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I have a sadness in my heart and I don't know why I cant seem to feel more positive about myself. I wanna be a great mother to my children but fear I am not strong enough to endure all. I love them more than anything in the whole world but that just isn't enough I fear. I don't want to fail them as a mother, I want to be a better person for my partner and I feel lost because I am not happy with myself so how can I make someone else happy. I feel he does not want me anymore. I feel so judged and hate it. I am tired of being so anxious about everything I want peace of mind. Sometimes I want to just live in a bubble and never leave. Why do I feel this way? What is wrong with me? What are steps to improve myself for my family.I have no insurance and unable to seek professional help so I am turning to the web for any suggestions. Thanks
umm honey your passing through a lot of depression.I have pass through a lot of depression throughout my life but i have overcome them by the help of god who is my everything.You need to stand up nd believe that you can do anything you want because your special nd no one is better than you.Your a unique nd beautiful women.I know it is hard because you feel alone and that everything is so hard on you like if someone is weighing you down but dont give up,the last thing a person can never lose is their faith.I will recommend you to go to churches they can really help you out,tell them your problems.And lets see how life goes from there.Remember your kids need you!! think about them throughout the process!hope this helps you,good luck hun!:)
I met my ex online and he lives a short distance away from me. However at the time we started dating he was in the USMC stationed in CA. He came home once in the 7 months we were dating and we went out had a great time. His visit was about 3 months into our relationship. Being alone eventually got to me and I slipped up on night and ashamed of myself i did not contact him for 5 days. When i did contact him i just told him i had met someone and thought we should go our seperate ways. All the affair i had at that time was sex. Me and the guy i had a affair with started dating shortly after. Missing my ex though of course i left him not long after our relationship started. I did not contact my ex however for several weeks after i left the guy i had a affair with. when i did contact my ex he had told me he was home for good out of the USMC and i poured my heart out and was honest about everything. At one point he says that he could never trust me again (understandable) and then he asks me how he thought it would be if we got together again. I still get the feeling he still loves me. But i know i hurt him badly. Is their any advice someone could give me about proving that im as hurt as he is and i can be faithful? Which is hard because it is hard to get him to contact me back. I miss him so much.
21/female he is 23/m
wow girl thats tough,but it seems that you have learned your lesson. if the boy is inlove with you he will eventually learn to forgive you and give you a second chance which you have to really appreciate and not throw it in the trash.in the other hand if he doesnt forgive you then he wasnt the one.it was never meant to be.i really recommend you to not date online cuz not always people seem who they are. you sound like a smart and beautiful gurl think about what you really want,is this the guy for you or is it just another illusion.hope this helps you!good luck:)
Well, I just moved to a new school and I am really upset about it because well, in my old school there was this guy and he used to live in my building and we were in the same class and were really good friends. We liked the same things and so on but i guess I started likeing him but he didn't like me back, now I am in a new school and I don't know if I should move on or wait because i really really liked him!
Move on sweetie,that guy doesnt have a clue what he missed!Anyways,I believe you deserve way better.You just moved that means your experiencing a new life in where that boy is going to be in the past.I think you will find your dream guy soon,dont worry!wish u the best!:)
21/f
This is a really weird question, I know, and you're probably going to think I'm making a big deal over nothing. I was going out with this guy in a band, and we broke up in December. It was a bad break up and he was really bad to me. Anyway, in the time we went out (3 months) I became fairly good friends with the other two in the band. One in particular I really liked. I recently found out this one has left the band, and from what it sounds like it was under pretty bad circumstances. Anyway I recently found him on Facebook, and I really want to add him. However, I'm not sure if this would be weird? I really liked him and enjoyed speaking to him (as a friend) We go to the same college too, but I haven't seen him around. I haven't seen him since my ex and I broke up. I know it's only Facebook, and people add each other all the time there. I just don't want to make him uncomfortable and I can't decide.
So to add or not add? Thanks
I can just say ADD!!!I mean its not a big deal!probably he will even be glad you added him so you two can stay in contact.If he ignores your friend request well to bad for him,you just keep living life!And one more time ADD!!!!:)
My freinds always get bf but i really want one i think im to fat or ugly, i pretty popular but i dont see what's wrong i need some adcice im so jelous of my freinds.............My freind just got a new bf and my bother freind keeps getting asked out by everybody.
Girl,BELIEVE in your self.Just because you have a little more skin than your friends it doesnt mean your not beatiful.You dont have to be jealous,your unique in your own way.You can try doing exercise to gain more confidence and look like you want to.Trust me there is boy out there waiting for you to come in to his life and make it perfect.I wish you the best and be happy!REMEMBER YOUR GORGEOUS,DONT LET NO ONE BRING YOU DOWN,ALWAYS WITH YOUR HEAD UP HIGH!:)
Hi i need serious help!. I like this guy but i don't know how to tell him. He's so hot and sweet i don't know what to do i like so shy and kinda average for my looks. sometimes i feel ugly than others i feel beautiful what do i do
My dear friend have CONFIDENCE in your self,that's a major quality you have to have to progress in life.Your beautiful trust me,don't compare your self to others,just be your self and be happy of who you are.If you don't trust yourself and don't believe you are gorgeous from the inside and out you won't be able to tell him about your feelings towards him.Don't tell him you like him until you are completely sure he likes you back,I don't want you to make a fool of yourself.Act kind of different when your with him so he can ask you was wrong.Be nice but most importantly when you talk let the words come from your heart.I believe your a very bright girl!Wish you the best!:)
My boyfriend is turning 21 on sunday. I can not think of a single thing to get for him. ive even asked him and he says he doesnt want anything...im really desperate for some ideas. ive already looked for concert tickets & sports game tickets & theres no thing really that he would be interested in...he has a nice watch..im really just drawing a blank...please help!
Well you sound like you really like him and want to make his birthday the best.If I were you I will spend the day hanging out with him.Go to the park have a picnic under the beautiful trees and just give him the feeling that his very important in your life.Also you can go to the beach and both of you dress white and have a romantic dinner under the sunset.Or have you thought of making a birthday surprise and give a perfume of his taste,its something that he can use everyday and remember how special it is cuz you gave it to him!When you make your decision let me know what you choose plzzz!!!Good Luck!:)
Hi, im 14/f and my boyfriends 15. I'm an August baby, and all of my friends are september - even though we're in the same year at school, their almost a year older than me. In septmeber, when they turn 16, they'll be starting to have sex with their boyfriends. Even though i've been with my boyfriend for just as long as them (coming up 9 months)i wont be having sex until august 2011 - im not sure it's worth waiting that long.
We both love each other, and i'm not on about having sex now, maybe may next year? but i wanna know why its such a big deal to be over 16?!? should i wait - obviously i only would have sex if im ready. can i get some opinions?
Bearing in mind he'll be 17 next year. Thanks x
Heck yeah it does matter when to have sex.Its going to affect your life.You might think you love him but you don't sweetie.Dont give your virginity to no one at this age.Your way to young dont make a mistake you can regret your whole life.You can get pregnant or get a disease.Wait until your old, that you have a job,a place to live and that you mature enough.Theres time for everything in life.If he really loves you he will wait for you.Wish you the best!:)
Hi, fifteen, female. There is this boy and he has been my best friend since third grade, he's the best. When I'm down, he knows and he asks me to tell him about it and everything or he'll play his guitar for me because he knows I like when he does. My mom is absolutely in love with him, she thinks we are going to grow up and get married, like most best friends do. I'm totally honest when I say I don't know my feelings for him, I thought he was just my friend but I kinda can see him as a boyfriend now. He holds open doors for me and all the gentleman-esque things. But, I look at other girls he has liked in the past and I am NOTHING like them. In class we were talking about a leader of Germany and my teacher said that the leader reminded him of Regina from mean girls. My friend mumbled something to himself but the person he sits next to heard him and asked if he liked her, he answered her and they started laughing then he turned around and quick looked at me. Everybody in my school always makes fun of us because apparently we're in "love" and we need to get together ASAP. I ask my friends why they think he likes me and they said the way he looks at me, it isn't like how he looks at other girls and how he smiles when we talk but I just looked at that as 7 years of friendship. His brother, in collage, makes fun of us too. My friend is a great guy and I trust him with my life. Both of us play instruments and one day I gave him food because he was hungry and he loved what I gave him to eat so now he asks me for them all the time, just something we share, between me and him, ya know. I guess my question is -> do you think my best friend likes me as more than his friend and if so how do I approach this situation without messing up an amazing friendship?
Thanks!
I'm having the feeling he does like you.It's super sweet everything you have said but think about what you feel about him.If you like him just confront the situation but dont tell him you like him before you know he feels the same way for you.You can start the conversation like this:Hey I need to talk to you about how people at school say we are in love what do you think about that?Also I have heard rumors that you like me are they true be honest?.Be nice but confident when you talk.Good Luck!:)
15 /f
im a freshman and this boy ... hes either a junior or senior . i noticed him about two weeks ago . i think hes really cute and he seems nice . should i just attempt to get to know him more ? i finally got passed the whole getting him to notice me part cause hes been looking at me in the halls and at lunch .
I think that you should let him make the first move if he really is interested in you he should be the first one to talk not you.Also take in hand that he is older than you so that means he can use you and you can end up hurt.Most of the guys that are juniors and seniors are looking for one thing and I think you what it is.Also he is going to get out of highschool before you,so you going to like someone else.I recommend you to go out with someone your age or one year difference.Probably your mom won't be that happy of the idea of you going out with a junior or senior.Be careful and dont do nothing dumb that can affect your future forever.Good Luck:)
Well i broke up with my exboyfriend about 2 weeks ago because there were rumors that he was playing me which i kno y people thought he was playin me but he wasnt i figured that story out but it made me get more aware and my eyes became more open well i broke up with him because another girl messaged me and told me he was goin out with her too but he says he wasnt and that the girl was just obsessed with him i really dont know who or what to believe i miss him and he tells me he misses me but i dont know what i should do i really need help im soo confused what do you think i should do? what would you do in this situation?
Well,definitely don't go out with him again.If there is so much chaos going on it means that he is not the right one for you.I know your going to miss him because you still like him but eventually you will get over him.Just let him go.Stay aways from him until your completely over him.I don't want you to get hurt.Take time for yourself and think about what you really want out of life,I think you don't want to be the one who gets cheat on.Wish you the best,I know that later on you will find Mr.Right!:)
I met a wonderful widow with 3 children, 12, 14 & 16. Her husband died from cancer a year ago. We've been dating for almost 9 months. I asked her to marry me after 5 months, she said yes. I found out that I have cancer 1 month after. It appears that this cancer I have is not a very treatable kind. I can prolong my life several yrs., but not much longer, unless I am the one in a million miracle. We have not told the children. It was very hard on them watching there father take 2 yrs to pass. I don't want to hurt them again. She said we will hide it until it's obvious. I'm not sure if I want to put 3 kids into another tragic relationship so soon to their past one. I've grown to love them. Should I break it off with her?, should I break it off with them?, I don't want to be the cause of tempering these wonderful people any further than they are.
Ok,I am really sorry for this situation your passing through.I know it's hard.I just hope a miracle happens and you can be cured.My advice is that you tell the childrens the true in that way they can help you in this difficult situation in your life.At first they are going to cry and feel that their heart is broken but for you they are going to be strong to give you all the support,love,affection and happiness you need.If you don't tell them now its going to be harder later on.Be strong!Never give up have a lot of faith in god!Im going to have you in my prayers.:)
Okay so theres this guy (lets call him Bob) that I have slowly began to really really like throughout the year. It all started out with me liking this other guy, but then I found out he liked my best friend (lets call her Trish)So I
was upset about that for a while, but then I noticed that one of my friends that I've known since 4th grade, is really cute!
Bob and I weren't the best of friends yet but we still talked to each other, and we ended up trying out for the school play together and we both got in. Thats when it started, we started talking everyday and going out with friends every weekend. He would call me and ask what the plans were and he was also in numerous of my classes during school. He plays this game that he is obsessed about and persuaded me into joining.
Turns out the game is only fun when I'm with Bob and we are playing together. He helped me get better at the game and everyday we would go on and talk on the phone. He used to not go on the game during weekdays but he started to when I joined.
He shows signs of liking me, like lying his head on my shoulder and hooking arms with me, or just the way he acts with me in general. But the thing is that he doesn't like friend relationships and he think they never work out. I agree but at the same time I think that if you don't try it out you would never know and thats just as frustrating as trying it out and failing.
Another problem is that Bob is bisexual, and I can't tell if you acts the way he does is because I'm his best friend or because he likes me. I know its hard for someone as young as me (13) to love someone, but I really do love him. If he ever stopped being my friend I don't think I would be able to go on in life.
He is very important to me but I don't know if I should tell him or not. I don't want him to react badly and like never talk to me again or go out with me for pity. I want him to like me just as much as I likes him...help?
Ok,this is a really tough situation for a teenage girl.I'm not trying to be tough on you but I think you dont love him.I know when a person is young they think they are in love but they really aren't,it's just a deep atraction you feel for the other person.If for some reason you cant understand the way that person acts or behaves,it's probably maybe because that person is not right for you.When a person finds their true love they can understand them and have a deep connection.Trust me there is going to be many boys that your going to think your in love with before you find the right one.I hope this can help you.Good luck!:)