doesn't deserve it..
Please feel free to email me if you need further advice.
God bless you for your courage and selflessness and for loving her. She will in time acknowledge you as mommy!
One more thing, validate her feelings too! Let her know you'd feel the same way. That you don't blame her for thinking the way she does!
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How can I get a new boyfriend? I don't know where to look and I miss having one. Plus I'm usually to shy to talk to guys
This may not be a traditional answer BUT here goes.
On a piece of paper, write in detail EVERYTHING you want in a boyfriend. His looks, personality, attitude, sense of humor, height, family background everything and any thing you can think of.
Write what kind of first date you'd like, how he treats you ect...use colored markers and make it fun and creative!
Fold it toward you three times and keep it in your wallet or pocket! Find a rose quartz and keep THAT with you as you write your list
Then, go out every day somewhere. Coffee houses, amusement parks, websites dating, classes, ice cream parlors or nice long walks in the park, I would stay away from clubs as most men looking there are seeking one night
!stands...
at night before going to sleep, imagine meeting this guy and how you interact with each other
Write me in 30 days!!!
I promise you, this works.
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Hi im a 22 yr old female and me and my girlfriend of 3 yrs have been having problems because she says we dont have an emotional connection. the problem is i dont even really know what that means. I dont know how to give her that. Its really putting a damper on our relationship. Any advice?? Thanks in advance.
It's when two people connect on a very deep level. These are examples only: You see your friend crying, it stirs in you tears to well up as well. Or, she laughs and although you don't find it funny, you can't help but laugh because her laughter influences you to laugh too! Or, her feelings are hurt, and although you may think she's overreacting, you can't help but feel the same hurt and instinctivly you want to fix it. Your feelings override your thoughts of logic when it comes to her.
It's a connection you can't really see or explain. Emotions are not logical!
What can you do about it? That's tough because the flip side is that if she really cares for you, she will understand you are not made up that way. Some people are just NOT emotional
and there is nothing wrong with that. Accepting each other for who and what you are defines a true
friendship/relationship
Yes, sometimes we need to change or work on our
shortcomings and character. So here Id suggest ( if she really
means that much to you and you will do anything to make it
work) stop, close your eyes and feel what she feels. Meditate
if you will, by putting yourself in her shoes, pretending to feel
what she does. Imagine a silver chord connecting the two of
you.
Since emotions are more spiritual in nature, you need to take the time to get in touch with YOUR spirit!
If even after trying it's the same, you are best suited with someone like minded. Sometimes things don't work cause there is something better for you out there! It's always painful when relationship/friendships come to an end, but it is a part of life. I wish for all your friendships to be easy, where you just " get each other" it's not supposed to be hard!
Blessed Be
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before i start here is an important detail:
my family name is "lemon". Sooo... we were in a submarine and we were all having fun just hanging out and it was me,this lady (who is an actress) and my best friend in the sub with other people i didnt recognize... soon the water started coming in the submarine and we were panicking when the water was almost to the top of the sub it all drained out and we were in this city surrounded by water when we got out the sub there was a fat lady lying outside of it and me and my bff tripped over her and she said grrrr... we all sat on a bench and waited soon everyones parents came to pick them up and me and the old lady were still sitting there talking...she said to me "hey, you that lemon who...wait your not a lemon you my cousin". THE END!!! when i woke up i was confused like and i related to her or something??? i mean that would be so cool to be related to an actress... help and please interpretate!!
You are being flooded with emotions. The famous lady is not related ( I mean anything is possible) famous people in dreams usually mean it's something about that person you see in yourself. IE: confidance, determination et.
These are the attributes that will help you move past your emotions that will flood you!
You made it to dry land, yet still surrounded by water, that means you are a strong person
Message: don't let your emotions get in the way of making good sound choices in your life, wait till you're "on dry land"
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This girl and I used to talk and we did for awhile but she decided she just wanted to be friends. We're pretty much best friends and she tells me she trust me with everything (I still like her a lot) but if something is wrong she won't tell me what's bothering her anymore, it kind of hurts. We don't talk a lot either or as much as we used to. She periodically complains about how close we used to be and how its not like that but she doesn't really do anything to change that when I'm trying my absolute hardest. Like I said I still have feelings for her but she only sees me as a friend now but I'm starting to get confused now, its as if she doesn't want anything to do with me. We'll talk in the morning and a little at night and that's it, she'll just stop texting me all of a sudden for some reason. Its just weird...
A couple of answers here.
1: she knows you feel more for her than
she you and doesn't know how to be best friends anymore, so she is pulling back from you.
2: something is going on with her, something painful and she isn't sure on how to communicate it!
What can you do? Unfortunately my dear, there's not much you can do. Unless you want to win her heart. If you do, always be there whether she talks or not.
Sometimes people need to sort their feelings out silently.
She will come around.
Pull her aside, look in her eyes and tell her exactly the way you feel! First figure out how you feel so you're clear, then BE HONEST...
Good luck
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Hi! 19/f
Me and my boyfriend have been living together for about a year now, and I'm getting kind of bored with the way that our room looks. We've made a few changes (took off our closet doors, added some furniture) but I'm still not satisfied. The walls are a dull white, and the carpet is brown. I really want to paint our room, but it's hard choosing a color we can both agree on, or a design. I'm more girly and he's more neutral and calm. I suggest ideas, and he thinks that they're too girly so I really need some ideas that could work for our room since it's the both of us.
If you need an idea of what we're like, well, we're very similar. We're both heavily into music, movies & media. I really like fashion, reading and art. I really want something that could incorporate those but that could really be equal and not too overpowering. I don't want our room to be too feminine or too masculine.
If you guys have any ideas, could you please contribute them? I'm so bored of the way our room looks and we're looking to change it. Thanks in advance!
Sage green is a good unisex color AND it is a color.
Throw in some gold with great photos and posters of musicians.
OR
dark blue trim om white using some nature themes??
You could make it a movie room. Classy framed posters of favorite movies and/or actors.
Using blk and white.
Lastly pick a unisex color say light burnt orange and each of you alternate picking out artifacts, pictures, art ect and make it a mix of the two of you.
A few suggestions for you. I hope you agree on something
best to the two of you
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i have been suffering from severe depression for awhile. after much thought, i believe it's because of some of my actions in the past. not murder or anything like that, but i have alot of shame and guilt (with myself) but cannot seem to forgive myself. i realize i am only human and i'm going to make some mistakes, but i cannot seem to get over whatever things are making me feel depressed. i have tried almost every anti-depressant, but they don't seem to work. i obviously need help, but cannot seem to find anyone who truly wants to help me. it's always a question of health insurance (i have excellent coverage) so instead of helping me, i feel they are prolonging my agony to keep the money coming in. truthfully, i wouldn't care if they were helping me. i have considered a indian medicine man and even went to a reservation in hopes of speaking with one, but it was the weekend and they were closed. a psychic is starting to look good but most are for fun. i truly need help before i lose my mind! thanks
I agree with you that it's how you feel about yourself that's causing the depression and insomnia and not the other way around.
That being said, the way I forgave myself for some pretty horrible things, was to write down what I did,, who it hurt,
and why I did it. For example was it to make you feel secure or safe? Was it out of fear (revenge)? Was it to save your self esteem ect? Upon analyzing what was behind the act and you understand the childlike parts of ourselves. We can then understand and understanding leads to love that leads to forgiveness.
Find ways to nurture yourself, like a child. Learn to love yourself with small kind acts.
If you need to sleep, then by all means take some lunesta or prescription sleeping aid.
Anti depressants sometime just mask the problem and it seems you already know what the issue is. Listen to your heart.
Anti depressants aren't working because that's not the issue.
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