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Emotional connection??
Hi im a 22 yr old female and me and my girlfriend of 3 yrs have been having problems because she says we dont have an emotional connection. the problem is i dont even really know what that means. I dont know how to give her that. Its really putting a damper on our relationship. Any advice?? Thanks in advance.
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It's when two people connect on a very deep level. These are examples only: You see your friend crying, it stirs in you tears to well up as well. Or, she laughs and although you don't find it funny, you can't help but laugh because her laughter influences you to laugh too! Or, her feelings are hurt, and although you may think she's overreacting, you can't help but feel the same hurt and instinctivly you want to fix it. Your feelings override your thoughts of logic when it comes to her.
It's a connection you can't really see or explain. Emotions are not logical!
What can you do about it? That's tough because the flip side is that if she really cares for you, she will understand you are not made up that way. Some people are just NOT emotional
and there is nothing wrong with that. Accepting each other for who and what you are defines a true
friendship/relationship
Yes, sometimes we need to change or work on our
shortcomings and character. So here Id suggest ( if she really
means that much to you and you will do anything to make it
work) stop, close your eyes and feel what she feels. Meditate
if you will, by putting yourself in her shoes, pretending to feel
what she does. Imagine a silver chord connecting the two of
you.
Since emotions are more spiritual in nature, you need to take the time to get in touch with YOUR spirit!
If even after trying it's the same, you are best suited with someone like minded. Sometimes things don't work cause there is something better for you out there! It's always painful when relationship/friendships come to an end, but it is a part of life. I wish for all your friendships to be easy, where you just " get each other" it's not supposed to be hard!
Blessed Be
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Hi,
an emotional connection is not something you can force. It has to happen naturally and it occurs over time. You can't just give it to her.
An emotional connection happens when you bond with someone on a deeper level. You wrote that you have been together for three years. If she feels there is no emotional connection after all of that time, I would suspect that there is a deeper problem that you need to address with her. Maybe the two of you are drifting apart and should talk to an unbiased person.
I hope this helped.
Good luck,
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