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After 19 years My mother told me who my real father was 2 weeks ago and then she told me that he dosnt know that im his child. He is married now with a child, and owns a store so when i go in there and see him he talks to me and thinks im his ex girlfriends daughter but he dosnt know im his daughter to. So i dont know what to do my mother said do not tell him but i want him to know, i want to get to know him better. Do i tell him im his daughter? (link)
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its completely fucked up that your mother told you that, and then told you not to say anything. The worst thing you could do to me is ruin that man's marriage. Before you say anything to that man I would establish ideas:
-you want his confidence.
-you want him to know you'll secure the information -you have.
-you do not want your mother to be approached about
-this in case she's lying, and in the least to
-retain her confidence.
-it's between just you, and that man no one else
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Best friend is breaking my heart
I had a seven plus year gay relationship with my best friend in secret until recently as we have just broke up. What we had was 'friends w/benefits' which went exclusive. He is an extremely selfish person and gets tunnel vision with what he wants but he never used that side of him with me...yet. He didn't keep to the 'exclusive' bit and cheated, he then wanted to end the benefits with me and go be with a girl he was sleeping with. I wasn't too bothered about ending the benefits side but it was killing me just how much he had damaged our close relationship (as in the friends side of it) to get what he wanted. He said he really wants to be with her, but I know that that would be super arkward and painful for me at this point so I told him he would have to choose to either be with her knowing that it would be too much for me due to how they got together or to stop slowly destroying our friendship which spans 8 years of being really close best friends and try and rebuild the trust, respect, loyalty etc, which he broke. He has since choose to fix our friendship but he seems really distant, like he has no feelings of any kind towards me and doesn't seem eager to get back our friendship. It has devastated me watching as he stands by doing very little, when our friendship is hanging on by a thread and all he has to do is be himself, my best friend, not acting like we don't know each other. He thinks he can be with her and sort it with me at the same time but to me that's fair on me as due to his selfishness he will not sort us out he will just focus on her and that would make me feel really betrayed and things toward him, after he has sorted us out he can please himself. I love him and would never hurt him or see him hurting but he doesn't seem as though he cares about me or how bad I'm hurting or what's happening to our friendship, he just seems to care about the girl he wanted, when he could get whoever at a later date when we are sorted.
I just want my best friend back, I miss him so so much but he doesn't seem to care, I'm so depressed and can't stop the tears from flowing when I think of how close he was to how distant he acts with me now.
Please any advice for me or my friend would help thanks for listening. (link)
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you have complex issues:
secret gay casual sex
friendship
perhaps your buddy wasn't gay, and he only wanted to experience sex
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Idk if it makes a difference but im 16 and my boyfriend is 18. I have been dating him for a little more then eight months. He seems like the perfect guy and i love him as well as him me. Of course we have hade makeout sessions and all, but im still a virgin. He's never forced it on me to have sex and but when we get really hot when making out, he starts touching and its not bad until i have to push him away. We havent really talked about it but the few times i have tried he doesnt understand why i dont want to. It might be the fact that he isnt a virgin. I need help...how do i bring up this conversation. How do i explain that its important to me that i want to keep my virginity for a while longer maybe after we have been together for a year or longer (link)
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its yours not his : ) you're a gem of a woman, and you wan to stay that way. I honestly feel like he's a creep who wants to rob you of your innocence. If he's the one they'll be plenty of time for him to get it in you. I bet you're a little noble. The man you end up spending your life with will cherish you for you've never corrupted yourself with multiple relationships. Sex is not special. The first time is special. I wish hers was with me.
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Well hey thanks for reading this well I'm on middle school and I'm not to Shure how to express my self all the time im really quite but I don't know what to say and and some think I'm boring but I'm not Im really not quite on the house or when I'm with my friends and I want to all see that I'm not boring I liked to have fun not be boring how can I show them I'm not boring and please don't tell me to be myself
If you read this thanks for taking your time (link)
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everybody wants to be interesting, but you'll only end up battling in a competition to be obnoxious, and then you'll find yourself be to least of all things genuine. In conclusion you'll be not one single bit interesting. Just worry about yourself, and think about how to get somewhere in this world before you're done with school. This way in the least pay for itself, because right now you're a burden until you make your own ways of paying for the food/shelter/water you consume. You'll be really fucking special if you get in on that.
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what does it called when having sex whith 5 people (link)
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a stupid spoiled whore
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Hey. Im jasmine and im 15 im a sophomore in highschool i lost my virginity last year as a freshman and ill be honest i didnt use protection. as a result i didnt get pregnant at all as many times as me and my bf dont use them the last time i had sex was roughly 8 months ago ive been tested and im clean. one question am i lucky ??or what?? answer?? (link)
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a lot of people had kids by mistake in the past, and now I think that their mistakes are only making worse mistakes. only 20% of fertilization turns around a pregnancy quite, and frankly you sound like a moron who should be neutered you sick fuck.
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i have always had a crush on this woman. she has a gf and we was talking about me fidning someone and she said I would ask you out if I was single, but I am too old too lol... You are a dollbaby and trust me, when I say this "you will find someone when the time is right.." and its the waiting that sucks ass trust me...you are so beautiful inside and out, have a heart of gold, have a killer smile and eyes, a persoanlity to light up a room, and you are sexy too.. it will happen and it will be amazing... is she just being nice and bein a friend or what? is she crushing on me? (link)
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she's absolutely hitting on you, and i think you let her down.
edge her onto going out with you
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how do i turn my man when he is sleepin because right know and im really horny and i want to what i can do to turn my man on right know (link)
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no man will every say: STOP SUCKING MY DICK!
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When I was in the first grade, I could have easily been skipped to the fourth. Instead, I stayed in first, but only because my school integrated first, second, and third grade into the same classrooms. I ended up being really bored and after forcing the third graders to teach me everything they knew, I entertained myself by memorizing things like the digits of pi, maps and charts of Africa and Asia, and reading the dictionary. Six years later, after transferring to the local public school in my town, I actually got skipped from sixth to eighth. It's a great challenge, but a lot of kids just hate the fact that I'm there as a twelve year old and they're well past fourteen. My teachers, as always, are supportive, but I just don't know what to do anymore. (link)
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if you really think you're smart well there's something out there called Brazil Jiu Jitsu. It's basically the equivalent game of (human) chess where the objective is to win a fight with nothing more than strategy. I, myself have always been the small, charming type who faces big bullies that love to try, and squash me. brazil jiu jitsu is 100% effective against anyone no matter their size. if you are really bored with life then put your money where your mouth is by finding a brazil jiu jitsu school that's certified, and backed by the Gracie's themselves. I guarantee you that if you do brazil jiu jitsu, you will be spiritually awakened in another way that will really calm you down, and open your mind to attacking challenges.
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okay so, me and this guy jake, have got really close, but my friend likes him a bit? he's wanked infront of me a few times then 2 weeks ago we were sitting in his house alone and he said you wanna pull me? i said yeah? and one thing led to another and i was blowing him, then he asked me if i would shag him and i didnt say no? so we ended up having sex then his mum came back and we heard her coming up the stairs so i ran into the bathroom while he quickly pu his clothes on when his mum walked in she realised something had been going on and dragged him down stair by the hair? since then we have done it ALOT of times.. the thing is o feel awful about it because of my bestfriend, she has relised i wasnt telling her something and like got all upset. she knows im really close with him and that he has wanked infront of me and stuff but i wouldnt tell her anything else.. me and jake were planning to meet up and spent new years together and do it again and get wrecked together but we will be in the house with his parents and big brother and sister. i know its wrong but were in love.. oh im 14 hes 15.. and my bestfriend is 15? advice strongly wanted. (link)
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tell her youre a slut then she cant say anything back
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well, im in love with this guy, were not dating but were fooling around, my bestfriend told me the other day that she likes him, i havent told her anything that weve done or that i like him, he wanked infront of me a couple times, then i dont it for him, then like the next day we were in the movies cause there was nothing to do that day we were sitting down the front middilish and i gave him head! and then he took me back to his house and we had sex, it was amazing, i lost my virginity to him and he's a gentleman about it. i made a stupid mistake by going to his party he had for his 14th in his house and i got mega pished, and me and him went upstairs and ended up having sex again and my bestfriend walked in, she burst out in tears and ran home, she told me she hated me and never wants to see me again what do i do? oh hes 14 im 13 and she 14.. (link)
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tell her you're sorry for being a slut.
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Hi!
I'm 13 and I have my eye teeth missing due to removal and there's two big gaps where they should grow in. Does it make me unattractive to girls? I also have braces, and my smile looks stupid. Any help appreciated! (link)
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anyone with a brain knows youre dismay is only temporary, and so theyll look hard to see how you really look without your dismay ; )
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so basically i'm so confused and im tired of bullshit. Why is it so hard for a guy to either tell us they like us, or be honest that they don't. Why do they have to play games? I'm in highschool but i'm one who hates hookups I would rather just have one special person there but it's seriously so hard to find because every guys ends up fucking you over and I'm terribly scared to have that happen. I've only kissed one guy but i've still gotten hurt by others...basically the guy I kissed just flat out stopped talking to me after like 6 months of non offical dating but like we both weren't seeing any one else. He made it clear he liked me and basically spent every weekend with me. Then out of nowhere doesn't talk to me and like ignores me at school but if im like walking to my car he'll drive past and stare me down. I just am seriously tired of drama and that feeling where basically you feel like you can't find anyone decent. I don't even know what i'm saying and i guess I just want your opinion why would he do that...=[ it's just how could he say all the things he did to me and one day act like he never said any of it (link)
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first of all gurls keep complaining about boys who are playing games all over the place. obviously you're doing something that everyone else is doing. another thing high school doesn't matter. i mean it's its own little bubble world where everyone inside of it feels like everything there is life or death, but once you get out of high school everything that happened there basically never mattered. A lot of guys know this, and once you've initiated multiple partners you're doomed. that's goes double if ever follow the same path. i suggest that you relax, and become passive. It's hard to know good. Look for more genuine guys standing by instead of forward guys.
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I am a 13 year old girl and i question my sexuality. i think boys aare hot and like them and stuff but sometimes i feel curious to look when my close girl friends are changing and think girls are really pretty and have good boobs. i sometimes think i want to kiss a girl to know if im a lesbian but i have never kissed a boy but i want to. people say its normal to sometimes feel lesbian or gay during puberty but im still worries.please no mean comments
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woman are on a very tall pedestal in this world. for one they are treated like sexual candy, and typically any girl caught in clothing that doesn't somehow lure her peers to lust for her will equate to some kind of loser that nobody likes. If you dont know what i mean than look at gurl's asses. you'll find out pretty fast that the general population of young girls are fighting in a real life booty fashion show. the point is woman for a major part of their life exist only to sexually amuse males. This has collateral damage. the modern woman's sexual out put is not lazer guided precision. girls can look so hot that gurls can think theye hot to. furthermore is it scientifically proven that subliminally woman are sexually attracted to hot woman in the media. does this mean you are gay? well the best thing you can do is relax, because i guarantee you that some pervert is more than willing to get into your body. is doesnt mean you gay by the way. my girlfriend loves sexy woman's photo, and we often view them together.
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I can't do anything to sexual since we're gonna be at a park. How can you turn a guy on in a public place? (link)
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im not helping you give it to other guys
guys are lucky to get it as it is
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I need to find one of those websites wher e you caan create a person and what they look like and then you are in a world and you earn money and but stuff and you do stuff idk i need to find a website where i can create my own person/world! (link)
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dont do it youll become a loser
get into something real instead
for instants im into fighting so i do brazil jujitsu
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ok so about a year ago i read a few of my dads text messages. there were some texts of questionable nature and they were sent to a guy. i told my sister and then we sat down together and told my mom. she confronted my dad who denied it and we all went along with our little lives. then yesterday, i was the only one awake in my house and my dads iPod touch was charging in the kitchen, i proceeded to start playing some apps and what not. but then i got a funny feeling that i should click on the "email" app. so i did. he had 3 different email accounts set up to it, two of them i was familiar with, but i had never seen the third before. so i clicked on it and this is when i wish i would just STOP going through my dads stuff. he had several emails from different guys talking in ways two guys should not talk to each other (especially a married man with FIVE kids!) some emails said what they are into, some talked about meeting up, some said "nice pic, hope to see the real thing". i'm 17, not stupid so i know what they were talking about!
so my dad is bi sexual, obviously! but i don't know what to do! do i tell my mom or confront my dad?? my dad would get pissed that i looked through his stuff and that i am accusing him of this again! my dad is a jerk already, but i don't want him to hate me! i have 3 little brothers ages 7, 5 and 1, all i keep thinking about is how this will affect them if i say something. my youngest brother, we are in the process of adopting him, and i would be devastated if we couldn't adopt him, if they got a divorce. should i wait until September, when the adoption is complete to say something? my sister moved out of state, so i cant talk to her as easily, so she cant help me again.
my dad is always on my case about how i cant be trusted to do things, when he is the one with a secret like this! i have no idea what to do! i have been severely nauseous since last night. i don't want to possibly break up the family by saying something, i would rather this still all be a secret. i would feel so responsible for the divorce if i said something. i just don't know what to do. i am also shocked because we go to church every week, twice a week. my dad just got a position in the youth group...how is he going to teach the youth not to sin when he is committing one of the biggest sins??
i get sick every time i think about my brothers and my mom. i know i cant keep this in because it has been eating me alive and its only been 10 hours since i found out. i don't know what to do..i need help. what am i supposed to do? so much is riding on my family, a divorce would mess everything up. i would lose some of the most important things in my life. help me...please?
also, my dad took his ipod to work with him, as he does every day. so i cant really show my mom, without him around...
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unfortunately your mother may not understand how to deal with the situation so I wouldn't just put that shit in her face until I mapped out the pathways the situation may go. I might even seek somekind of domestic help program which Im sure you can find out more about in school.
for all i know your mother might have a huge shit fit and start killing fools or who knows maybe shes in on it. Sexually the situation is in her favor after all. he's not messing with other woman. I mean if my girl was getting it on with another hot mama in a responsible fashion i may want to try to jump on in instead of just breaking up or maybe id settle for watching.
life sucks.
i personally would talk it out with my dad 1 on 1 over some beers in a civil manner. i know im more mature than my mother, and most people so i'd handle it so that the situation could fall as safely as possible such as by making sure to get all the guns away from the home before spilling the beans to her as well as finding the right setting where the day wont be wasted.
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okay so i had sex for the first time about three weeks ago and like two days ago my vagina has been feeling weird. the guy i had sex with had sex with 5 other girls and now im questioning like if i have an std now or what? but wouldnt i be able to tell if i did have one? its not like it hurts its just really itchy and it feels tingy. my mom didnt change any of the detercant in the laundry so i know its not my underwear. and its just constantly bothering me its not like it stops and goes away. do i need to go to a doctor something? because i dont want to tell my mom because thats weird and dont you have to call a doctor and wait like forever to get in? and i dont have money and im sure you have to pay in order to have someone check you out right? i also think im getting my period probably next week and im wondering that its bothering me because of that? but it usually doesnt. does anyone have any suggestions or am i overreacting?
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sounds like the last thing you do is overreact to things, and your condition sounds like a yeast infection
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I just got out of a 6 month rehab place and i havent had sex in soooooooooo long. I need need need sex!
myspace.com/oliviamakesyascream212
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at least we know you're about to die now unless you get fucked - big whoop
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What Condom Is Best Useful, To Be Comfortable While Having Sex And Is The Safest With Preventing Pregancy? (link)
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none are comfortable really the main thing is just to remember to have a condom, properly preserved come the time it need be there.
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