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I don't understand
This girl and I used to talk and we did for awhile but she decided she just wanted to be friends. We're pretty much best friends and she tells me she trust me with everything (I still like her a lot) but if something is wrong she won't tell me what's bothering her anymore, it kind of hurts. We don't talk a lot either or as much as we used to. She periodically complains about how close we used to be and how its not like that but she doesn't really do anything to change that when I'm trying my absolute hardest. Like I said I still have feelings for her but she only sees me as a friend now but I'm starting to get confused now, its as if she doesn't want anything to do with me. We'll talk in the morning and a little at night and that's it, she'll just stop texting me all of a sudden for some reason. Its just weird...
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It's not wierd, it's prefectly sensible of her to scale back her communication with you.
If she said she doesn't like you like that, but you still like her like that... well that can be really uncomfortable for someone.
Stop 'trying your absolute hardest'. That is probably exactly what is putting her off. You are treating her as more then just a friend, and she's trying to push you away for it.
Ask her straight up what is wrong, and ask her how much contact she'd like, or what she'd like to do. But above everything else, respect her choice not to be as close as you once were and try to move on. Your infatuation with her could kill your friendship if you aren't careful.
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A couple of answers here.
1: she knows you feel more for her than
she you and doesn't know how to be best friends anymore, so she is pulling back from you.
2: something is going on with her, something painful and she isn't sure on how to communicate it!
What can you do? Unfortunately my dear, there's not much you can do. Unless you want to win her heart. If you do, always be there whether she talks or not.
Sometimes people need to sort their feelings out silently.
She will come around.
Pull her aside, look in her eyes and tell her exactly the way you feel! First figure out how you feel so you're clear, then BE HONEST...
Good luck
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