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Should I add my ex's friend on facebook?
21/f
This is a really weird question, I know, and you're probably going to think I'm making a big deal over nothing. I was going out with this guy in a band, and we broke up in December. It was a bad break up and he was really bad to me. Anyway, in the time we went out (3 months) I became fairly good friends with the other two in the band. One in particular I really liked. I recently found out this one has left the band, and from what it sounds like it was under pretty bad circumstances. Anyway I recently found him on Facebook, and I really want to add him. However, I'm not sure if this would be weird? I really liked him and enjoyed speaking to him (as a friend) We go to the same college too, but I haven't seen him around. I haven't seen him since my ex and I broke up. I know it's only Facebook, and people add each other all the time there. I just don't want to make him uncomfortable and I can't decide.
So to add or not add? Thanks
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Why not? It's not like by adding him you'll be forced to talk about your ex. Or even talk to him in general, until you're comfortable.
People from my school who hate me in real life add me on facebook (I reject them because I know they aren't my friends), so this isn't as bad as adding someone you hate. You had no trouble with him. I don't think it would be weird.
--Jack
(18/m)
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ADDDDD! l0l, well, yea it's true, people add each other ALL THE TIME on facebook... random people! :P and yes, it can be rather awkward... but you never know! just don't do or say anything to make him feel uncomfortable, because then you just look plain "stalker ish"! start off, just don't talk for a while, then about a week ish l8r, just be like, "Oh hey, wats up? kinda bored..." Something like that.... then if he seems eager to continue the conversation, then CONTINUE it!! and try making jokes around him, it'll help ease up the awkwardness. :)
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I can just say ADD!!!I mean its not a big deal!probably he will even be glad you added him so you two can stay in contact.If he ignores your friend request well to bad for him,you just keep living life!And one more time ADD!!!!:)
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It's JUST Facebook.
It's what the website is for..
Add him. What's the worst that can happen? He won't accept your friend request? It's hardly the end of the world.
Stop making mountains out of molehills and add, add, add! Who knows, it may help you 2 get chattin' and become friends again.
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If you had sex with the ex boyfriend, and then broke up with him it is to the equivalence of firing somebody from a company. Therefore if you want anything to do with a future between you, and an honorable gentleman then you better not even think about adding him.
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Facebook, much like Myspace, is a networking website. Therefore, I don't see anything "weird" about you requesting him as a friend. I doubt he would either.
It might be weird if you've never met him and are a balding 50 year old man, but that's an entirely different story.
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